{"product_id":"the-good-son-isbn-9781585420490","title":"The Good Son","description":"Selected by \u003cb\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/b\u003e as one of the Best Books of 1999, The Good Son is the definitive guide to the moral and emotional development of our boys and young men. Within its pages, Michael Gurian widely credited as the founder of today's \"boys movement\" takes readers through a complete parenting program, showing how to instill virtues in boys at each stage of life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor parents and teachers who fear that our child-rearing systems have lost much of their ethical underpinnings and that our boys are becoming emotionally closed-off, \u003cb\u003eThe Good Son\u003c\/b\u003e serves as a welcome guidepost. It is one of today's premier books on parenting and male development.\u003cb\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Declining Moral Health of Our Sons\u003cbr\u003eTwo of Life's Most Important Words\u003cbr\u003eThe Good Son Parenting Plan\u003cbr\u003eA Crucial Duty\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart One: The Challenge of Providing Discipline and Moral Development to Boys\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eOne: What Does It Mean to Have a Son?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe \"Male Question\"\u003cbr\u003eMerilee's Courage\u003cbr\u003eMorality Is Somewhat Different for Boys:\u003cbr\u003eAggression and the Brain; Testosterone; Hormones and Stress; External Behavior and the Male Brain; Brain Flexibility; The Brain at Rest; Impulse Control; Mental Disease\u003cbr\u003eInside the Male Mind: The Search for Inherent Worth and Value\u003cbr\u003eBoys Depend on Moral Training\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eTwo: Are We Protecting Our Sons from Moral Harm?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Nowhere Men\u003cbr\u003eMark: What Are the Ten Commandments?\u003cbr\u003eJonathan and His Friends: Strain on the Mother-Son Bond\u003cbr\u003eGrant, Les, and Tommy: The Tragic Loss of the Father\u003cbr\u003eBrandon: The Gradual Loss of the Extended Family\u003cbr\u003eWhen the Media Poisons Our Boys\u003cbr\u003eThe Mechanization of Boyhood\u003cbr\u003eThe Moral Nature of Boys\u003cbr\u003eGood Son Parenting Principles\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart Two: Nurturing the Early Years of a Boy's Development: The Age of Obedience (Birth to Six Years Old)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThree: Infancy: Nurturing Boys from Birth to Eighteen Months\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYour Son's First Developmental Episode: An Overview:\u003cbr\u003eHe Is a Spiritual Embryo; His Biggest Task; He Learns by Imitation; He Is a Literal Thinker; He Is Delicate and Fragile; He Sees Everyone as a Potential Nurturer; The Age of Obedience\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Intellectual Growth; His Individual Temperament; His Necessary Narcissism; His Angels on Each Shoulder: Synchrony and Remedy; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eThe Beginnings of Discipline; Creating Discipline in Your Verbal Interactions; The Role of Adult Anger; Using Appropriate Physical Discipline; Using Bedtime as Self-Discipline Development\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eChild Care; The Role of the Active Father; Adoption; Extra Attention the Boy Needs; Nutritional Issues; Media Use; The Rituals of Life; The Role of Godmothers and Godfathers\u003cbr\u003eEmmit's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eFour: The Toddler Years: Nurturing Boys of Eighteen Months to Four Years\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Basic Psychological Development; His Intellectual Growth; His Hunger to Explore; His Hidden Biology; Attention as Discipline; His Toddler Search for Independence; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques: \u003cbr\u003eCreating a Family Discipline System; Creating Discipline in Your Verbal Interactions; Using a \"Time-Out\" and Loss of Privileges; Showing Him How to Do the Right Thing; Raising Your Voice; Dealing with Repeated Offenses; Spanking; Using Bedtime as Self-Discipline Development; Toilet Training\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eLetting Toddlers Experiment; Helping Toddlers Make Good Choices; Finding the Spiritual in Everyday Life\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eChanges in the Caregiving System; The Importance of Motor Activity; Media Use\u003cbr\u003eTerrence's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eFive: The Boy Emerges: Nurturing Boys of Five and Six\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Intellectual Growth; His New Sense of Gender Identity; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eProviding Adequate Love and Attention; Providing Natural Consequences; Providing Natural Rewards; Creating Discipline in Your Verbal Interactions; Limiting Whining and Backtalk; Providing Behavioral Limits; Giving Permission; Teaching Appropriate Response Time\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eBuilding Spiritual Life; Modeling Adult Responsibility; Teaching Delayed Gratification; Teaching Good Manners; Pick Your Battles; The Question of Lying; The Question of Stealing; Helping Him Channel Aggression\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eBeing Wise Parents and Authorities; Preparing for School; Chores and Allowance; Discarding Cultural Stereotypes; Media Use; The Rituals of Life\u003cbr\u003ePhilip's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart Three: Nurturing the Middle Years of a Boy's Development: The Age of Convention (Seven to Twelve Years Old)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSix: The Between Years: Nurturing Boys of Seven and Eight\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYour Son's Second Developmental Episode: An Overview:\u003cbr\u003eHis Intellectual Development; His Emotional Development; His Biggest Task; He Is in the Age of Convention\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Intellectual Development; His Emotional Development; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eBeing a Strong Authority; Creating Discipline in Your Verbal Interactions; Handling Sibling Rivalry; Praise and Criticism\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eBuilding Spiritual Life; Teaching Good Manners; Beginning a Service Activity as a Family; The Question of Lying; Helping Him Channel Aggression\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eThe Family Environment; The School Environment; Chores and Allowance; Media Use; The Rituals of Life\u003cbr\u003eEvan's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSeven: Pre-Adolescence: Nurturing Boys of Nine and Ten\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Leap in Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eProviding Reasonable Consequences; Creating Discipline in Your Verbal Interactions; Dealing with Backtalk; Disciplining the Hard-to-Handle Boy; Attention Defecit Hyperactive Disorder\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eMoral Training in Supervised Groups; Sports and Athletics; What to Do If Your Son Is Being Bullied; When Your Son Is the Bully; Sexual Morality; Teaching the Art of Thoughtfulness; Expanding the Moral Dialogue at Home\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eSpiritual Development; Honor Obedience; Chores and Allowance; Don't Leave Him Home Alone; Don't Overdo Privacy; Protect Your Precious Moments; When Parents Divorce; Media Use; The Rituals of Life: The First Rite of Passage\u003cbr\u003eLester's Hope: Do Each of Your Actions as a Gift to Some Living Thing\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eEight: Pre-Puberty: Nurturing Boys of Eleven and Twelve\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Brain Development; His Verbal Development; He Still Learns by Imitation; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eStopping Rudeness; Grounding the Boy\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eSexual Morality; Teaching Honesty and Loyalty; Teaching Toughness and Tenderness; Guiding the Boy's Moral and Spiritual Quest; Teaching Proper Consumption\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eHandling Peer Pressure; Be Very Involved in the Boy's Life; Changing Roles of Family Members; Supporting Single Mothers; Supporting Single Fathers; Increase Honor Activities in Schools; Media Use\u003cbr\u003eJamal's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart Four: Nurturing the Teenage Years of a Boy's Development: The Age of Moral Intuition (Thirteen to Eighteen Years Old, and Beyond)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eNine: Puberty: Nurturing Boys of Thirteen and Fourteen\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYour Son's Third Developmental Episode: An Overview:\u003cbr\u003eHis Biggest Task; His Thinking Is Not Always Consistent; He Is in Some Real Emotional Turmoil; He Is Developing in the Age of Moral Intuition\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Encounter with Puberty; His Emotional Development; His Moral Development; Risky Behavior During Puberty; Separation from Parents\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eApplying Curfews; Holding to Core Rules; Providing a Balance of Freedom and Responsibility; Providing More Than One Disciplinarian\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eWhere to Draw the Moral Lines; The Temptations of Drugs and Alcohol; Handling One Common Problem: Cigarette Use; Handling Shoplifting and Stealing; Building Spiritual Life; Sexual Morality; Helping Guide His Emotional Impulses\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eFamily and Community Life; A Best Friend; Mentors and Role Models; The Need for Respect; Homosexuality; Media Use; The Rituals of Life: The Second Rite of Passage\u003cbr\u003eA Doctor's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eTen: The Middle Teens: Nurturing Boys of Fifteen and Sixteen\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Individuation; His Intellectual Development; His Emotional Development; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eProviding Rules and Consequences; Creating Discipline in Your Verbal Interactions; Practicing Creative Discipline; Practicing Immediate Accountability; Holding Appropriate Expectations of Young Men\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eHolding High Moral Expectations; Using Stories, Moral Puzzles, and Moral Debates; Sexual Morality and Romance; Handling a Son Who Has a Drinking Problem; Challenging Teen Drug Use\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eTrustable, Adaptable Parenting; Work and the Workplace; The School; Media Use; The Rituals of Life: The Third Rite of Passage\u003cbr\u003eCameron's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eEleven: Pre-Adulthood: Nurturing Young Men of Seventeen, Eighteen, and Beyond\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDevelopmental Milestones:\u003cbr\u003eHis Intellectual Development; His Emotional Development; His Moral Development\u003cbr\u003eDiscipline Techniques:\u003cbr\u003eProviding Discipline for the \"One Bad Act\"\u003cbr\u003eMoral Teaching:\u003cbr\u003eEncouraging Moral and Spiritual Education through Travel; Encouraging Service Activities; Teaching the Art of Relationship; Handling Money and Work; Having Faith in Our Sons\u003cbr\u003eA Healthy Moral and Emotional Environment:\u003cbr\u003eSupervision; Responsibilities; The Mentor; Adult-Adult Conversation; Media Use; The Rituals of Life: The Fourth Rite of Passage\u003cbr\u003eMarcel's Story\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEpilogue\u003cbr\u003eAppendix I: Fifty Books and Movies That Stimulate Moral Growth in Boys\u003cbr\u003eAppendix II: Additional Resources\u003cbr\u003eNotes\u003cbr\u003eIndex\u003cbr\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/p\u003e\"Gurian (\u003ci\u003eA Fine Young Man\u003c\/i\u003e), one of today's premier writers on the subject of male development, moves beyond the realm of sociological and psychological analysis to provide a timely and practical parenting guide. Lays out a well-organized blueprint for ushering boys into manhood.... Outstanding.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e(starred review)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"One of the most provocative new books.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eUSA Today\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e“A well-planned program whose nonsectarian, non-preachy approach makes it an appropriate guide for all parents concerned about the moral development of their sons.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Kirkus Reviews\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\"Gurian is becoming the boys' Dr. Spock.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eMilwaukee Journal Sentinel\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eMichael Gurian\u003c\/b\u003e is a psychotherapist and bestselling author whose books include \u003cb\u003eThe Wonder of Boys\u003c\/b\u003e and \u003cb\u003eThe Good Son\u003c\/b\u003e. His work reflects the diverse cultures (European, Asian, Middle Eastern, and American) in which he lived, worked, and studied. He has taught psychology, religion, mythology, and literature at three American universities and at Ankara University in Turkey. He lives with his wife and two children in Spokane, Washington.","brand":"Tarcher","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46304952910053,"sku":"NP9781585420490","price":24.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781585420490.jpg?v=1767739597","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/the-good-son-isbn-9781585420490","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}