{"product_id":"the-conflict-paradox-isbn-9781118852910","title":"The Conflict Paradox","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eFind the roadmap to the heart of the conflict\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e is a guide to taking conflict to a more productive place. Written by one of the founders of the professional conflict management field and co-published with the American Bar Association, this book outlines seven major dilemmas that conflict practitioners face every day. Readers will find expert guidance toward getting to the heart of the conflict and will be  challenged to adopt a new way to think about the choices disputants face,.  They will also be offered practical tools and techniques for more successful intervention. Using stories, experiences, and reflective exercises to bring these concepts to life, the author provides actionable advice for overcoming roadblocks to effective conflict work.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDisputants and interveners alike are often stymied by what appear to be unacceptable alternatives,. \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox \u003c\/i\u003eoffers a new way of understanding and working with these so that they become not obstacles but opportunities for helping people move through conflict successfully..\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eExamine the contradictions at the center of almost all conflicts\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eLearn how to bring competition and cooperation, avoidance and engagement,  optimism and realism together to make for more power conflict intervention\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eDeal effectively with the tensions between emotions, and logic, principles and compromise, neutrality and advocacy, community and autonomy   \u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eDiscover the tools and techniques that make conflicts less of a hurdle to overcome and more of an opportunity to pursue\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eConflict is everywhere, and conflict intervention skills are valuable far beyond the professional and legal realms. With insight and creativity, solutions are almost always possible. For conflict interveners and disputants looking for an effective and creative approach to understanding and working with conflict , \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox \u003c\/i\u003e provides a powerful and important roadmap for conflict intervention.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePreface ix\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments xv\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 The Art of Conflict 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Competition and Cooperation 25\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Optimism and Realism 61\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Avoidance and Engagement 95\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Principle and Compromise 131\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 Emotions and Logic 167\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e7 Neutrality and Advocacy 201\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e8 Community and Autonomy 237\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e9 The Conflict Dialectic: Better Paradoxes, Better Conflict 267\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eReferences 295\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 307\u003c\/p\u003e \"In his new book, \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes\u003c\/i\u003e (2015, Jossey-Bass), Bernie Mayer explores the mystery of this complexity in the context of conflict engagement. It is an enjoyable and fascinating read for everyone involved in negotiation, mediation or any form of conflict engagement.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eKari Boyle\u003c\/b\u003e, \u003ci\u003eSlaw\u003c\/i\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eBERNARD MAYER, P\u003csmall\u003eH\u003c\/small\u003eD,\u003c\/b\u003e is an internationally recognized leader in the field of conflict intervention. He is Professor of Dispute Resolution at The Werner Institute at Creighton University and was a founding partner of CDR Associates, an internationally acclaimed conflict intervention and training firm. His background spans family mediation, public and private sector consultation, environmental decision making, organizational conflict, and international mediation. His previous books include \u003ci\u003eBeyond Neutrality, Staying with Conflict\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eThe Dynamics of Conflict.\u003c\/i\u003e   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen in conflict should we cooperate and when should we compete? When should we be realists and when should we be guided by optimism? Do we insist on sticking to our principles or do we prepare for compromise? The toughest challenges in conflict arise from the polarized ways in which we view our choices about how to approach a dispute, choices that seem to involve two mutually exclusive paths, neither of which will get us to where we want to go. In \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e, Bernie Mayer argues that the real challenge is to find a new path that incorporates both approaches. These apparently opposing conflict practices need not be mutually exclusive—in fact, each is necessary to the other.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e poses seven dilemmas that permeate our thinking about conflict, whether a family crisis, a corporate dispute, or a geopolitical negotiation. Disputants often understand their choices as mutually exclusive and ask themselves the following:\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eCompetition or cooperation?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eOptimism or realism?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eAvoidance or engagement?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003ePrinciple or compromise?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eEmotion or logic?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eNeutrality or advocacy?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eAutonomy or community?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe more fundamental challenge is to evolve beyond these polarities, which are not true choices but essential dynamics of human interaction. Without competition, there can be no cooperation. Without autonomy, there would be no community. When third-party mediators, legal professionals, and advocates can help their clients to understand and embrace these paradoxes, deeper understanding of their conflict and a clearer vision of a path forward becomes possible.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThis book, published in cooperation with the American Bar Association, provides a practical approach for dealing with the paradoxes that underlie almost all conflicts. Case studies, reflective exercises, and other tools enable readers to discover points of contact between seemingly incompatible paths through conflict. \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e is an accessible text, ready for application in the dispute resolution field. Readers will learn to accommodate contradictions, welcome complexity, and become more fluent in the paradoxical language of change. This book will challenge how you think about both conflict and social change, and encourage you to look at the dynamics of disputing in a new way.\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003eWhen in conflict should we cooperate and when should we compete? When should we be realists and when should we be guided by optimism? Do we insist on sticking to our principles or do we prepare for compromise? The toughest challenges in conflict arise from the polarized ways in which we view our choices about how to approach a dispute, choices that seem to involve two mutually exclusive paths, neither of which will get us to where we want to go. In \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e, Bernie Mayer argues that the real challenge is to find a new path that incorporates both approaches. These apparently opposing conflict practices need not be mutually exclusive—in fact, each is necessary to the other. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e poses seven dilemmas that permeate our thinking about conflict, whether a family crisis, a corporate dispute, or a geopolitical negotiation. Disputants often understand their choices as mutually exclusive and ask themselves the following: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eCompetition or cooperation?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eOptimism or realism?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eAvoidance or engagement?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003ePrinciple or compromise?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eEmotion or logic?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eNeutrality or advocacy?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003e\u003cb\u003eAutonomy or community?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe more fundamental challenge is to evolve beyond these polarities, which are not true choices but essential dynamics of human interaction. Without competition, there can be no cooperation. Without autonomy, there would be no community. When third-party mediators, legal professionals, and advocates can help their clients to understand and embrace these paradoxes, deeper understanding of their conflict and a clearer vision of a path forward becomes possible. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book, published in cooperation with the American Bar Association, provides a practical approach for dealing with the paradoxes that underlie almost all conflicts. Case studies, reflective exercises, and other tools enable readers to discover points of contact between seemingly incompatible paths through conflict. \u003ci\u003eThe Conflict Paradox\u003c\/i\u003e is an accessible text, ready for application in the dispute resolution field. Readers will learn to accommodate contradictions, welcome complexity, and become more fluent in the paradoxical language of change. This book will challenge how you think about both conflict and social change, and encourage you to look at the dynamics of disputing in a new way.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Jossey-Bass","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47990194340069,"sku":"NP9781118852910","price":58.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781118852910.jpg?v=1761786866","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/the-conflict-paradox-isbn-9781118852910","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}