{"product_id":"love-sex-and-happily-ever-after-isbn-9781601423696","title":"Love, Sex, and Happily Ever After","description":"\u003cp\u003eWhat do you do if you want a marriage that doesn’t just survive, but thrives? That doesn’t just begin romantically but ends magnificently?\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eAnswer: You do something different.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou’ve seen marriages fail time and again. Even relationships you thought were bulletproof don’t last–or maybe worse—fade away to a cold, gray lovelessness. It’s no wonder that for today’s generation, “getting what you want” is often a substitute for love, and disillusionment about marriage is the new normal. \u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eBut you \u003ci\u003ecan \u003c\/i\u003ehave a long-term, love-blessed marriage. Whether you’re still considering it, are about to be wed, or have been married for a while and want to make changes,\u003ci\u003e Love, Sex \u0026amp; Happily Ever After\u003c\/i\u003e delivers an infusion of hope. Author Craig Groeschel clearly and honestly lays out the choices and commitments you can make now\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003eto change the way you think and act—to build the relationship you want for the rest of your life. \u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eWith an invigorating mix of personal story, practical guidance and biblical truth, Craig invites you into a candid conversation about first dates, sex, communication, integrity, forgiveness, and commitment. Along the way, he shows how you can build a soul-enriching, God-honoring relationship with the one you love…and believe together again in your very own “happily ever after.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePreviously released as \u003ci\u003eGoing All the Way\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e“Craig Groeschel’s practical book should be a mandatory read for anyone who wants to be happily married someday.  It is a rare author who can lead you into some very challenging places and have you laughing out loud while he does it.”  \u003cbr\u003eShaunti Feldhahn, nationally syndicated columnist and best-selling author of \u003ci\u003eFor Women Only\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“\u003ci\u003eGoing All the Way\u003c\/i\u003e clearly illustrates how Jesus Christ is truly the center of every enduring and endearing marriage. I am excited to see this book get published.” \u003cbr\u003ePastor Mark Driscoll, founder of Mars Hill Church, Seattle\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e“Whether you are married or single, \u003ci\u003eGoing All the Way\u003c\/i\u003e promises to show you what it takes to succeed in the most important human relationship you can ever be a part of. This book has the potential to not only change the way you view marriage, but also the way our culture treats it.”\u003cbr\u003eEd Young, Senior Pastor, Fellowship Church, and author of \u003ci\u003eThe Creative Marriage\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“If you're looking for ‘The One,’ this book will launch you in the right direction.  With wit and wisdom, Craig Groeschel will guide you into a gold mine of relational riches.”\u003cbr\u003eShannon Ethridge, best-selling author of the Every Woman's Battle series and \u003ci\u003eCompletely His\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Craig shares real life advice that is practical and biblically based, preparing you for a marriage that will not just survive, but thrive. This book should make it on your reading list.”\u003cbr\u003eRick Warren, Pastor of Saddleback Church and author of \u003ci\u003eThe Purpose Driven Life\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Craig Groeschel says it like it is. You'll be challenged and encouraged by his honesty and humor.”   \u003cbr\u003eMark Batterson, Lead Pastor, National Community Church, and author of \u003ci\u003eIn a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Craig Groeschel is a visionary who is always scanning the horizon to meet needs that most of us have not even begun to envision.  His leadership capacity has barely been tapped.”\u003cbr\u003eDr. Samuel R. Chand, author of\u003ci\u003e Failure: The Womb of Success\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eFuturing: Leading Your Church Into Tomorrow\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Craig Groeschel truly goes \u003ci\u003eall the way\u003c\/i\u003e in this entertaining yet poignantly insightful book on preparing for marriage. He digs deep, posing the questions we all have but are afraid to ask, and then answers them–with profound wisdom.”\u003cbr\u003eBishop Eddie L. Long, Senior Pastor, New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and author of \u003ci\u003eIt’s Your Time\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e“In \u003ci\u003eGoing All the Way\u003c\/i\u003e, Craig boldly dives into our culture's many illusions of love and discovers what real love is.”\u003cbr\u003e Dave Gibbons, Lead Pastor of NewSong\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Craig Groeschel is a man that practices what he preaches. I am always excited to pick up his latest book.”  \u003cbr\u003eCraig Gross, founder of xxxchurch.com\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Craig fully understands our generation's struggles and fears about making love last and provides practical, hope-filled guidance for imperfect people.”\u003cbr\u003eJohn Burke, pastor and author of \u003ci\u003eNo Perfect People Allowed\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eCraig Groeschel \u003c\/b\u003eis the founding and senior pastor of LifeChurch.tv, recently ranked the nation’s second largest church. By 2010, LifeChurch.tv was hosting more than eighty services at fourteen campuses. Craig and his wife, Amy, share a passion to lead people to become fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. They live with their six children near Edmond, Oklahoma. \u003c\/p\u003eDesigned to Go All the Way\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eIs she the one? \u003c\/i\u003eFour words that shaped my hope. My wish. My prayer.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHer name was Kelli. She was more beautiful than words could describe. Her tan was  perfectly golden. Her blond hair could’ve starred in any shampoo commercial. Her smile stopped me in my tracks. And her legs… I’ll just say, praise God for legs! \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eKelli was wildly popular, completely feminine, yet also athletic. Confident, yet humble. Exciting, yet pure. Every guy I knew liked her.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI \u003ci\u003eloved \u003c\/i\u003eher.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eKelli dominated my thought life. \u003ci\u003eWill she go out with me? Go with me? MARRY ME? Have my children? Live with me in a house with a white picket fence? You know, for our dog. Not a chick dog, like a Shih Tzu. A real dog. Maybe a black Lab. Or a German shepherd. Named Joe…\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eIn my daydreams I was always the hero, rescuing Kelli from attackers using my finely  honed nun-chucks skills. I protected her while stranded on a desert island. I kept her warm during a dangerous blizzard. All my fantasies ended the same: Kelli fell in love with me, then kissed me until I couldn’t breathe. It was our destiny to be together. Forever. (Can you hear a Luther Vandross love song playing softly?)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMaybe my imagination was getting ahead of me. After all, she’d never spoken to me. She didn’t even know my name. And, well, we were both in seventh grade. But trifling details couldn’t weaken her magnetic pull. My life orbited around her. The mounting pressure seemed too much for my heart to bear.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCould she be “\u003ci\u003ethe one\u003c\/i\u003e”?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eON THE WAY TO ONE\u003cbr\u003eYou’re probably not in the seventh grade (and glad you never have to return to junior high hell again). But that longing for \u003ci\u003ethe one \u003c\/i\u003eis virtually universal. You’ve yearned for the one to be part of your life–your soul mate, bound by passionate affection and a forever vow. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDoes a fulfilling, lifelong commitment exist in your future? You hope so, but maybe you’re not sure. When someone cute moves to your school or starts a new job at your office, you wonder, \u003ci\u003eCould this be the one?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eOr maybe you’re already in love with someone. At this moment all the love songs on the radio make sense. You spend hours in the Hallmark store choosing the perfect card for your honey-pie-love-bunches. (You leave with eleven cards and a stuffed walrus.) For you the question isn’t in the back of your mind; it’s front and center, and you believe you know the answer. \u003ci\u003eI think there’s \u003c\/i\u003ea one \u003ci\u003efor me after all!\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eBut perhaps you’re on the other side of the relationship divide, and you’re not so optimistic at the moment. You’re recovering from a painful breakup. Disillusioned. You were sure you’d met the one. But that was before the lying. Before the drifting apart. Before the restraining order. Before the dude like Jim Carrey’s character in \u003ci\u003eThe Cable Guy. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eMaybe you were married. With all your heart, you believed it was forever, but it simply wasn’t true. Whether it was divorce or a breakup, you feel alone. You ache, wondering when the pain will ease, if you’ll ever love again. Were you even meant to find the one? Does \u003ci\u003ewanting \u003c\/i\u003eit to be true \u003ci\u003emake \u003c\/i\u003eit true?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI don’t blame you. I’ve felt the same way. Slightly optimistic one moment, devastatingly depressed and hopeless the next. I always hated the person with all the answers. You know, the married friend who preaches, “You just have to not care. Then you’ll find the one.” Or “If you just surrender, the perfect person will show up.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhatever.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou might be thinking that \u003ci\u003eI’m \u003c\/i\u003ethe annoying know-it-all right now. \u003ci\u003eWhat does some married pastor-guy know? What could I gain from reading another stupid book about preparing for marriage?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eGood questions. I’ll admit, I don’t have surefire formulas for “how to find the love of your life in thirty days or less.” I won’t try to sell you on “five steps to living happily ever after.” My goal is twofold. First, I’ll offer a different perspective on a marriage that lasts a lifetime. And second, I plan to offer you… \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHope.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRESERVATIONS FOR ONE\u003cbr\u003eIt’s hard to be hopeful these days, to be confident you’ll find your soul mate and enjoy a long and fulfilling life together. Many twenty- and thirty-somethings today see marriage as a risky venture. They’re not cynical, just observant. They see plenty of unhappy couples, dismal divorce statistics, and heartbreak in families, often their own.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNo wonder people are getting married later in life, with more reservations and less success. Many are hiding from their fears by building their careers, postponing marriage indefinitely. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOthers keep searching. That’s what I did. Though I wanted to do what was right, the Bible seemed like a distant, out-oftouch rule book. You might relate. People say: “Sleep around. Focus on externals. Splurge on your toys. Don’t worry about consequences. The future’s uncertain. Live for today. Why risk missing out? Don’t let religion hold you back. You deserve to get what you want now…”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis approach to relationships has become the new normal. Problem is, the new normal doesn’t work. (Have you noticed?) In fact, it leads to a lot of needless suffering, injury, and disillusionment. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI wrote this book because people in my generation are making decisions way before marriage that actually sabotage what they really want for their futures. We don’t make these decisions in a vacuum, or because we’re the biggest losers ever to walk the planet.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe make them in large part because our culture constantly bombards us with deeply flawed ideas about what it means to be in love, to be happy, to be sexual, to have a meaningful relationship with a person of the opposite sex…and we buy the lies. Many people I meet–sadly, even many Christians–have little or no idea that a better way exists. Frankly, I’m tired of waiting for premarital counseling to lay out a biblical plan for finding lasting intimacy in marriage. By then, for many, it’s just too late. Too late to prevent a lot of hurt. Too late to prevent the death of a dream. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBut it doesn’t have to be that way.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eALL THE WAY, NOT PARTWAY\u003cbr\u003eIf God has a marriage planned for you, think about this: \u003ci\u003eyou have already been created to “go all the way.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eWhen I say “go all the way,” I’m not talking about the “I Wanna Sex You Up,” people-disposable games many settle for. I’m not talking about taking what you want sexually (or giving away sexually what someone else demands) in a relationship before marriage. Instead, I’m affirming God’s plan for a marriage that goes all the way in sexual, emotional, and spiritual fulfillment. And that goes all the way through the years and decades of your life. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMost people, Christ followers or not, deeply desire exactly this. But a closer look at how many of us pursue this goal before and after marriage shows that, while our desires are normal, our methods are routinely misguided. Turns out, how we set about to go \u003ci\u003eall the way \u003c\/i\u003ein our most important human relationship takes us only \u003ci\u003epartway\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSo what do you do when you want a marriage that soars in a world where most crash before takeoff? What do you do when you have a dream for intimacy, but most married couples you know are strangers to each other? What do you do when you desire a marriage that goes all the way?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI propose that you do something different.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn this book, I’m going to show you that your desire for lifelong intimacy is a God-given desire. And I’m going to help you prepare for that relationship. But we’re not going to travel the typical path. Ours will be delightfully different. Oddly godly. I won’t try to fool you–a good marriage is never easy. But it \u003ci\u003eis \u003c\/i\u003eabsolutely possible.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you haven’t traveled the sinful road, laced with land mines, I hope to help you stay off that path. And if you’ve already taken some hits, we’ll be able to relate and then begin to identify a God-blessed way forward. Together we’ll plan for your relational success, examining how to conduct your relationships in a positive, fulfilling way. I’ll offer ideas about what to do and what \u003ci\u003enot \u003c\/i\u003eto do. You’ll learn to prepare for a marriage that goes all the way to God’s best. A marriage that doesn’t just survive, but thrives.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLet me warn you: this book may require a radical shift in your thinking. If small changes would do the trick, everyone would be making them. Minor adjustments produce marginal results. Most of us need to overhaul our thought processes. To experience the kind of relationships we long for, we must, with God’s help, prepare to be genuinely different. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe have to redefine and choose to aim for a new kind of “normal.” Because the current one doesn’t deliver. Of course, not everyone wants to get married. And not every one who wants to marry \u003ci\u003ewill \u003c\/i\u003emarry. I also know that some people do nearly everything wrong yet end up in wonderful marriages. And that some others do everything possible to find their spouses while honoring biblical guidelines and \u003ci\u003estill \u003c\/i\u003eend up in miserable  relationships.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHey, it’s a crazy world. What can I say? \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSo I can’t make guarantees. But I will present some powerful, time-tested principles based on God’s Word. His Word is true and constant, like the law of gravity is true and constant. We ignore either at our own risk. Consider what the law of gravity suggests about how to get off your roof: you may not break a leg (or worse) \u003ci\u003eever\u003c\/i\u003ey time you choose to jump, but the law of gravity definitely argues for using a ladder. Similarly, my starting point for \u003ci\u003eGoing All the Way \u003c\/i\u003eis the Bible. Because we have been created by a loving, intentional God, we’re wise to consider the relational laws He has put in place. When we don’t follow the path He lays out in Scripture, we’re inviting injury to ourselves and others. But thankfully, the opposite is also true: when we \u003ci\u003edo \u003c\/i\u003efollow the path of truth, we’re far more likely to discover and enjoy the marriage we hope for and that God desires for us.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGOOD-BYE, KELLI\u003cbr\u003eIn case you’re wondering, my seventh-grade dream girl, Kelli, wasn’t the one. (I told myself it was her loss.) After a bunch of wasted years, several misfires, some relational train wrecks, and a couple of broken hearts, I was ready to write off all hope for a great marriage. \u003ci\u003eNo one is faithful, \u003c\/i\u003eI thought. \u003ci\u003eAlmost all marriages I know stink. Why bother?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003eThen I met a girl named Amy, and God blessed our friendship. It took time for my battered heart to fully trust her–or even trust myself. But with God’s help and encouragement from friends, Amy and I grew together. We didn’t “go all the way” by the world’s definition. We wanted something more. We wanted to go all the way in truth and love. We wanted God’s normal.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSeventeen years and six children later, I’m honored to tell you that you can have hope for a great marriage. (Yes, you read that right. We have six kids. What can I say? Amy can’t keep her hands off me. What? You don’t buy that?)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNo matter what you’ve seen, how badly you’ve been hurt, or how afraid you are, with God, a lasting and intimate marriage is possible. Even in a world where happy marriages are often considered just another fairy tale, it can be real for you. If you want something few have–genuine closeness, trust, respect, and lasting commitment–you’ll have to do what few do. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGo all the way, God’s way.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn the pages ahead, we’ll find out what that really means.Previously released as Going All the Way","brand":"Multnomah","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46301428056293,"sku":"NP9781601423696","price":17.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781601423696.jpg?v=1767731905","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/love-sex-and-happily-ever-after-isbn-9781601423696","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}