{"product_id":"toxic-relationships-and-how-to-change-them-isbn-9780470433690","title":"Toxic Relationships and How to Change Them","description":"In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Clinton McLemore— a leading expert on interpersonal relationships— gives you a powerful roadmap for promoting healthy and productive relationships. \u003ci\u003eToxic Relationships\u003c\/i\u003e draws extensively from psychological research and Christian theology and is filled with practical strategies you can use to create better communication at home and at work. You will learn how to increase appreciation, tenderness, respect, comfort, and understanding in all of your relationships by recognizing the eight basic \"default styles\" that most of us use to respond to others. By using biblical examples, Dr. McLemore shows how we can change our own destructive behavior and influence the behavior of others by understanding these eight toxic strategies:  \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eControlling\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eDrifting\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eIntruding\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eFreeloading\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eHumiliating\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eScurrying\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eVictimizing\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eAvoiding\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eCreate loving and healthy relationships using these proven methods for transforming toxic interactions with others.\u003c\/p\u003e  List of Illustrations.  \u003cp\u003eForeword by Les Parrott, Ph.D.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMatters of the Heart.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIntroduction.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART ONE:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003eRelationships as God Intends.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1. The Spiritual Significance of Everyday Life: A Brief Theology of Relationships.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2. Foundations of Health and Holiness.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART TWO:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003eHow People Train Each Other.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3. Making Sense of Everyday Behavior.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4. Modes and Styles of Ordinary Interaction.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5. The Hidden Rules of Human Relationships.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6. Overview of Interpersonal Toxicity.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART THREE:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003eEight Ways of Disappointing the Father.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e7. Controlling: Bossing and Ordering.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"Beware the leaven of the Pharisees\" (Matthew 16:5).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e8. Drifting: Obeying and Conforming.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"Solomon, whose heart had strayed, turned toward other gods\"(1 Kings 11:4).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e9. Intruding: Crowding and Smothering.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"God was harsh with Job’s advisors, whose advice had been false\" (Job 42:7).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e10. Freeloading: Clinging and Depleting.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"Those who will not work shall not eat\" (2 Thessalonians 3:10).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e11. Humiliating: Demeaning and Belittling.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"When Hagar became pregnant, she despised her mistress Sarai\" (Genesis 16:4).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e12. Scurrying: Whining and Appeasing.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"'Woman,' anxiously protested Peter, 'I do not know the man'\" (Luke 22:57).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e13. Victimizing: Injuring and Exploiting.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"His brothers spotted Joseph a long way off and conspired to kill him\" (Genesis 37:18).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e14. Avoiding: Withdrawing and Rebelling.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e\"But instead of going to confront Nineveh, Jonah decided to run away\"(Jonah 1:3).\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART FOUR:\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003eToward Relational Health and Holiness.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e15. Three Myths About Behavior Change.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e16. Getting Out of Your Own Way.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e17. Some Final Thoughts on Changing Others.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSources and Recommended Reading.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Author.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cb\u003eDr. Clinton W. McLemore\u003c\/b\u003e was on the full-time psychology faculty of Fuller Seminary, has consulted for over twenty-five Fortune 500 companies, and has written five previous books including \u003ci\u003eClergyman's Psychological Handbook \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eStreet-Smart Ethics: Succeeding in Business without Selling Your Soul.\u003c\/i\u003e In 1983, he also founded the prestigious \u003ci\u003eClinician's Research Digest\u003c\/i\u003e, now owned and operated by the American Psychological Association. Dr. McLemore is frequently interviewed in the media and is a celebrated speaker.  Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship that seemed to be going nowhere? Wished you could get closer to your children? Or wondered why some people push your buttons? We often don't realize that we influence and unconsciously dictate how others respond to us. But, if we understand the basic drivers behind human interactions— the need to increase intimacy and the need to reduce anxiety — we can unlock the secrets of our relationships with family members, spouses, children, or coworkers. \u003cbr\u003e In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Clinton McLemore — a leading expert on interpersonal relationships — gives you a powerful roadmap for promoting healthy and productive relationships. \u003ci\u003eToxic Relationships\u003c\/i\u003e draws extensively from psychological research and Christian theology and is filled with practical strategies you can use to create better communication at home and at work. You will learn how to increase appreciation, tenderness, respect, comfort, and understanding in all of your relationships by recognizing the eight basic \"default styles\" that most of us use to respond to others. 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