{"product_id":"making-marriage-work-for-dummies-isbn-9780764551734","title":"Making Marriage Work For Dummies","description":"The inspiration for countless one-liners, witty sayings, stage farces and not a few murder mysteries, marriage is more than just a relationship between two people. It’s  one of life’s biggest adventures and a healthy marriage can be one of life’s greatest gifts. But weathering the stresses and strains of married life and maintaining healthy marital bonds over a span of decades takes work, and sometimes you need help from a friendly expert. Which is where \u003ci\u003eMaking Marriage Work For Dummies\u003c\/i\u003e comes in.  \u003cp\u003eDrawing on their experiences with thirty years of marriage, during which they raised three children, as well as decades of couples counseling, experts Steven and Sue Simring show you how to build a strong, happy and long-lasting marriage. They offer priceless tips on how to deal with most problems that come up between married couples, and they offer advice on how to:\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eMake your relationship more romantic\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eWork out big and small differences\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eArgue in ways that strengthen you relationship\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eResolve disputes over money\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eCope with mid-life change\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eHandle a spouse who cheats\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eDeal with families and in-laws\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eReduce stress on your marriage\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eUnderstand your partner’s annoying habits and quirks\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eBalance career and family goals\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eSeek professional help when you need it\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eIllustrating their points with insightful, often amusing anecdotes from their own marriage and from the marriages of hundreds of couples they’ve counseled over the years, the Simrings explore such crucial topics as:\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eDeciding if marriage is right for you\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eSix common marriage myths\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eUnderstanding the roots of marital problems\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eCommunicating with your partner\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eThe do’s and don’ts of fair marital fighting\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eMaking marriage sexy\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eExamining the marriage life cycle\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eIdeas for resolving money differences\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eSucceeding with remarriage\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003eFilled with ideas you can use now to keep your marriage as strong as the day you took your vows, this is a survival guide for everyone committed to making marriage work.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eForeword xxiii\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIntroduction 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy You Need This Book 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow This Book Is Organized 2\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePart I: What It Means To Say “I Do!” 2\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePart II: Can We Talk? 2\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePart III: Making Marriage Sexy 3\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePart IV: Examining the Marriage Life Cycle 3\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePart V: Maintaining a Healthy Marriage 4\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePart VI: The Part of Tens 4\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIcons Used in This Book 4\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhere to Go from Here 5\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart I: What It Means To Say “I Do!” 7\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 1: Taking a Candid Look at Marriage 9\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTo Marry or Not to Marry? 9\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding Marriage Pluses and Minuses 11\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMarriage pluses 11\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMarriage minuses 12\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy Marriage Isn’t for Everyone 14\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eKnowing that Unrealistic Expectations Cause Problems 14\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeflating Six Common Marriage Myths 15\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFinding Mr or Ms Right 16\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTwo people in a good marriage automatically grow closer with time 16\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhen couples argue, it destroys the relationship 16\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePursuing your own individual needs is incompatible with making a marriage work 17\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMarriage partners can fill the gaps in one another’s makeup 18\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe goal of marriage is for both partners to get exactly what they want 19\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 2: The Five Building Blocks of a Working Marriage 21\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeveloping a Realistic View of Marriage 21\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTreasuring What the Two of You Have in Common 24\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMaking Room for Separateness in Your Togetherness 27\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAgree to do some things separately 29\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDevelop a balance that suits your relationship 31\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMaking the Most of Your Differences 31\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCombine your strengths 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUsing your differences to mirror one another’s positive traits 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRemember that your differences were once interesting and pleasurable — not sources of conflict 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAccepting That Not All Problems Can Be Solved 33\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart II: Can We Talk? 35\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 3: Understanding the Roots of Marital Problems 37\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnraveling a Three-Sided Story 37\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing what you bring to the mix 38\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing what your partner brings to the mix 40\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing the patterns in your marriage 42\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChanging negative patterns through positive mirroring 43\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWorking Together to Build a Stronger Marriage 44\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow is your marriage doing? 45\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTroubleshooting marital problems 46\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 4: Communicating with Your Partner 47\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing That You’re Always Communicating 48\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWatch for changes in mood and attitude 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTune into body language 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLook for signs of nervousness or tension 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDouble-check the meaning of gestures 50\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding How You Talk to Each Other 51\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSharpening your listening skills 52\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognize the impact of conversational pacing differences 55\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHusbands, Wives, and Their Communication Styles 56\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Importance of Negotiation in Marriage 58\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eApplying the tools of win-win negotiation to marriage 59\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMaintaining an ongoing dialogue — especially in matters of the heart 62\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 5: Fighting the Fair Way 65\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding That Fights Will Happen 65\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLooking for Signs of Unhealthy Fighting 66\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDoes one spouse fear the other? 67\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDoes one spouse become physically threatening? 67\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDoes one spouse destroy property? 67\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDoes one spouse become verbally or emotionally abusive? 68\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDo you fight in front of your children? 69\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDoes alcohol play a role in your fights? 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNegotiating to Prevent Fights, When Possible 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePunctuality 71\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNeatness 73\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePlanning 75\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHaving a Healthy Fight 76\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDefer to the partner who feels most strongly 76\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAssume good will 78\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMaintain a balance, but don’t keep score 78\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFollowing the Rules of Fair Fighting 79\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBe clear about what you (and your partner) want 79\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLimit the scope of the argument to the issue at hand 79\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSeek a resolution that both of you can live with 80\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eGo to bed angry, if necessary 80\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLook for exceptions 80\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSee the glass as half full, not as half empty 81\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRemember to be kind 82\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eApologize when you need to 83\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAvoiding the Don’ts of Fair Fighting 83\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t look for total victory or unconditional surrender 83\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t intentionally prolong the argument 83\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t nag or withdraw 84\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t bring out the heavy artillery 85\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart III: Making Marriage Sexy 87\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 6: Developing a Great Sex Life 89\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding Changes in Sexual Chemistry 89\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCommunicating Your Sexual Desires 91\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBreaking Down Three Major Roadblocks to Good Sex 94\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChildren 94\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStress and marital tensions 96\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWorkaholism 96\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding Why People Don’t Know What to Expect from Sex 97\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeflating Five Common Sex Myths 98\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMen are more interested in sex than are women 99\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMarried people don’t (or shouldn’t) masturbate 100\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eForeplay is a separate part of the sexual experience 100\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThere’s a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms 101\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSex fades as a couple ages 102\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 7: When Sex Falters 105\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing Potential Blocks to Sexual Pleasure 105\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Causes and Treatments of Sexual Dysfunction 107\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eProblems with sexual desire 108\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eProblems with sexual arousal 110\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eProblems reaching orgasm 113\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFinding the Right Kind of Professional Help 117\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart IV: Examining the Marriage Life Cycle 119\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 8: The First Years of Marriage 121\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe New Most Important Person in Your Life 121\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNegotiating family loyalties 122\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSetting boundaries with both your families 125\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Shifting Role of Friends 127\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNegotiating opposite-sex friendships 129\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeveloping friendships with other couples 130\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eComing to Terms with Changes in Sexual Chemistry 132\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAdjusting to Each Other’s Rhythms and Quirks 133\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePinpointing Early Marriage Danger Zones 136\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 9: The Growing Family 139\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeciding Whether You’re Ready for Children 139\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChoosing when to have a child 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat if you and your spouse can’t agree about having children 141\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eGetting Ready for the Financial Hit 142\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Emotional Impact 144\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBalancing Career and Family 146\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eResolving the Childcare Dilemma 148\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eConsidering alternate work styles 149\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDividing parental responsibilities 150\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeciding to Have a Second Child 152\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMarriage without Kids 154\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 10: Women and Men at Midlife 157\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing the First Stirrings of Middle Age 157\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMeeting the Challenges of Your “Second Adulthood” 161\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEvaluating your personal satisfaction 162\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEvaluating your satisfaction with family-planning choices 164\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEvaluating your career satisfaction 165\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding Men’s Midlife Concerns 167\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding a Woman’s Emotional Changes at Midlife 169\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding a Woman’s Physical Changes at Midlife 171\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 11: Making the Most of Marriage at Midlife 175\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEvaluating Your Marriage at Midlife 176\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBecoming a Couple Again after Children Grow Up 178\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRedesigning Your Marriage 180\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCaring for Aging Parents 181\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePlanning for Retirement 184\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 12: Remarriage and Stepfamilies 189\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Emotions of Remarrying 189\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRemarrying after the death of a spouse 190\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRemarrying after a divorce 191\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMaking a Second Marriage Work 193\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Complex Issues That Stepfamilies Face 194\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding remarriage finances 195\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eForming a new family unit 196\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMy children, your children, our children 199\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart V: Maintaining a Healthy Marriage 203\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 13: Reducing the Stress on Your Marriage 205\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding Negative and Positive Stress 206\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDealing with Your Own Stressors 206\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eKeeping Stress from Undermining Your Marriage 209\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDealing with Stress in the “Red Zone” 212\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the Connection Between Stress and Control 214\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAssessing the Impact of Stress on Your Marriage 215\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 14: Exploring the Role of Money in Marriage 219\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing How You and Your Partner Deal with Money 219\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing How Money Problems Can Threaten Your Marriage 222\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding what’s behind compulsive spending 223\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding what’s behind miserly behavior 224\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing How Money Impacts the Balance of Power in Marriage 225\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding How a Flexible Marriage Protects Your Financial Future 228\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 15: Examining Extramarital Affairs — and Knowing What to Do about Them 231\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding What an Affair Is — and Isn’t 232\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding Why (and When) Spouses Cheat 233\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDanger zone 1: Shortly after the wedding 234\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDanger zone 2: When a baby enters the family 235\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDanger zone 3: The seven-year itch 237\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDanger zone 4: The midlife marriage crisis 238\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding What to Do About a Cheating Spouse 241\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAdmitting Versus Denying Infidelity 244\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRebuilding a Marriage After an Affair 245\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 16: Getting Outside Help 249\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing Problems that Require Outside Help 249\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eProblem drinking 250\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDrug abuse 251\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCompulsive gambling 252\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDomestic violence 253\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnresolved grief 254\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDepression 255\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhen a child has a serious physical or emotional problem 256\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhen the two of you are unable to resolve differences 257\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhen one or both of you has decided to seek a divorce 257\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFinding the Right Kind of Outside Help 258\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeflating Six Common Therapy Myths 261\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne school of therapy is better than another 262\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSuccessful therapy has more to do with the therapist than the client 262\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA therapist’s job is to make you feel good 262\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA therapist is supposed to champion your cause 263\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA therapist’s views and values don’t matter 264\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe goal of therapy is to solve all your problems 264\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 17: Understanding Divorce and Its Alternatives 267\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDeciding if Your Marriage Is Worth Saving 267\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEvaluating your investment in the marriage 269\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstanding the impact of divorce on children 272\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWinning Back Your Mate 275\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eReframing Your View of a Flawed Marriage 277\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCreating the Kind of Marriage That Works Best for You 279\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAgree to live as friends or compatible roommates 279\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMake family your main priority 280\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecast your marriage as a business partnership 280\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHave a low-risk extramarital affair 281\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecognizing When Divorce Is Your Best Option 281\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart VI: The Part of Tens 283\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 18: Ten Ways to Make Your Marriage More Romantic 285\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePay Attention to Your Appearance 285\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eShow Your Love Every Day 286\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUse Words of Love 286\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUse a Gentle Touch 287\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMake Time to Be Alone Together 287\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDo All of the Traditional Things — Even if They Seem Corny 288\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDo Something Out of the Ordinary 289\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePlay and Laugh Together 290\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRevisit Your Shared History 291\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 19: Ten Things You Should Never Say to Your Partner 293\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“You Never” or “You Always” 293\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Yes, But ” 294\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“It’s All Your Fault” 295\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Are You Getting Fat?” 295\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“That’s Not My Job” 296\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Why Can’t You Be More Like ?” 297\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“I’ll Try” 297\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“Forget It, I Don’t Want to Fight” 298\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e“I’m Getting a Divorce” 298\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 20: Ten Ways To Have a Fair Fight 301\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnderstand What’s Really Going On 301\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStick to the Issues 302\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eListen Beyond the Literal Words 302\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLook at Both Sides 303\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLook for Ways to Bend without Breaking 303\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUse Strategic Timing 304\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t Garbage-Bag 304\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t Go for the Jugular 305\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t Take the Moral High Ground 305\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMake Sure Both of You Can Live with the Outcome 305\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 21: Ten Signs That Your Marriage Is in Trouble 307\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Is Physically Violent 308\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Is Verbally Abusive 308\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Is Abusing Alcohol or Drugs 308\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Has a Problem with Compulsive Gambling or Compulsive Spending 309\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Is a Workaholic 310\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Is Having an Affair 310\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOne Spouse Is Depressed 311\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Two of You Disagree About Having Children 312\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eYou and Your Partner Have Stopped Having Sex 313\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eYou and Your Partner No Longer Enjoy Being Together 314\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 22: Ten Ways to Have a More Exciting Sex Life 315\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMake Sexual Contact Part of Your Everyday Life 315\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eExpand Your Sexual Horizons 316\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTell and Show Each Other What Pleases You 317\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnleash the Power of Fantasy 318\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTake Advantage of Pornography 318\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMake Special Time for Sex 319\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBecome an Artful Kisser 319\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDon’t Focus Just on the Orgasm 320\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTalk Sexy 320\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHave Sex With Someone You Love — Yourself! 321\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAppendix A: References 323\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 1 323\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 2 323\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 4 323\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 5 324\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 6 324\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 7 325\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 8 325\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 9 326\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 10 326\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 11 326\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 12 327\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 13 328\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 14 328\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 15 328\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 16 329\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 17 329\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eChapter 22 329\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSources of Quotations 330\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBibliography 330\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAppendix B: Resources 335\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePremarital Counseling 335\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTherapy and Counseling 335\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eInfertility and Adoption 336\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSexual Difficulties 336\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStress 337\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRetirement 337\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMental Illness 337\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAlcoholism and Other Addictive Behaviors 337\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDomestic Abuse 338\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDivorce 338\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 341\u003c\/p\u003e Steven Simring, M.D., M.P.H., and Sue Klavans Simring, D.S.W., are experienced lecturers and psychotherapists who have appeared regularly on The Oprah Winfrey Show and The Montel Williams Show. 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