{"product_id":"youre-not-a-failure-isbn-9781394251988","title":"You're Not a Failure","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eStay connected through the tween and teen years, feel less alone, and tackle today's toughest parenting issues\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDo you feel like you are the only one struggling while raising your teenager? Academic stress, mental health, tech usage, competitive athletics, self-esteem issues, adolescent apathy, disrespectful behavior—it's tough to be a teen these days, and just as tough to parent one. If you're in the thick of it with your adolescent—or if you're getting a jumpstart on this difficult time—this book can help you untangle the complex challenges and improve your relationship with your kids. In \u003ci\u003eYou're Not a Failure: My Teen Doesn't Like Me Either,\u003c\/i\u003e beloved parenting blogger Whitney Fleming empowers parents to shift their mindsets and approach their relationship with their teens with renewed optimism and understanding. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThere's no perfect guidebook for parenting tweens and teens because there is no one-size-fits-all approach that actually works when it comes to raising kids. Each parent-child dynamic is different, and each adolescent has a unique personality and challenges all their own. But mostly, raising adolescents means parents will learn about themselves—the good, the bad, and the ugly. With this book, you can flip the narrative about raising teenagers by taking control of your emotions and responses to create a loving, supportive relationship. This book will help you: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eUnpack and work through the complicated emotions, issues or traumas you may bring into the relationship with your big kids\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eStop trying to be a “good” parent—instead, become the parent your kid needs\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eLet go of fear and anxiety to help your kids take risks and build resilience\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eManage and rethink your approach to social media, smartphones, and other unprecedented parenting challenges\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eLearn how to break free from the common pitfalls that prevent many parents from helping their children thrive\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eChallenge yourself and your family values, and redefine what it means to be there for your child in every way\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eOverwhelmed parents of teens and tweens will find validation, encouragement, practical advice, and relatable humor in \u003ci\u003eYou're Not a Failure.\u003c\/i\u003e Discover that you're not alone in your struggles, and find a way forward, for you and your child. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntroduction 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 1 You Are Not a Failure if You Think Raising Teens Is Hard 7\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 2 Unpacking the Boxes We Carry with US 17\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 3 Middle School Is the Worst 33\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 4 I Want to Raise More Than Good-on-paper Kids 51\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 5 Whose Dream Is It? 65\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 6 Soft Parenting in a Hard World 77\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 7  Sometimes We Have to Let Them Try Stuff on 89\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 8 It’s Not Always About the Phone: Managing Tech in An Always-on World 101\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 9 Why Is High School So Hard? 119\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 10 When You Feel Like a Bad Mom 137\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 11 Managing the Emotional Roller Coaster of Raising Teenagers 155\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 12 The Hardest Part of Raising Teens Is Letting Go 183\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 13 How to Love a Teenager 193\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments 209\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the Author 211\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhitney Fleming\u003c\/b\u003e loves sharing stories that help people feel less alone. She co-owns the blog parentingteensandtweens.com and is the voice behind @WhitneyFlemingWrites, where she is known for her authentic and relatable posts about parenting, marriage, midlife, and grief. She is the proud mom to three teen daughters.   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003csmall\u003ePRAISE FOR\u003c\/small\u003e You’re \u003ci\u003eNOT\u003c\/i\u003e A Failure\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“While many parenting books counsel us on how we can get our teenagers to meet our expectations, Whitney Fleming asks us to take a different approach—to see our kids for who they were created to be, set down our expectations of who we think they need to become, and evolve alongside them as trusted, relatable guides on their path to independence.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—RACHEL MACY STAFFORD,\u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eHands Free Mama\u003c\/i\u003e and creator of Soul Shift \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Whitney Fleming is the non-judgmental but deeply wise friend we all need when we are raising pre-teens and teens. Not only has she been there, done that, but her writing is exquisitely relatable. Look no further, this is the only parenting book you need.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—HELENE WINGENS,\u003c\/b\u003e managing editor of \u003ci\u003eGrown and Flown\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“In \u003ci\u003eYou’re Not a Failure\u003c\/i\u003e, Whitney speaks directly to parents of teens and tweens. Through relatable stories and practical advice, she provides a clear path to improving your relationship with your kid. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, as we often do as parents, this book will help.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—JOSH SHIPP,\u003c\/b\u003e author of \u003ci\u003eThe Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans\u003c\/i\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePraise for \u003ci\u003eYou’re Not a Failure\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“\u003ci\u003eYou’re Not a Failure\u003c\/i\u003e sweeps the cobwebs of weariness from parents’ souls and reminds them that they are enough, and not alone. Each page is overflowing with Whitney’s heart-centered wisdom which we have come to know and love. This is a must read for parents of tweens and teens.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Michelle Mitchell,\u003c\/b\u003e parenting educator, tweens and teens specialist\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Thank God for Whitney Fleming and her practical advice on parenting teens. As someone raising three (almost four) of them right now, \u003ci\u003eYou’re Not a Failure\u003c\/i\u003e is just what I needed.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Jess Johnston\u003c\/b\u003e, national bestselling co-author of \u003ci\u003eHere For It (The Good, The Bad, and the Queso)\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“With raw honesty and well-earned insights, Fleming unpacks the rollercoaster ride of raising a teenager today. \u003ci\u003eYou’re Not A Failure\u003c\/i\u003e is the roadmap every parent needs by their side. After reading this book from start to finish, you’ll want to keep it handy to re-read chapters whenever you hit little bumps or giant potholes in the road.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Jessica Speer,\u003c\/b\u003e award-winning author of \u003ci\u003eBFF or NRF (Not Really Friends), Middle School—Safety Goggles Advised\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eThe Phone Book\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Whitney Fleming normalizes one of the most difficult times in a parent's journey. She shines a light into all the ugly and dark corners, allowing us to rid ourselves of the shame and frustration while at the same time helping us navigate it with wisdom and kindness. I am so grateful for this book and all of Whitney's work.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Asia Mape\u003c\/b\u003e, three-time Emmy award-winning journalist, the founder of Ilovetowatchyouplay, and the mother of three daughters\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“In a world where we're constantly bombarded with confusing and guilt-producing messages on how to parent our teenagers the ‘right way,’ Whitney's book is a breath of fresh air. \u003ci\u003eYou’re Not A Failure\u003c\/i\u003e is filled with honest stories and insightful wisdom that cuts through the noise and chaos, providing reassurance and clarity. With humor that lightens the load and practical steps at the end of each chapter, this book is a must-read for any mom feeling lost or overwhelmed. Whitney helps us focus on what truly matters the most—the relationship with our teens. This book is a beacon of hope and support that EVERY mom of a tween or teen needs to read.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Sheryl Gould\u003c\/b\u003e, parenting educator, author, founder of Moms of Tweens and Teens, and host of The Moms of Tweens and Teens Podcast\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“This book is a journey and an invitation through parenting the teenage years—through all the joys and missteps we’re bound to face along the way. Whitney Fleming becomes the friend you can count on, no matter what. She tells the brutal truth and offers helpful tools to both maintain our sanity and build relationship with our growing kids as they wander through these difficult and beautiful times.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Mikala Albertson\u003c\/b\u003e, MD, author of \u003ci\u003eEverything I Wish I Could Tell You About Midlife: A Woman’s Guide to Health in the Body You Actually Have\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“This book is full of golden nuggets that will really help you be the parent your teen needs as they cross the bumpy road to adulthood. It’s raw, real, and full of practical things that will make a positive difference in your home.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Maggie Dent, \u003c\/b\u003eparenting author, educator, and podcaster\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"Whitney Fleming’s writing is so relatable, poignant and real.  Readers will find tremendous comfort and strength in this wise book. If you are raising teens, you will want to read this right away.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Devorah Heitner, \u003c\/b\u003eauthor of \u003ci\u003eGrowing Up in Public\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eScreenwise\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Jossey-Bass","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47990513926373,"sku":"NP9781394251988","price":22.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781394251988.jpg?v=1761788132","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/youre-not-a-failure-isbn-9781394251988","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}