{"product_id":"what-must-be-carried-isbn-9781394311996","title":"What Must Be Carried","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eA guide to start living again for those who have lost a loved one, written by a mother and widow\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eWhat Must Be Carried: Living a Beautiful Life Beyond\u003c\/i\u003e Loss is an empathetic guidebook that walks readers through the grieving process, giving them the tools they need to carry the pain of their loss and start truly living again. With relatable personal narratives from Whitney Lyn Allen Gadecki, mother of two boys, Jackson and Leo, certified grief educator and coach, and a widow whose life has been forever altered by the loss of her husband, as well as actionable advice for those grieving, this book is a perfect, steady companion for anyone impacted by a devastating loss.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThis book explores ideas including:\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eThe emotional range of processing grief, from numbness, to agony and rage, to cascading waterfalls of tears and beyond\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003ePatience, experimentation, time, curiosity, and practice as difficult but essential foundations of living with and healing from grief\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eHow to discover contentment, peace, love, and beauty anew, even when it often feels like life is all downhill from here\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eGrief's hidden gifts of helping you live more authentically, ambitiously, purposefully, and fearlessly despite its heavy burden\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eWhat Must Be Carried: Living a Beautiful Life Beyond Loss\u003c\/i\u003e is an important, helpful, and cathartic read for widows and all those who have lost someone precious to them seeking to once again shine brightly in the face of darkness.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLetter to the Reader xi \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIntroduction xix \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 1 The Weight I Carry 1 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 2 He’s Not Coming Home 9 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 3 Don’t Let Them Steal Your Joy 31 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 4 When the Grief Lasagnas Stop Coming 55 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 5 The Unraveling 75 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 6 The Art of Practicing Living Before You Feel Alive 87 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 7 The Scarlet “W” 97 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 8 A Love That Feels Like Coming Home 109 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 9 It’s Not About a Refrigerator 131 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 10 Wings to Fly 141 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 11 I Carry It All with Me 155 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAfterword 169 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments 173 \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the Author 175\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWHITNEY LYN ALLEN GADECKI\u003c\/b\u003e is a mother of two boys, a certified grief educator, and an attorney. She was a medical malpractice attorney for 10 years before her late husband, Ryan, suffered anaphylactic shock from a bee sting, resulting in his death. Whitney wrote about her grieving journey in her memoir \u003ci\u003eRunning in Trauma Stilettos\u003c\/i\u003e. She is currently a full-time grief coach.   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eYOU CAN FIND YOUR WAY TO A NEW AND BEAUTIFUL LIFE AFTER GRIEF\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen Whitney Lyn Allen Gadecki abruptly lost her husband at the age of thirty-five, she was left alone with a newborn and toddler to care for. She had no choice but to pick up the pieces of her shattered life and bravely carry on. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eWhat Must Be Carried\u003c\/i\u003e, Whitney shares stories of her own grieving journey and how to help others move forward after a devastating loss. With her empathetic guidance, readers can manage complicated emotions, find self-comfort, navigate love after loss, and embrace new joys. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book is a supportive companion to all those impacted by grief, as we learn to carry the pain of loss and start truly living again. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Without shying away from the deep and heavy truth of what it takes to endure profound loss, Allen offers personal wisdom that helps us feel seen and inspires us to both follow and eventually become the light of hope that grievers need to survive.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—MEGHAN RIORDAN JARVIS, MA, LICSW,\u003c\/b\u003e author of \u003ci\u003eCan Anyone Tell Me: Essential Questions About Grief and Loss\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Whitney Allen brings us a raw, but sensitive, gentle, but fierce look at the messy journey of moving forward after significant loss, and the hidden gifts that lie therein. This beautiful book is for anyone going through the confusing, unpredictable experience of grief after loss, and looking for tender ways to begin carrying it forward.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—GINA MOFFA, LCSW,\u003c\/b\u003e grief and trauma therapist and author of \u003ci\u003eMoving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss\u003c\/i\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePraise for \u003ci\u003eWhat Must Be Carried\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“This beautiful gift of a book is perfect for those looking to rebuild after life's darkest days. Without shying away from the deep and heavy truth of what it takes to endure profound loss, Allen offers personal wisdom that helps us feel seen and inspires us to both follow and eventually become the light of hope that grievers need to survive.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Meghan Riordan Jarvis\u003c\/b\u003e, MA, LICSW, author of \u003ci\u003eCan Anyone Tell Me: Essential Questions About Grief and Loss\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Drawing on her own harrowing experience with losing her husband, and the path towards working with widows, Whitney Allen brings us a raw, but sensitive, gentle, but fierce look at the messy journey of moving forward after significant loss, and the hidden gifts that lie therein. This beautiful book is for anyone going through the confusing, unpredictable experience of grief after loss, and looking for tender ways to begin carrying it forward. Hint: you don't have to carry it alone.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Gina Moffa, LCSW\u003c\/b\u003e, grief and trauma therapist and author of \u003ci\u003eMoving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Whitney gives an honest reflection on grief that empowers readers to move forward, discovering that even in the darkest moments, joy and authenticity are within reach.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—David Ferrugio\u003c\/b\u003e, creator of DEAD Talks Podcast\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Whitney’s \u003ci\u003eWhat Must Be Carried\u003c\/i\u003e offers a powerful reminder that healing isn’t about returning to what once was, but rather creating space in our hearts for what is. Her writing beautifully encourages us to unapologetically embrace every emotion, allowing us to honor our grief while simultaneously seeking peace and joy. As a fellow young widow, I feel truly blessed by her wisdom in this guide. Whitney instills hope, reminding us that the power to heal lies within, and that What Must Be Carried won’t always feel this heavy. She is a true gift to anyone walking the path of profound loss.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Krystina Dinardo\u003c\/b\u003e, widow, mother of three, and digital content creator\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Despite being written while in hell, Whitney’s words offer a soft balm for all human hearts. She paints a realistic portrait of loss and grief- one of despair but also hope.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Stacey Heale\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \u003ci\u003eNow is Not the Time for Flowers\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“As a fellow young widow, Whitney truly does an amazing job articulating what life after loss looks like. Her ability to tackle the raw and messy parts of grief without sugar-coating it is undoubtedly valuable. By offering practical and tangible ways to navigate through dark times, she provides a sense of hope and empowerment, allowing the reader to find their own path to healing. In this book, Whitney's passion for helping others is palpable, while offering gentle guidance that supports you on your own journey.”\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Kellie Bullard-Kelley,\u003c\/b\u003e author of \u003ci\u003eBehind My Smile\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Jossey-Bass","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47990481387749,"sku":"NP9781394311996","price":25.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781394311996.jpg?v=1761788000","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/what-must-be-carried-isbn-9781394311996","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}