{"product_id":"hot-and-bothered-isbn-9780593542569","title":"Hot and Bothered","description":"\u003cb\u003e“\u003ci\u003eHot and Bothered \u003c\/i\u003eremoves the shame, disdain, and mystery that’s surrounded menopause….An informative, entertaining and desperately needed book.” —Jen Sincero, author of \u003ci\u003eYou Are a Badass\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen Jancee Dunn hit her mid-forties, she was bombarded by seemingly random symptoms: rampant insomnia, spring-loaded nerves, weirdly dry mouth, and Rio Grande-level periods. After going to multiple doctors who ran test after fruitless test, she was surprised to finally discover the culprit—perimenopause. For more than two decades, Jancee had been reporting on mental and physical health. So if \u003ci\u003eshe\u003c\/i\u003e was unprepared for this, what about all the women who don’t write about health for a living?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eHot and Bothered\u003c\/i\u003e is the book she wishes existed as she was scrambling for information: an empowering, research-based guide on how women can tackle this new stage of life. Menopause isn’t a disease, but a natural, normal life transition.\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eWhy, then, are we still speaking in whispers about something that affects half the earth’s population?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThrough in-depth interviews with renowned menopause experts and trusted authorities, Dunn peels back the layers on this still-mystifying topic with her trademark humor and unpacks the science on both hormonal and nonhormonal treatments. She provides actionable ways to improve sleep, sex, moods, mental clarity, and skin; details the latest treatments for hot flashes; and explores the best practices to stop “peezing” (that would be peeing when you sneeze, thanks to your new urinary issues). Dunn’s clear, easy-to-follow advice will help you reclaim yourself—and fully embrace life’s next chapter.One of Zibby Owens’s Top 10 Books of 2023\u003cbr\u003eOne of \u003ci\u003eSheKnow\u003c\/i\u003e's 11 Books Your Need to Read If You’re Going Through Perimenopause or Menopause\u003cbr\u003eOne of \u003ci\u003eRe-Spin\u003c\/i\u003e’s 5 Books to Guide You Through Menopause\u003cbr\u003eOne of \u003ci\u003eFlow Space\u003c\/i\u003e’s 16 Books You Need to Read If You’re Going Through Perimenopause or Menopause\u003cbr\u003eOne of \u003ci\u003eBook Riot\u003c\/i\u003e’s 9 of the Best Menopause Books\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Menopause can be miserable… Jancee Dunn aims to make it better. Dunn’s well-researched, womanist point of view is powerful… A woman of any age would do well to take Dunn’s closing advice. ‘Learn everything you can about menopause, share your experience with others, seek treatment if you need it, and refrain from freaking out.’” \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—The Washington Post\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    “Menopause affects half the world’s population — yet we speak about it in whispers, or not at all. Author Jancee Dunn looks to bring transparency to an important issue, to help women tackle this next stage of life.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eThe New York Post\u003c\/i\u003e   \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “A guide that anyone who gets periods should read, a detailed and demystifying exploration of what happens as the childbearing years wind down and what experts say can make the transition time easier. It's also a frank and personal account of her own journey through menopause and a beacon of encouragement of what's on the other side.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eSalon\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“\u003ci\u003eHot and Bothered\u003c\/i\u003e removes the shame, disdain and mystery that's surrounded menopause ever since the first vaginas roamed the earth. As a longtime fan of Jancee Dunn's writing and a fairly new fan of menopause (buh-bye cramps and bloating, hello white pants!) I'm so thrilled that Jancee lends her journalistic savvy and hilarious voice to such an informative, entertaining and desperately needed book.” —\u003cb\u003eJen Sincero, author of \u003ci\u003eYou Are a Badass\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “The iconic oracle Jancee Dunn does it again. A trademark blend of humor, science and storytelling, \u003ci\u003eHot and Bothered\u003c\/i\u003e is a must read for all women and those who love them.” —\u003cb\u003eEve Rodsky, author of \u003ci\u003eFair Play\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Riveting…Dunn presents her research in a way that’s easy to digest….Something everyone with a working funny bone will appreciate is Dunn’s signature sarcasm and “I’ve-been-there” attitude that help the advice she doles out go down just a bit easier…Above all, it’s Dunn’s goal of teaching women how to educate themselves and embrace life’s next chapter instead of ‘suffering in silence’ that makes this book worth reading and discussing.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eSan Francisco Chronicle\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“[Dunn] offers clear information and humor to address a transition that happens to 50 percent of the world's population.” \u003cb\u003e—WNYC\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Dunn shares practical ways to ease the symptoms and reclaim your body.” \u003cb\u003e—Maria Shriver Sunday Paper\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e“[A] funny, factual      ride that bounces from interviews with innovative menopause experts, to      the history of hormone therapy, to Dunn’s own experience getting a hot      flash while interviewing a movie star.” \u003cb\u003e—Naomi Watt's \u003ci\u003eAdulted\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e“Shed[s] light on menopause and break[s] down the common misconceptions…Dunn takes a practical approach to a naturally occurring experience for women that is often treated like a secret and dives into a broad range of topics surrounding menopause.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eRe-Spin\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Smart, funny, and relatable as hell. \u003ci\u003eHot and Bothered \u003c\/i\u003eis Dunn’s honest and well-researched guide to navigating the change of life, covering everything from ways to improve sleep and sex to the newest hot flash treatments.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eSheKnows\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Smart, funny, and relatable as hell. \u003ci\u003eHot and Bothered\u003c\/i\u003e is Dunn’s honest and well-researched guide to navigating the change of life, covering everything from ways to improve sleep and sex to the newest hot flash treatments.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eFlow Space\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Dunn, a longtime health journalist, shares the skinny on the hot flashes, sweatiness, and moodiness that many women experience in the years surrounding their last menstrual period…Dunn gives good health information about hormones and insomnia, but it’s her candor and humor that make this guide stand out.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eBooklist\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“[A] useful addition for consumer health collections that need an accessible, current book about perimenopause and menopause.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eLibrary Journal\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“A great book for those of us who are wondering just what the hell is going on here… [Dunn] interviews multiple experts and gets research-based information about perimenopause and menopause, as well as the pros and cons of treatments and ways to deal with and manage symptoms. Best of all, she does it with a dry sense of humor that is much needed!” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eBook Riot\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Informative [and] astute…Dunn’s new book covers every aspect of peri- and menopause, from how sex can change, to how to talk to your partner about what you’re going through and how to find doctors who can \u003ci\u003eactually help you\u003c\/i\u003e. She is charmingly forthright, her wry humor and well-researched advice the perfect antidote to some of the more alarming material (wait, dry what?)…Dunn is unafraid to share her own experiences, embarrassments, and a few hilarious horror stories (one involving a surprise period on a boat with a bunch of strangers, and one involving pee on a front porch) with a generosity that is immensely reassuring.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eRomper\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Jancee Dunn has provided a vital guide for all women fumbling in the dark who might be wondering what on earth is happening to their bodies, their minds, their relationships, and in some cases even their careers. This is a book that dares to address the terrible taboo that shrouds menopause in perpetual shame and secrecy.” —\u003cb\u003eShirley Manson, lead singer of Garbage\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003e “Every person’s menopause experience is different, but Jancee Dunn’s book highlights with candor, thoughtfulness, and wit, a shared desire of people in that phase of life—and any phase of life, really: to be seen, heard, and loved.” —\u003cb\u003eAbby Norman, author of \u003ci\u003eAsk Me About My Uterus\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Full of actionable information and humor, and completely devoid of the medical gaslighting so many people experience as they enter perimenopause.” —\u003cb\u003eChelsea Conaboy, author of \u003ci\u003eMother Brain\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “\u003ci\u003eAre You There, Jancee? It’s Me, Ovaries\u003c\/i\u003e. This book is a gift to every woman who’s ever wondered, ‘Am I going mad?’ and ‘Why isn’t anyone talking about this stuff?’ and especially, ‘Is it hot in here, or is it just me?’\" —\u003cb\u003eFaith Salie, author of \u003ci\u003eApproval Junkie\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Janice Dunn has crafted the most up-to-date, scientifically-sound, helpful, relatable, and enjoyable book on menopause I’ve ever read.” —\u003cb\u003eLaurie Mintz, Ph.D., author of \u003ci\u003eA Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eBecoming Cliterate\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e“Hot and Bothered\u003c\/i\u003e should be required reading for every person approaching, enduring, or even contemplating menopause. I learned something on every page of this exceptional book.” —\u003cb\u003eDanielle Friedman, author of Let’s Get Physical\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Accessible, pragmatic guidance on navigating menopause and an indictment of the cultural silence and medical ignorance surrounding an experience shared by half the population.\" \u003cb\u003e—Maya Dusenbery, author of \u003ci\u003eDoing Harm\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eJancee Dunn\u003c\/b\u003e is the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of eight books, including \u003ci\u003eHow Not to hate Your Husband After Kids \u003c\/i\u003eand her essay collection \u003ci\u003eWhy Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo?\u003c\/i\u003e, a finalist for the Thurber Prize for American Humor. She is a frequent contributor to \u003ci\u003eThe New York Times\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eVogue\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eO, The Oprah Magazine\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eParents\u003c\/i\u003e. She lives in New Jersey with her husband, writer Tom Vanderbilt, and their daughter.\u003cb\u003eCHAPTER 1\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eWhat to Expect When You’re No Longer Expecting\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eMenopause is a condition shared by half the population – \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eso why isn’t anyone sharing any information about it? \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"In my adult life, I don’t recall one serious conversation \u003cbr\u003e with another woman about what to expect.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e—Oprah Winfrey[i]\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"I’m hot, because I have a very rare medical condition called menopause. It’s only about one in one woman who experience it, so it’s a little bit under the radar at the moment. Nobody really knows anything about it, because it’s not something that happens to men, so there’s no data or research.\"\u003cbr\u003e  —\u003ci\u003eEnglish comedian Bridget Christie[ii]\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn the summer of my 45th year, I suddenly found myself lurching awake at 3 a.m. with the sort of instant alertness that meant hours of sleeplessness lay ahead. Staring into the darkness during what author Samantha Irby has called \"menopause o’clock,\"[iii] I would attempt all the soothing, borderline-monotonous mind tricks I’d recommended as a longtime health writer: progressive stretching exercises, reciting state capitals, planning weekly meals. None of these worked. In the daytime, I stumbled around, fuzzy and fatigued, trying to keep pace with my toddler.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e One supposedly effective trick to bring on slumber is to take a mental tour of your childhood home. And so, on one sleepless night, I visited my former house in Pittsburgh, last seen in 1975. Here was the avocado-colored fridge in the kitchen, there was the brown plaid couch that sagged in the middle. By the couch sat a fake-wood side table, which contained an embedded metal ashtray. When my parents finished huffing a Kool, they could push a button on top of the ashtray, which spun the ashes and butts into a mottled collection bin below, where the smoky mulch remained for months. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhy didn’t my parents empty the reeking table ashtray? I wondered one night. Maybe they were comforted by the smell of old cigarette butts? The ashtrays in our Buick LeSabre were always filled to overflowing, too. When did cars start phasing out ashtrays and cigarette lighters?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy meandering thoughts were narcotizing enough, yet I still couldn’t drop off. What the hell was wrong with me? I had never had sleep problems in my life. I turned over, careful not wake my husband, or jostle my boobs, which had been sore lately.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I froze. \u003ci\u003eMy boobs, which had been sore lately\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Hold up. When was my last period? I calculated backwards. Two months. I had gone off the pill, but we practiced the horribly named \"rhythm method,\" in which we avoided sex during my supposedly fertile times.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy blood chilled further as I realized I was bloated, too. \"Tom,\" I whispered. It was nearly dawn, anyway, and our two-year-old daughter would be awake soon. He opened his eyes blearily; as I told him my suspicions, he abruptly sat up. We had always wanted one child, and we were happy with our choice. We had never even considered another. Nor was I young: I’d had Sylvie the week before my 43rd birthday, after a so-called \"geriatric pregnancy.\" I did not envision myself as a 45 (soon to be 46) year old parent to another newborn. I had already developed lower back problems from lifting our kid.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTom and I sat quietly on the bed, our heads whirling with the emotional, financial, and logistical complications of having another child. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFinally, he reached over and squeezed my hand. \"If this turns out to be a pregnancy, well, then…\" He broke off, then gathered himself. \"Well, then, we’ll make it work.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI covered his hand with mine. \"I was thinking the same thing,\" I said in a high, choked voice.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e***\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI wasn’t pregnant.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I had skipped my periods because I was perimenopausal.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I know this now, but I didn’t then. In my mid-40s, the idea of perimenopause — the term for the transition into menopause, \"peri\" meaning \"around\"—simply hadn’t occurred to me. I was taking my toddler to Elmo-themed birthday parties. Acne congregated on my chin. I still bought my pajamas from teen websites because they were cheaper (I just avoided the crop tops). I had a vague idea that menopause awaited, hazily, in the future—but that was still far off, when I’d start wearing visor hats and orthopedic food-service clogs. Wasn’t menopause for older ladies? It had always been an easy subject to stash away.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSoon after, my periods grew more erratic: a drought one month, the Rio Grande the next. Perimenopause lasts, on average, for four years but can stretch to eight, and symptoms can sneak up on you —and before you’re fully aware, they become your new normal.[iv] [v] My nails took on a flaky, baklava-like texture. My mouth became so dry that I began hacking like my hairball-prone cat. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOne night, I woke up drenched from head to toe. Immediately, I assumed I had peed the bed—as a former bedwetter, you never quite outgrow that feeling of \u003ci\u003eOh Lord, I did it again\u003c\/i\u003e. My last incident had been in high school, when I’d received a coveted invitation to a sleepover at Kim Kelly’s house. Every moment of that night is etched in my brain. First, we watched a \u003ci\u003eLove Boat\u003c\/i\u003e episode starring Sherman Hemsley and Jaclyn Smith while guzzling can after can of grape Shasta.[vi] When it was time for bed, Kim’s older brother Raymond commandeered their one bathroom for what seemed like hours. (\u003ci\u003eWhat could he be doing in there\u003c\/i\u003e? I remember thinking, naively.) Eventually, as I nervously waited in one of Kim’s twin beds for Raymond to leave, I fell asleep. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLater that night, I was horrified to discover that I had duly peed Kim’s bed. This would be all over the school Monday morning unless I acted quickly. While Kim slept, I stealthily removed the fitted sheet, fanned it up and down for an hour until it was dry, then, slowly and quietly, turned the mattress over and replaced the sheet. \u003cbr\u003e Kim never knew.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI had the same feeling of dread as I lay, stuck to my sheets. Why did I guzzle so much lemonade last night? Did the pee reach my sleeping husband? \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTom heard me stirring, turned over, and stared, confused, at my wet hair, which was plastered to my head.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"Did you just work out?\" he said, squinting at me. No, I told him. Nor, I eventually figured out, had I peed myself. It was night sweats.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Peeing myself was still ahead.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e***\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e At my annual physical a few months later, I mentioned the night sweats to my doctor, who ran a battery of fruitless tests and concluded that it was probably “stress.” This conveniently vague quasi diagnosis was not exactly wrong—who doesn’t have stress?—but is used, research shows, more often on female patients  As the months rolled on and my symptoms piled up, I saw a dentist for my bleeding gums, a dermatologist for my crawlingly itchy skin, a cardiologist for my irregular heartbeat. After spending countless hours in doctors’ waiting rooms, I had caught up on all the latest issues of \u003ci\u003eReader’s Digest\u003c\/i\u003e but was no closer to any sort of prognosis. Not one connected my symptoms to menopause.  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy experience was not exactly novel:  perimenopausal women can spend several years trying to get the right diagnosis and treatment. Medicine, of course, has a long history of telling women that their symptoms are all in their heads; it’s even more common, studies have found, for women of color and those of larger size.[vii] [viii]\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When I finally figured out what was happening to my body and brain, I was floored. How could I have been so clueless? I’m a health writer, for God’s sake. For more than two decades, I’ve been reporting on mental and physical health for publications such as \u003ci\u003eThe New York Times, Vogue\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eO, The Oprah Magazine\u003c\/i\u003e. I had a longtime sex column in \u003ci\u003eGQ\u003c\/i\u003e. I’ve written countless articles about women’s health, and I have interviewed hundreds of physicians and scientists over the years. As a patient, I diligently schedule all my annual \"well visits\" in January. I am what doctors would call a \"well-informed active self-manager of my medical care.\" How is it that I never had a single conversation, with anybody, about a life transition that lasts for years, sometimes a decade-plus?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e And if I was unprepared, what about all women who \u003ci\u003edon’t\u003c\/i\u003e write about health for a living? I tell Makeba Williams, M.D., Certified Menopause Practitioner and Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Washington University, how mortified I am that I didn’t pick up on this.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"Oh, you can’t believe the bewilderment that I encounter on a daily basis,\" she says. \"Menopause is so little talked about as a transition in our lives that it really catches people off guard. So they come in blindsided, having no understanding that many of these changes that they’re experiencing are related to a normal, natural physiologic event. Or they’re been grossly misinformed, and I sort of have to bring them back and reset.\" She sighs. \"We haven’t done the anticipatory guidance to prepare women. We have to create expectations around menopause and normalize it, just like we do for puberty.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"Hey, I’m in D.C. where you’re got the smartest, wealthiest people on the planet,\" chimes in urologist and Sexual Medicine specialist Rachel S. Rubin, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor in Urology at Georgetown University Hospital, \"and they are fucking clueless.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCertainly, my mother, who gritted through The Change in silence, never said a word to me about it.  We have coming-of-age ceremonies for girls who are becoming women, such as the Jewish \u003ci\u003ebat mitzvah\u003c\/i\u003e, and celebratory rituals such as wedding and baby showers where vital information is exchanged to help prepare the person to enter the next realm of life. There’s no Menopause Shower, where a woman can receive gifts like retinol-infused neck cream and vaginal lube. While girls often receive The Talk before their first period, no one gives you a Menopause Talk before your final one.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e That includes many doctors. A 2013 survey found that less than one in five ob\/gyn residents received any formal menopause training at all.[ix] Not until 1993 were “women and minorities” federally mandated to be included in clinical trials.[x]\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e And don’t think that physicians who specialize in women’s health get any more insight into this phenomenon. A 2019 survey of internal medicine and ob\/gyn residents found that only 6.8 percent of felt \"adequately prepared\" to manage women experiencing menopause. Menopause used to be the domain of gynecologists, but as the 2013 survey coauthor Wen Shen, MD, assistant professor in the Johns Hopkins Medicine department of Gynecology and Obstetrics in Baltimore, tells me, the field has splintered into more procedural-based areas like infertility, which can be more lucrative.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"It comes down to the business of medicine,\" she says. \"When you treat patients in menopause, you’re not doing any procedures, so you’re not getting any reimbursement.\" (To put this in perspective, according to the nonprofit FAIR Health, the national average cost for an obstetrician to deliver a baby vaginally in 2018 was $12,290.[xi]) \"It’s also a very time-consuming consultation with a provider – that’s a big part of it, too,\" adds Shen.  \"and at the very top, medicine is still a very paternalistic establishment.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e My friend Mira, who realized she had gone a year without her period, booked an appointment with her ob\/gyn to craft a menopause action plan. After a few desultory questions, her ob\/gyn handed her a pamphlet on menopause, suggested she take up yoga, and hustled her out the door. “She wasn’t being dismissive,” says Mira. \"I just think she didn’t know what to tell me.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Even if women know what symptoms to look for and actually seek treatment, a Yale School of Medicine study found that they aren’t likely to get it. Researchers looked at insurance claims from 500,000 women and found that three quarters of the women who sought medical attention for their menopause symptoms got no treatment at all.[xii] A 2021 AARP survey of women age 35 and up found that only 18 percent said they felt \"very informed\" about what to expect in menopause and perimenopause.[xiii]\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In other words, 82 percent of us are walking around largely oblivious about the most significant change in our physical lives since puberty.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cu\u003eChapter 1 Footnotes\u003c\/u\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e [i] \u003cb\u003eIn my adult life…:\u003c\/b\u003e Oprah Winfrey, “How Heart Palpitations Led Oprah to Discover She Was Approaching Menopause,” Oprah.com, September 24, 2019, https:\/\/www.oprah.com\/health_wellness\/oprah-reveals-how-she-realized-she-was-approaching-menopause.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[ii] \u003cb\u003eI have a very rare condition called menopause:\u003c\/b\u003e Bridget Christie (Guilty Feminist), “Fighting for Hope with Bridget Christie,” YouTube channel, October 11, 2021. https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=llrD5GZXNvo\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[iii] \u003cb\u003emenopause o’clock:\u003c\/b\u003e Samantha Irby (@bitchesgottaeat), “…deliriously awake at menopause o’clock,” January 20, 2021, https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CKQd0Kgg2Zf\/?hl=en.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[iv] \u003cb\u003eperimenopause lasts, on average, for four years: \u003c\/b\u003e“Perimenopause,” Cleveland Clinic, last modified October 15, 2021, https:\/\/my.clevelandclinic.org\/health\/diseases\/21608-perimenopause#:~:text=The%20average%20length%20of%20perimenopause,are%20no%20longer%20in%20perimenopause.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e[v]\u003c\/b\u003e perimenopause can stretch to eight [years]: Menopause 101: “A Primer for the Perimenopausal,” The North American Menopause Society, accessed July 8, 2022, https:\/\/www.menopause.org\/for-women\/menopauseflashes\/menopause-symptoms-and-treatments\/menopause-101-a-primer-for-the-perimenopausal.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[vi] \u003cb\u003eFirst, we watched a Love Boat episode starring Sherman Helmsley and Jaclyn Smith\u003c\/b\u003e: Mandi Bierly, “The Love Boat on DVD: Heaven of Hell?” \u003ci\u003eEntertainment Weekly, \u003c\/i\u003elast modified October 27, 2008, https:\/\/ew.com\/article\/2008\/10\/27\/the-love-boat-j\/.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[vii] \u003cb\u003eit’s even more common, studies have shown, for women of color:\u003c\/b\u003e “Unequal Treatment: Confronting Racial and Ethnic Disparities in Health Care,” National Library of Medicine, accessed July 8, 2022, https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/25032386\/. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[viii] \u003cb\u003eand those of larger size…:\u003c\/b\u003e Jennifer A. Lee and Cat J Pausé, “Stigma in Practice: Barriers to Health for Fat Women,” \u003ci\u003eFrontiers in Pyscology\u003c\/i\u003e 7, no. 2063, (2016), doi: 10.3389\/fpsyg.2016.02063. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[ix] \u003cb\u003eA 2013 survey found that just 20 percent of ob\/gyn residents received any sort of formal menopause training at all:\u003c\/b\u003e Mindy S. Christianson et al., “Menopause Education: Needs Assessment of American Obstetrics and Gynecology Resident,” November 2013, https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/23632655\/#affiliation-1.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[x] \u003cb\u003eNot until 1993 were “women and minorities” federally mandated in clinical trials:\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Institute of Medicine, “NIH Revitalization Act of 1993 Public Law 103-43” in \u003ci\u003eWomen and Health Research: Ethical and Legal Issues of Including Women in Clinical Studies, \u003c\/i\u003eeds. AC Mastroianni, R, Faden, and D. Federman (National Academies Press, 1994), https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/books\/NBK236531\/.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[xi] \u003cb\u003eTo put this in perspective, according to the nonprofit FAIR Health, the national average cost for an obstetrician to deliver a baby: \u003c\/b\u003e“Royal Birth Spotlights US Childbirth Costs, Fair Health, June 28, 2018, https:\/\/www.fairhealth.org\/article\/royal-birth-spotlights-us-childbirth-costs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[xii] \u003cb\u003eResearchers looked at insurance claims from 500,000 women and found that three quarters of the women who sought medical attention for their menopause symptoms: \u003c\/b\u003eKaren N. Peart,\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e“The High Cost of Hot Flashes in Menopause,” Yale School of Medicine, August 27, 2014, https:\/\/medicine.yale.edu\/news-article\/the-high-cost-of-hot-flashes-in-menopause\/.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e[xiii] \u003cb\u003eA 2021 AARP survey of women age 35 and up found that only 18 percent said they felt “very informed”:\u003c\/b\u003e Cheryl Lampkin and Colette Thayer, “Perimenopause Is More than Hot Flashes: What Women Need to Know,” AARP, May 2021, https:\/\/www.aarp.org\/research\/topics\/health\/info-2021\/perimenopause-hormonal-changes-impact.html.And How to Finally Feel Like Yourself Again","brand":"G.P. 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