{"product_id":"when-parents-hurt-compassionate-strategies-when-you-and-your-grown-child-dont-get-along-isbn-9780061148439","title":"When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along","description":"\u003cp\u003eThis unique book provides compassionate strategies to help parents work through the pain, shame, and sense of loss that they feel when dealing with family conflict or when their relationship with their older or adult children has not turned out as they hoped or expected.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSometimes, despite our best efforts, we lose the opportunity to be the parent we desperately want to be and must mourn the loss of a harmonious relationship with an estranged adult child. Although this situation may seem hopeless, \u003ci\u003eWhen Parents Hurt\u003c\/i\u003e is a parenting guide designed to help us through this intensely difficult situation with compassion and thoughtfulness.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThrough healing exercises and case examples, Dr. Joshua Coleman helps parents:\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReduce anger, guilt, and shame\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLearn how temperament, the teen years, a partner’s or their own mistakes, and divorce can harm the parent-child bond\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCome to terms with their imperfections, as well as their child’s\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDevelop strategies for reaching out and for maintaining their self-esteem through trying times\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstand how society’s expectations contribute to the risk of parental wounds\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eBy helping parents recognize what they can do—and to let go of what they cannot control—\u003ci\u003eWhen Parents Hurt\u003c\/i\u003e offers a clear path toward healing for parents and helps families develop more positive ways of relating to themselves and each other.\u003c\/p\u003e | \u003cp\u003eIn \u003cem\u003eWhen Parents Hurt\u003c\/em\u003e, psychologist and parent Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., offers insight, empathy, and perspective to those who have lost the opportunity to be the parent they desperately wanted to be and who are mourning the loss of a harmonious relationship with their child. Through case examples and healing exercises, Dr. Coleman helps parents: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReduce anger, guilt, and shame \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLearn how temperament, the teen years, their own or a partner's mistakes, and divorce can strain the parent-child bond \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCome to terms with their own and their child's imperfections \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDevelop strategies for rebuilding the relationship or move toward acceptance of what can't be changed \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eBy helping parents recognize what they can do and let go of what they cannot, Dr. Coleman helps families develop more positive ways of healing themselves and relating to each other. \u003c\/p\u003e | \u003cp\u003e“Exceptionally perceptive.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eStephanie Coontz, author of Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage and The Way We Never Were\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A superb treatment for parents wounded emotionally or psychologically by their children. . .an accessible, hopeful exploration. . .a unique and groundbreaking approach. . .an eye-opening read for anyone.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e--Library Journal (starred review)\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A superb treatment . . . a unique and groundbreaking approach . . . an eye-opening read for anyone.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eLibrary Journal (starred review)\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Coleman’s focus is on helping the parent cope and carry on . . . an engaging read despite the serious subject matter.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“[D]esperately needed . . . a truly great book for parents, and a great book for therapists who work with families.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eHeather Folsom, MD, adult and child psychiatrist and author\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“This is an incredibly insightful and sensitively written analysis of a difficult subject. . . . I have recommended it to many of my clients . . . I highly recommend it to all parents who hurt.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eJan Levine, PhD, coauthor of Why Do Fools Fall in Love?\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“I LOVE this book. [It] is written from such a realistic and compassionate perspective that it is heart-warming.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eHara Estroff Marano, editor-at-large at Psychology Today and author of A Nation of Wimps\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“An important book that can help parents heal.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eBaltimore Sun\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Joshua Coleman’s book is a gift, offering extraordinary wisdom coupled with practical advice.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eSteven Mintz, Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences and author of Huck's Raft: A History of American Childhood\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A wise and helpful book.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eFrederic Luskin, PhD, Director, Stanford Forgiveness Projects and author of Forgive for Good\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“An especially healing, practical resource . . . for anyone exhausted by strained, hurtful relationships with their adolescent or grown child.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eDr. Linda Nielsen, Professor of Adolescent Psychology \u0026amp; Women's Studies, Wake Forest University and author of Embracing Your Father: Building the Relationship You Always Wanted With Your Dad\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"William Morrow Paperbacks","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44887751721189,"sku":"NP9780061148439","price":18.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780061148439.jpg?v=1730227390","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/when-parents-hurt-compassionate-strategies-when-you-and-your-grown-child-dont-get-along-isbn-9780061148439","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}