{"product_id":"no-more-regrets-isbn-9781605098869","title":"No More Regrets!","description":"\u003cb\u003eWe all want to live a life without regrets, but few of us succeed. Marc Muchnick, bestselling coauthor of \u003ci\u003eThe Leadership Pill\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e,\u003cb\u003e outlines thirty simple yet potentially life-changing actions that anyone can take to avoid regret and thereby live a happier, more meaningful life.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Whenever we do something we wish we hadn't—or don't do something we wish we had—we vow it won't happen again. But do we ask ourselves why it happened in the first place?\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Because we become prisoners of habit and circumstance, we take people in our lives for granted and fail to be true to ourselves. We stop growing and learning, become self-absorbed and judgmental, and lose touch with our innate goodness. Inspired by his final conversation with a dying friend, Marc Muchnick’s \u003ci\u003eNo More Regrets!\u003c\/i\u003e is specifically designed to help you avoid these pitfalls.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Just one or two of the thirty ways to greater happiness and meaning outlined here could potentially change your life. Muchnick’s suggestions are straightforward, thoughtful, and easy to implement—often just a matter of shifting perspective and seeing the world differently. \u003ci\u003eNo More Regrets!\u003c\/i\u003e will show you how to live in a way that allows you to confidently move forward rather than constantly look back.Foreword\u003cbr\u003e Acknowledgments                       \u003cbr\u003e Introduction      \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Part I:  Get Out of Your Rut\u003cbr\u003e 1.   Stop Doing What Isn’t Working                 \u003cbr\u003e 2.   Pick a Place to Start                                   \u003cbr\u003e 3.   Make Peace with Yourself                    \u003cbr\u003e 4.   Turn Adversity into Opportunity                 \u003cbr\u003e 5.   Avoid Victimitis                          \u003cbr\u003e 6.   Steer Clear of Toxic People                                   \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Part II:  Take Nothing for Granted\u003cbr\u003e 7.   Live the Way You Want to Be Remembered           \u003cbr\u003e 8.   Greet the Day                         \u003cbr\u003e 9.   Stay in Touch                       \u003cbr\u003e 10.   Make Every Day Count                    \u003cbr\u003e 11.   Freeze the Moment                                   \u003cbr\u003e 12.   Put Your Stuff in Perspective                 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Part III:  Aim for Authenticity\u003cbr\u003e 13.   Live Your Vision                       \u003cbr\u003e 14.   Listen to Your Heart                                  \u003cbr\u003e 15.   Find Your Own Voice                      \u003cbr\u003e 16.   Speak Your Mind                        \u003cbr\u003e 17.   Be True to What You Value Most                 \u003cbr\u003e 18.   Pursue Your Happiness                               \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Part IV:  Stretch Yourself\u003cbr\u003e 19.   Give It a Shot                                     \u003cbr\u003e 20.   Trust Your Inner Strength                      \u003cbr\u003e 21.   Get Out of Your Comfort Zone                 \u003cbr\u003e 22.   Overcome the Obstacles                            \u003cbr\u003e 23.   Broaden Your Cultural Perspective                          \u003cbr\u003e 24.   Match Up with a Mentor                   \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Part V:  Be the Force of Goodness\u003cbr\u003e 25.   Keep an Open Mind                            \u003cbr\u003e 26.   Love Unconditionally                   \u003cbr\u003e 27.   Take a Mulligan                     \u003cbr\u003e 28.   Do the Right Thing                       \u003cbr\u003e 29.   Put Your Self-Interest Aside                            \u003cbr\u003e 30.   Make the World a Better Place              \u003cbr\u003e Next Steps                            \u003cbr\u003e The NO MORE REGRETS! Game Plan                \u003cbr\u003e Giving Back                                       \u003cbr\u003e Acknowledgments\u003cbr\u003e About the Author“Required reading for anyone who is seeking a life rich in happiness. When you start living your life without regrets, life is good!”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Marshall Goldsmith, author of What Got You Here Won’t Get You There and Mojo\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “There is great power in Marc’s message.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Marci Shimoff, author of Happy for No Reason and coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Read \u003ci\u003eNo More Regrets! \u003c\/i\u003eand you won’t have any more! A great way to live the happier life you always wanted.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Frankly, I doubt there is one person who would not benefit from reading Marc’s thirty down-to earth and common-sense-loaded suggestions.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Colleen Barrett, President Emeritus, Southwest Airlines\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “This book is the key to unlock a life without regrets that is filled with joy, happiness and prosperity. Read it, use it, and share it.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Harry Paul, coauthor of Fish!\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “We’re all searching for greater happiness, and Marc’s heartfelt book provides wonderful tools to help us find it.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Barbara Sher, bestselling author of Wishcraft and I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “You don’t want your last words to be ‘I wish I could live my life over.’ This book will inspire you, challenge you, and show you how to do it right the first time.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—John Izzo, author of The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Marc has done it again. His inspiring words of wisdom will remind you of what is important in your life and help you make decisions so that you too will have no more regrets.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Vicki Halsey, author of Brilliance by Design and coauthor of The Hamster Revolution and \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Hamster Revolution for Meetings \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “\u003ci\u003eNo More Regrets!\u003c\/i\u003e is your playbook for living life to its fullest! Everyone benefits from a good coach, and Marc entertainingly leads you through life’s most important lessons.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Chris Marlowe, 1984 Olympic Gold Medalist and play-by-play announcer for the Denver Nuggets\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Inspirational, easy to read, and practical. If we don’t learn from our past, we are doomed to repeat out mistakes. \u003ci\u003eNo More Regrets!\u003c\/i\u003e shows us how to learn and move on so we are free to experience the full and enriched life we desire.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Jesse Stoner, coauthor of \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eFull Steam Ahead!\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eMarc Muchnick, PhD\u003c\/b\u003e, is founder and president of People First Group, which specializes in coaching, team building, and management consulting. He is also an online professor at Capella University and the coauthor, with Ken Blanchard, of \u003ci\u003eThe Leadership Pill\u003c\/i\u003e.Introduction\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e MAE WEST\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e NONE OF US want to look back on life with regrets or to be that person who reflects on the past and says, “If only I would have spent more quality time with the people I love most in my life …” “If only I would have taken that vacation instead of working so much …” “If only I would have gone with my gut … ” “If only I could take back what I said … ” But how often does that person sound a lot like you and me?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Gary’s Gift\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Not too long ago a good friend of mine passed away—he was in his early forties and left a lot of loving friends and family behind. Gary’s battle with cancer lasted several years, and during that time I learned what a true fighter he was. When he was first diagnosed, the doctors told him he had only a few months to live. But Gary refused to give up and remained dedicated to working hard, traveling, and most of all spending quality time with his children in the midst of grueling chemotherapy regimens. Gary had always lived life to the fullest and was a shining example of how to seize the day and live in the moment.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Six months before he died, Gary came to visit me. We sat on the back patio enjoying the beautiful summer day and reminiscing about old times. But when I asked Gary how he was feeling, he didn’t want to talk about it. Instead he asked me lots of questions—what my family had planned for vacation, how work was going, and what my dreams were for the future. Then he asked what my biggest regret was.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “My biggest regret?” I repeated.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Yes. If there was one thing in your life that you could go back and do differently, what would it be?” he clarified.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “I need more time to think about it,” I replied, “but since you brought it up, what’s your biggest regret?”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I watched Gary’s tired face grow tormented in the uncomfortable silence that followed. Finally he spoke. “There was a girl I dated many years ago … I should have never let her go.” Gary paused, then said, “She was my soul mate, yet I didn’t realize it until twenty-three years later. When I got sick, she started calling me in the hospital. It was then that I realized what a deep connection she and I had, one that I somehow failed to recognize when I knew her back in college. I can’t help but wonder how my life would have been different with her in it, and I kick myself because now it’s too late. When people say that life is short, I literally know what they mean. As my longtime friend, you must promise me that you’ll always do your best to live your life without any more regrets. For that you will always thank me.” Gary hugged me, and I knew it was the last time I would ever have the opportunity to spend a quality afternoon with him.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Three things became clearer to me on that day than ever before:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • We all have regrets.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Our regrets go with us to the grave.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • There is no time like the present to start living life without any more of them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This wake-up call was Gary’s gift to me and one I now want to give to you. The choices we make in life, as well as the missed opportunities, have a profound impact on our happiness in the end. To start working toward the goal of a life with no more regrets, we first have to understand what regrets are and why we have them in the first place.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e What Are Regrets?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e My definition of regrets is as follows:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Regrets are the things we do that we wish we hadn’t done and the things we fail to do that we wish we had done, both of which result in unhappiness, disappointment, or remorse.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In other words, regrets are all about our actions and inactions. Therefore, regrets are about our behaviors and the feelings of unhappiness, disappointment, or remorse we attach to those behaviors. For example, if you’ve ever broken a promise, acted inconsistently with your values, made poor choices, or hurt someone as a result of what you’ve said or done (or failed to say or do), it was your behaviors that led to your feelings of regret.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Understanding regret as a product of our behaviors has direct implications for how we make decisions. Typically we bring a number of elements into our decision-making framework, such as timing, context, opportunity, cost, how we’ll feel about the decision after it is made, what the impact will be, and so on.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e What this book brings to the table is that for every decision we make, we must also ask the following two behavioral questions as a standard part of our decision-making process:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Will I have regrets if I do it (or don’t do it)?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Will I avoid having regrets if I do it (or don’t do it)?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e For example, will it cause a fight with my wife? Will I cut it too close to make it to my destination? Will he forgive me if I do it? If I don’t speak up now, will I regret it forever? The takeaway here is that many of the decisions we make need to take into account the regret factor. Be sure to ask yourself these two behavior-focused questions as you make decisions going forward if you want to have a life with no more regrets.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Keep in mind that regrets are not necessarily the same as mistakes. We can learn a lot from our mistakes, but we don’t necessarily have to regret them. In fact, some of the best lessons in life come from making mistakes. Essentially, our regrets and our mistakes can differ by the positive or negative feelings we attribute to them. While we will all make mistakes, the key is to avoid making mistakes that we ultimately regret.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e One additional aspect of understanding regrets is that our regrets have some common themes, though the sources of our individual regrets are unique to each of us:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • We get stuck in ruts and become prisoners to our regrets.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • We take some things or people for granted.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • We sacrifice our authenticity.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • We stop growing, learning, and evolving.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • We become overly self-absorbed, insensitive, and judgmental.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e What This Book Offers\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The thirty ways to greater happiness and meaning that I present to you in this book are divided into five overarching strategies for having no more regrets, each of which is based on an identified theme of regret:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 1. Get out of your rut.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 2. Take nothing for granted.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 3. Aim for authenticity.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 4. Stretch yourself.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 5. Be a force of goodness.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I am confident that out of the thirty ways I offer for living life with no more regrets, at least a few chapters will really resonate with you. Just one or two new insights can be the key to greater happiness and meaning in your life, career, and relationships. In other words, choosing just one action or new way of doing things can lead to a potentially life-changing moment. For example, when you’re stuck in a rut, learning a new way to look at that situation might help you get out of the rut and change your trajectory. Likewise, if you view yourself as being a victim of your circumstances, focusing on what is within your control is empowering and can make you realize that you can break out of this state of mind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Making the Most of This Book\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e So here’s how to use this book: first, you can use it for yourself, at work, in your career, with your family, or in your relationships. As you are reading each chapter, evaluate how well the message fits for you. If it’s a good fit, ask the following:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • What insights does it provide?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • What does it inspire you to stop doing or start doing?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • How will this impact your life?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Next, for a chapter that you feel would be a better fit for someone else in your life, be sure to share it with that person and encourage him or her to take action. Then move on to the next chapter because the key to living your life with no more regrets is there, just waiting to be revealed. At the back of the book, I’ve also provided easy-to-follow next steps for taking action along with a No More Regrets! Game Plan tool that I think you will find useful.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Finally, make “No More Regrets!” both your credo and your commitment for the future—avoid repeating past regrets and prevent new ones from occurring. Following are my stories, many of them personal, about what it means to do just that. My goal is to get you to reflect on your own stories of when you’ve been stuck in a rut, taken something or someone for granted, struggled with being authentic, stopped growing or learning, or needed a reminder of how to be a force of goodness in the world. I encourage you to share these experiences with me and a growing community of enthusiastic readers on the official book Web site: http:\/\/www.no-more-regrets.com.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I look forward to hearing from you!\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e None of us want to\u003cbr\u003e look back on life\u003cbr\u003e with regrets.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ∼ What is your biggest regret in life and how did it impact you?","brand":"Berrett-Koehler Publishers","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46301990879461,"sku":"NP9781605098869","price":14.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781605098869.jpg?v=1767733814","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/no-more-regrets-isbn-9781605098869","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}