{"product_id":"more-than-i-love-my-life-isbn-9780593312599","title":"More Than I Love My Life","description":"\u003cb\u003eINTERNATIONAL BOOKER PRIZE NOMINEE • A remarkable novel of suffering, love, and healing—the story of       three generations of women on an unlikely journey to a Croatian       island and a secret that needs to be told—from       the internationally best-selling author of \u003ci\u003eTo the End of the Land\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e“A magnificent book ... The way Grossman writes about these regions       is unique, with a deep understanding of our experience.” —Josip       Mlakić\u003ci\u003e, Express\u003c\/i\u003e (Croatia)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eMore Than I Love My Life\u003c\/i\u003e is the story of three strong women: Vera, age ninety; her daughter, Nina; and her granddaughter, Gili, who at thirty-nine is a filmmaker and a wary consumer of affection. A bitter secret divides each mother and daughter pair, though Gili—abandoned by Nina when she was just three—has always been close to her grandmother.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eWith Gili making the arrangements, they travel together to Goli Otok, a barren island off the coast of Croatia, where Vera was imprisoned and tortured for three years as a young wife after she refused to betray her husband and denounce him as an enemy of the people. This unlikely journey—filtered through the lens of Gili’s camera, as she seeks to make a film that might help explain her life—lays bare the intertwining of fear, love, and mercy, and the complex overlapping demands of romantic and parental passion.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eMore Than I Love My Life\u003c\/i\u003e was inspired by the true story of one of David Grossman’s longtime confidantes, a woman who, in the early 1950s, was held on the notorious Goli Otok (“the Adriatic Alcatraz”). With flashbacks to the stalwart Vera protecting what was most precious on the wretched rock where she was held, and Grossman’s fearless examination of the human heart, this swift novel is a thrilling addition to the oeuvre of one of our greatest living novelists, whose revered moral voice continues to resonate around the world. \u003cb\u003eINTERNATIONAL BOOKER PRIZE NOMINEE\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Cast[s] a spell that lingers . . . Grossman’s evocative gifts are in full force [and] his understanding of the opaque ways of love—sometimes subterranean, often unexpected or arbitrary—is unmatched . . . [His] novels have a cumulative power that subsumes mere plausibility. He succeeds in transcending the permutations of his plots and the localness of his settings—indeed, to make deliberate use of the Israeli template—to create themes of loss, the redemptive power of love, the immutable scars of history and the consoling effect of humor that resonate well beyond the world of the kibbutz or the background of the Holocaust . . . To read [Grossman] is to understand that there is a world beyond the political, even in these re-tribalized times, one in which there is room for recognition, however incomplete and often painful, of who we are in our own eyes and in one another’s.” \u003cb\u003e—Daphne Merkin, \u003ci\u003eThe New York Times Book Reivew\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “A somber and affecting tale without recourse to undue melodrama or psychobabble. This delicately crafted novel, crisply translated from the Hebrew by Jessica Cohen, is a fitting tribute to his friend.” \u003cb\u003e—Houman Barekat, \u003ci\u003eThe Sunday Times\u003c\/i\u003e (London)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Another extraordinary novel from Grossman, a book as beautiful and sad as anything you’ll read this year . . . A book of secrets wrapped within secrets . . . It is a love story, a story about a family and their myriad individual tragedies. But it is also about the way that the personal can never be wholly separated from the political, about the lingering wounds of history, about how violence seeps into all the dark corners of a life. It is, in the end, about Israel.  . . . Immaculately translated by Jessica Cohen.” \u003cb\u003e—Alex Preston, \u003ci\u003eThe Observer\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Concisely devastating . . . A powerful retelling of a Jewish woman’s extraordinary life . . . A story so emotionally, ideologically and morally complex that it takes all of Grossman’s considerable skills to render . . . He has demonstrated again that the novel—elastic, expansive, amenable to painful fragmentation—can provide a space for the most harrowing and resistant material.” \u003cb\u003e—Alex Clark, \u003ci\u003eThe Guardian\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Tender and disquieting . . . Grossman shines a light on the victims of the violent split between Tito and Stalin, as well as on the stories people tell themselves to explain, survive, and forgive. And in Vera, who is nimble and sharp at 90, endlessly self-mythologizing, and possessed of a broken Hebrew that Cohen renders into idiosyncratic broken English, the author has created an unforgettable character. This adds another remarkable achievement to Grossman’s long list.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e (starred review)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“The undeniable moral strength of his voice is informed by a sharp awareness of the complex treacheries of the last century; it also accepts its responsibility to battle against attempts to forget or minimize those traumas.” \u003cb\u003e—Susan Miron, \u003ci\u003eThe Arts Fuse\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Powerful . . . Grossman performs a deft exploration of how trauma impacts succeeding generations.” \u003cb\u003e—Kristine Huntley, \u003ci\u003eBooklist\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePraise from abroad for \u003ci\u003eMore Than I Love My Life\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “To turn a ‘true story’ into a \u003ci\u003etrue \u003c\/i\u003estory—universal and precise, haunted by destiny and graced with a complete humanity—requires the wisdom of a narrator like Grossman.” \u003cb\u003e—Alessandro Zaccuri, \u003ci\u003eAvvenire \u003c\/i\u003e(Italy)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “A superb depiction of three generations of women in which the author fleshes out an absence.” \u003cb\u003e—Florence Noiville\u003ci\u003e, Le Monde\u003c\/i\u003e (France)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Captivating . . . David Grossman is a master of the literature of redemption.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eVolker Weidermann, Der Spiegel\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e(Germany)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e “To Grossman, it is something beyond politics and psychology that is important, something that is difficult to put into words, but which he nevertheless embodies: that life is, after all, better than death.”\u003cb\u003e —Ingrid Elam, \u003ci\u003eDN\u003c\/i\u003e (Sweden)\u003c\/b\u003eDAVID GROSSMAN was born in Jerusalem. He is the author of numerous works of fiction, nonfiction, and children's literature. His writing has appeared in \u003ci\u003eThe New Yorker \u003c\/i\u003eand has been translated into more than forty languages. He is the recipient of many prizes, including the French Chevalier de l'Ordre des Arts et des Lettres, the Buxtehuder Bulle in Germany, Rome's Premio per la Pace e l'Azione Umanitaria, the Premio Ischia International Journalism Award, Israel's EMET Prize, the Man Booker International Prize, and the Albatross Prize given by the Günter Grass Foundation. He lives in Jerusalem.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eJESSICA COHEN translates contemporary Israeli prose, poetry, and other creative work. She shared the 2017 Man Booker International Prize with David Grossman, for her translation of \u003ci\u003eA Horse Walks into a Bar,\u003c\/i\u003e and has translated works by major Israeli writers, including Amos Oz, Etgar Keret, Ronit Matalon and Nir Baram.Rafael  was  fifteen  years  old  when  his  mother  died  and put him out of her misery. Rain poured down on the mourn-ers huddled under umbrellas in the small kibbutz cemetery. Tuvia, Rafael’s father, sobbed bitterly. He had cared for his wife devotedly for  years  and  now  looked  lost  and  bereft.  Rafael,  wearing  shorts, stood apart from the others and pulled the hood of his sweatshirt over  his  eyes  so  that  no  one  would  know  he  wasn’t  crying.  He thought: Now that she’s dead, she can see all the things I thought of her.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThat was in the winter of 1962. A year later his father met Vera Novak, who had come to Israel from Yugoslavia, and they became a couple. Vera had arrived with her only daughter, Nina, a tall, fair- haired girl of seventeen whose long face, which was pale and very beautiful, showed almost no expression.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe  boys  in  Rafael’s  class  called  Nina  “Sphinx.”  They  would sneak behind her and mimic her gait, the way she hugged her body and  stared  ahead  vacantly.  When  she  once  caught  two  kids  imitating her, she simply pummeled them bloody. They’d never seen such fighting on the kibbutz. It was hard to believe how much ferocious  strength  she  had  in  her  thin  arms  and  legs.  Rumors  started flying. They said that while her mother was a political prisoner in the Gulag, little Nina had lived on the streets. The streets, they said, with a meaningful look. They said that in Belgrade she’d joined a gang of feral kids who kidnapped children for ransom. That’s what they said. People say things.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe fight, as well as other incidents and rumors, failed to pierce the fog in which Rafael lived after his mother’s death. For months he was in a self-induced coma. Twice a day, morning and evening, he took a powerful sleeping pill from his mother’s medicine cabi-net. He didn’t even notice Nina when he occasionally ran into her around the kibbutz.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBut  one  evening,  about  six  months  after  his  mother  died,  he was  taking  a  shortcut  through  the  avocado  orchard  to  the  gym-nasium  when  Nina  came  toward  him.  She  walked  with  her  head bowed, hugging herself as if everything around her was cold. Rafael stopped, tensing up for reasons he did not understand. Nina was in her own world and did not notice him. He saw the way she moved. That was his first impression: her quiet, sparing motion. The lim-pid,  high  forehead,  and  a  thin  blue  dress  that  fluttered  halfway down her shins.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe expression on his face when he recounted— \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOnly when they got closer did Rafael see that she was crying— quiet,  muffled  sobs—and  then  she  noticed  him  and  stopped,  and curved  inward.  Their  gazes  entangled  fleetingly  and,  one  might sorrowfully add, inextricably. “The sky, the earth, the trees,” Rafael told me, “I don’t know . . . I felt like nature had passed out.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNina was the first to recover. She gave an angry puff and hurried away. He had time to glimpse her face, which had instantly shed all expression, and something inside him coursed toward her. He held out his hand after her.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI can actually see him standing there with his hand out.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAnd that is how he’s remained, with the outstretched hand, for forty- five  years.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBut that day, in the orchard, without thinking, before he could hesitate and trip himself up, he sprinted after her to tell her what he’d understood the moment he’d seen her. Everything had come to life inside him, he told me. I asked him to explain. He mumbled something about all the things that had fallen asleep in him during the years of his mother’s illness, and even more so after her death. Now  it  was  all  suddenly  urgent  and  fateful,  and  he  had  no  doubt that Nina would yield to him right then and there.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNina  heard  his  footsteps  chasing  her.  She  stopped,  turned around,  and  slowly  surveyed  him.  “What  is  it?”  she  barked  into his  face.  He  flinched,  shocked  by  her  beauty  and  perhaps  also  by her coarseness—and mostly, I’m afraid, by the combination of the two.  That’s  something  he  still  has:  a  weakness  for  women  with  a bit—just a drop—of aggression and even crudeness. That spiciness. Rafael, Rafi— \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNina  put  her  hands  on  her  waist,  and  a  tough  street  girl  jutted out. Her nostrils widened, she sniffed him, and Rafael saw a delicate blue vein throbbing on her neck, and his lips suddenly hurt; that’s what he told me: they were literally stinging and thirsting.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOkay, I get it, I thought. I don’t need the details.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTears  were  still  glistening  on  Nina’s  cheeks,  but  her  eyes  were cold  and  serpentine.  “Go  home,  boy,”  she  said,  and  he  shook  his head no. She slowly moved her forehead toward his head, tracking it back and forth as if searching for precisely the right point, and he shut his eyes and then she butted, and he flew back and landed in the hollow of an avocado tree.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Ettinger  cultivar,”  he  specified  the  name  of  the  tree  when  he told me the story, so that I wouldn’t forget, God forbid, that every detail  in  the  scene  was  important,  because  that  is  how  you  construct a mythology.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eStunned, he lay in the hollow, touched the bump already grow-ing on his forehead, then stood up dizzily. Since his mother’s death, Rafael had not touched anyone, nor had he been touched, except by the kids who fought with him. But this, he sensed, was something different. She’d come along to finally open up his mind and rescue him from the torture. Through the blinding pain, he shouted out what  he  had  realized  the  moment  he’d  seen  her,  though  he  was amazed when the words left his mouth, insipid and crude. “Words the  guys  used,”  he  told  me,  “like  ‘I  wanna  fuck  you,’  that  kind  of thing.” So different from his pure, scrupulous thought. “But for a second  or  two  I  saw  on  her  face  that,  despite  the  dirty  language, she got me.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAnd  maybe  that  is  what  happened—how  should  I  know?  Why not give her the benefit of the doubt and believe that a girl born in Yugoslavia, who for a few years really was, as it later turned out, an abandoned  child  with  no  mother  or  father,  could—despite  those opening stats, or perhaps because of them—at a moment of kind-ness glance into the eyes of an Israeli kibbutz kid, an inward-looking boy, or so I imagine him at sixteen, a lonely boy full of secrets and intricate calculations and grand gestures that no one in the world knew about. A sad, gloomy boy, but so handsome you could cry.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRafael, my father.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThere’s a well-known film, I can’t remember what it’s called right now (and I’m not wasting a second on Google), where the hero goes back  to  the  past  to  repair  something,  to  prevent  a  world  war  or something like that. What I wouldn’t give to return to the past just to prevent those two from ever meeting.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOver the days and, mostly, the nights that came afterward, Rafael tormented himself about the marvelous moment he’d squandered. He stopped taking his mother’s sleeping pills so that he could experience the love unclouded. He searched all over the kibbutz, but he could not find her. In those days he hardly spoke to anyone, so he did not know that Nina had left the singles’ neighborhood, where she’d  lived  with  her  mother,  and  expropriated  a  little  room  in  a moldering old shack from back in the founders’ days. The shack was like a train of tiny rooms, located behind the orchards, in an area that the kibbutzniks, with their typical sensitivity, called the leper colony. It was a small community of men and women, mostly vol-unteers from overseas, misfits who hung around without contribut-ing anything, and the kibbutz didn’t know what to do with them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBut the notion that had germinated in Rafael when he met Nina in the orchard was no less impassioned, and it wrapped itself tighter and tighter around his soul by the day: If Nina agrees to sleep with me, even once, he thought in all earnestness, her expressions will come back.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHe told me about that thought during a conversation we filmed an  eternity  ago,  when  he  was  thirty-seven.  It  was  my  debut  film, and this morning, twenty-four years after shooting it, we decided, Rafael and I, in a burst of reckless nostalgia, to sit down and watch it. At that point in the film he can be seen coughing, almost chok-ing,  scouring  his  scruffy  beard,  unfastening  and  refastening  his leather  watch  strap,  and,  above  all,  not  looking  up  at  the  young interviewer: me.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“I have to say, you were very self-confident at sixteen,” I can be heard chirping ingratiatingly. “Me?” the Rafael in the film responds in surprise. “Self-confident? I was shaking like a leaf.” “Well, in my opinion,”  says  the  interviewer,  sounding  horribly  off-key,  “it’s  the most original pickup line I’ve ever heard.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI  was  fifteen  when  I  interviewed  him,  and  for  the  sake  of  full disclosure I should say that until that moment I had never had the good fortune to hear any pickup line, original or trite, from anyone other  than  me-in-the-mirror  with  a  black  beret  and  a  mysterious scarf covering half my face.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA videotape, a small tripod, a microphone covered with disinte-grated gray foam. This week, in October of 2008, my grandmother Vera  found  them  in  a  cardboard  box  in  her  storage  attic,  along with the ancient Sony through which I viewed the world in those days.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOkay, to call that thing a film is somewhat generous. It was a few haphazard  and  poorly  edited  segments  of  my  father  reminiscing. The  sound  is  awful,  the  picture  is  faded  and  grainy,  but  you  can usually figure out what’s going on. On the cardboard box, Vera had written in black marker: gili — various. I have no words to describe what that film does to me, and how my heart goes out to the girl I used to be, who looks—I’m not exaggerating—like the human ver-sion of a dodo, an animal that would have died of embarrassment had it not gone extinct. In other words, a creature profoundly out of whack in terms of what it is and where it’s headed—everything was up for grabs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eToday,  twenty-four  years  after  I  filmed  that  conversation,  as  I sit  watching  it  with  my  dad  at  Vera’s  house  on  the  kibbutz,  I  feel amazed by how exposed I was, even though I was only the interviewer and hardly ever appeared on-screen.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor quite a number of minutes I can’t concentrate on what my father  is  saying  about  him  and  Nina,  about  how  they  met  and how he loved her. Instead I sit here next to him, folding over and shrinking back beneath the force of that internal conflict, projected unfiltered, like a scream, from inside the girl I used to be. I can see the terror in her eyes because everything is so open, too open, even questions like: How much life force does she contain, or how much of a woman will she be and how much of a man. At fifteen she still does not know which fate will be decided for her in the dungeons of evolution.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf I could make a brief appearance—this is what I think—just for a moment, in her world, and show her pictures of myself today, like of me at work or me with Meir, even now, in our state, and if I could tell her: Don’t worry, kid, in the end—with a couple of shoves, a few compromises, a little humor, some constructive self-destruction— you will find your place, a place that will be only yours, and you will even find love, because there will be someone who is looking for an ample woman with an air of the dodo about her.","brand":"Vintage","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46301809967333,"sku":"NP9780593312599","price":17.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780593312599.jpg?v=1767732974","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/more-than-i-love-my-life-isbn-9780593312599","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}