{"product_id":"reptiles-in-love-isbn-9781118436202","title":"Reptiles in Love","description":"\u003cp\u003eNagging, snide comments, passive-aggressive tendencies, running away, childish insults; sometimes even the most loving couples can revert to their primitive nature. Don Ferguson, a psychologist and relationship therapist, has discovered that no matter how evolved we think we are, our reptilian brain is still primed for instantaneous reactions and fight-or-flight. This syndrome can rule relationships and in the end destroy them. Through the latest neurological research, Ferguson has discovered how to manage our primitive reactions with thoughtful, 'new brain' interventions. Written in a highly entertaining and readable way, \u003ci\u003eReptiles in Love\u003c\/i\u003e has an answer for helping couples to stop attacking each other and transform their dysfunctional, prehistoric relationship into a more evolved and loving partnership.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePreface: Be Like Elvis! But Less Dead vii\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIntroduction 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart I: Understanding the Reptile in Us\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1. The Dinosaur Legacy: Why We Fight Poorly 13\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2. Lizard Madness: Understanding Methods and Cycles in Stupid Fighting 35\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart II: Five Steps to Ending Destructive Fights and Evolving Toward More Loving Relationships\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3. Step One: Assess Your Relationship 61\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4. Step Two: Learn to Communicate in a Nonreptilian Manner 89\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5. Step Three: Clarify Your Needs and Fears Together 109\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6. Step Four: Add Positives and Build Intimacy 129\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e7. Step Five: Learn Nonreptilian Lovemaking 147\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart III: Special Issues for Evolving Reptiles\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e8. Once Bitten . . . : Surviving Betrayal 169\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e9. Reptiles in Therapy: An Introduction to Couples Therapy 193\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e10. Pure Divorce: If You Must, End and Leave Fully Human 209\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAfterword: A Few Words in Closing 223\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNotes 225\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eResources 235\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the Author 247\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 249\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cb\u003eDon Ferguson Ph.D.\u003c\/b\u003e has been a leading teacher, trainer, and practitioner in the field of relationships and couples therapy for more than 20 years. He has presented hundreds of seminars and trainings to organizations and groups of psychiatrists, psychologists, and psychotherapists, and specifically has developed the \u003ci\u003eReptiles in Love\u003c\/i\u003e program to the point where it is well researched, presented and taught frequently to professionals, and applied successfully by many couples who have benefited from it over the years. (See his websites: www.reptilesinlove.com, and www.donfergusonseminars.com. Presently staff Psychologist, he was formerly the Clinical Director for Psychiatry at Dean Health System, a major health care provider in Madison, Wisconsin.  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePraise for \u003ci\u003eReptiles in Love\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"This book offers a refreshingly original look at the way couples operate and at what can go wrong. Dr. Ferguson has combined his clinical wisdom, his extensive experience helping couples, and his thorough understanding of current research to create a book that is both informed and user-friendly. Packed with practical guidance and numerous case examples and written in a lively, humorous style, this book is a delight to read and is sure to help both couples in distress and those seeking to strengthen their relationships.\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003eDenise Beckfield\u003c\/b\u003e, clinical psychologist and author, \u003ci\u003eMaster Your Panic\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eTake Back Your Life\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Another relationship book? Yes, and \u003ci\u003eReptiles in Love\u003c\/i\u003e is different. It's not only fun and easy to read, but it comes at the issue from an entirely new angle, using the newest brain science to help you recognize and change those perplexing repetitive problems in your relationship. Read it before your relationship goes extinct.\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003eBill O'Hanlon\u003c\/b\u003e, marriage and family therapist and author, \u003ci\u003eLove Is a Verb\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eRewriting Love Stories\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Written in a warm, humorous, and very engaging way, this book offers wisdom, reassurance, and sensible advice, along with practical exercises and suggestions. Couples who want a more satisfying and lively relationship will benefit from reading and implementing Dr. Ferguson's recommendations.\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003eMark A. Karpel\u003c\/b\u003e, author, \u003ci\u003eEvaluating Couples: A Handbook for Practitioners\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Don Ferguson has done an amazing piece of work in integrating an enormous body of professional knowledge on what makes marriages tick and how couples can help themselves when they're having trouble. And he's done all this in the most engaging, reader-friendly style I've come across in years.\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003eAlan S. Gurman\u003c\/b\u003e, professor and director of family therapy training, Department of Psychiatry, University of Wisconsin Medical School\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"This refreshing book offers new insights for couples that will help them 'fight for their marriage.'\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003eDr. Howard J. Markman\u003c\/b\u003e, author, \u003ci\u003eFighting for Your Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003e12 Hours to a Great Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Jossey-Bass","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47989945598181,"sku":"NP9781118436202","price":27.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781118436202.jpg?v=1761785991","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/reptiles-in-love-isbn-9781118436202","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}