{"product_id":"getting-over-ourselves-isbn-9781394169856","title":"Getting Over Ourselves","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cb\u003e2025 Nautilus Award Winner\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMove beyond empty \"life hacks\" to connect with your deepest humanity\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves: Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and Narcissism,\u003c\/i\u003e human development specialist and leadership coach Christina Congleton delivers an insightful and urgently needed discussion of how people can break out of the tired cliches of the self-help genre, and move toward new levels of connection, engagement, and capacity in navigating an uncertain world.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIn the book, you'll explore how modern attitudes of individualism that were once freeing now converge with environmental destruction, inequality, and an alarming uptick in depression, substance abuse, and suicide to significantly damage the potential of people everywhere. You'll also find concrete strategies—rooted in developmental psychology—that show us new ways to approach these challenging times.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves\u003c\/i\u003e offers:\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eInsights into why “life hacks,” productivity seminars, and more \"adulting\" are not the solutions to the issues faced by people today\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eFrameworks that reject the idea that there is a separate, solitary self in need of constant improvement, and connect you with your deepest humanity\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eEffective techniques for fending off burnout and ways to move beyond the unsatisfactory status quo\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAn essential and timely work, \u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves\u003c\/i\u003e is the antidote to the skin-deep, ineffective \"self-help\" material that you've been looking for.\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments xi\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIntroduction 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart I the Urgency to Get Over Our Selves 5\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e1 A World on Edge 7\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eParadise Burning 8\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStressed to Death 12\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA Failed Prediction 15\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eKeynes Versus Hayek 17\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism 24\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e2 Lost Heroes 29\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSelfie Generation 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLonely Generation 38\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBurnout Generation 42\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLost Generation 47\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAnother Failed Prediction? 51\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e3 Spirals of Change 55\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat Was Enlightenment? 56\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFrom Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer 58\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTracing the Path of Human Development 61\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Opportunist (Self-Sovereign Mind) 64\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Diplomat and Expert (Socialized Mind) 66\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Achiever (Self-Authoring Mind) 71\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eToxic Achieverism 72\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSpiral to Arc 74\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e4 Wandering at an Apex 77\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Self-Questioning Transformer 77\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNavigating the Postmodern Terrain 82\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNeoliberal Quicksand 87\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDestroy This Model 88\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSlipping Through the Cracks 89\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart II Un-self Help 93\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e5 Selfies and Self-Realization 95\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eGuidepost 1: From Self-Perfection to the Wisdom of Humility\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNarcissism as Mistaken Identity 96\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDefault Mode 100\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNarrative Versus Minimal Self 102\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe True Meaning of Humility 105\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Richness of Self-Realization 107\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAnchoring in the Practice of Embodiment 109\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e6 Loneliness and Oneness 117\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eGuidepost 2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePhysical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes 118\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePsychological Interdependence: The Resonant Brain 125\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSpiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny 132\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAnchoring in the Practice of Connection 134\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e7 Burnout and Wholeheartedness 139\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eGuidepost 3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhen Your Heart’s Not in It 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHeart as Escape Hatch 145\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMark of the Valkyries 147\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eReal Compassion 149\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eVulnerable Confidence 151\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Heart of Yes and No 153\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAnchoring in the Practice of Courage 154\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e8 Lost and Liberated 159\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eGuidepost 4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDare to Not Know 164\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStaying with Uncertainty 166\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Cure in Curiosity 168\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRelaxing into Insight 169\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Mindful Brain 173\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Modern Mindfulness Trap 176\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAnchoring in the Practice of Wonder 179\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart III Concluding and Beginning 183\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e9 Friends Between Worlds 185\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCalling All Builders 187\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePower in Diversity, Diversity in Power 188\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMoving Slowly 189\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eListening Deeply 191\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLoving Fiercely 192\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eI Don’t Want to Move to Mars 193\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRoom for Alternatives 195\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHeroes of Belonging 196\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNotes 199\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eReferences 203\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eRecommended Reading 239\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the Author 241\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 243\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eCHRISTINA CONGLETON\u003c\/b\u003e is a human development specialist and leadership coach. Her writing has appeared in publications including \u003ci\u003eHarvard Business Review\u003c\/i\u003e. Christina coaches in private practice with Axon Leadership and partners with consultancies to deliver coaching around the world. She lives outside Denver with her family.   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSometimes it seems that no amount or combination of time optimization, side hustles, and productivity enhancement can help us rid ourselves of constant feelings that we’re just not doing “enough” or that we’re not doing things “right.” But where can we turn to when the typical diet of self-help and motivational book therapy doesn’t seem to solve the problem? \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves: Moving Beyond a Culture of Burnout, Loneliness, and  Narcissism\u003c\/i\u003e, human development specialist and leadership coach Christina Congleton delivers an incisive and timely exploration of how people, particularly millennials, can get beyond the tired clichés of the self-help genre and gain unexpected capacities to thrive and lead. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe author examines how crushing student debt loads, consecutive financial crises, and a surprising uptick in depression, substance abuse, and suicide are combining to reduce the otherwise extraordinary potential of millennials everywhere. She also provides concrete strategies rooted in developmental psychology to counteract those negative influences and help people from a variety of backgrounds flourish. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn this book, you’ll find insights into why “life hacks,” productivity seminars, and more “adulting” are not the solutions to the issues faced by the millennial generation. Instead, you’ll find a framework that rejects the idea that there is a separate, solitary “self” in need of constant improvement, connecting you with your deeper humanity. You’ll also discover effective techniques for fending off burnout and move beyond your unsatisfactory status quo. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe antidote to the skin-deep, ineffective, and counter-productive “self-help” material you’ve been finding elsewhere, \u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves\u003c\/i\u003e is a must-read resource for young and mid-career professionals, business leaders, members of new and growing families, and anyone else hoping to simply get more out of life. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePerfect for young and mid-career professionals, business leaders, workers, people in new and growing families, and anyone seeking  less “productivity enhancement” and more contentment, \u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves\u003c\/i\u003e is an ideal prescription for the generation that’s experienced more stress and upheaval than many others.      \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003csmall\u003ePRAISE FOR\u003c\/small\u003e GETTING OVER OURSELVES\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"A timely and thorough exploration of how we can let go of societal expectations and connect to our true self through humility, embodiment and rediscovering a sense of awe and wonder in the world around us.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eLODRO RINZLER,\u003c\/b\u003e author of books including \u003ci\u003eThe Buddha Walks into a Bar, The Buddha Walks into the Office\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eTake Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times\u003c\/i\u003e, and co-founder of MNDFL meditation studios\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Congleton's touching stories, research base, and practical nudges offer an elegantly written invitation to embrace the interdependence of self and system, eschewing what has become a norm of self-striving. She gives us hope that our warm embrace will result in good company on the journey of learning, unlearning, growth, and ultimately rebuilding a thriving society for all.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eELISE FOSTER,\u003c\/b\u003e executive coach and co-author, \u003ci\u003eThe Multiplier Effect\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eBeautiful Questions in the Classroom\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"In a world of disquiet and disconnection, this book provides a critical lens on how to focus inward so we can connect with others in more meaningful ways. Christina Congleton provides a rich tapestry of scholarship, woven together in an accessible way, with actionable guideposts, so that we can become the heroes of belonging we desperately need and yearn for. If the next generations of leaders are going to effectively navigate the challenges we will all inevitably face, we need accessible resources to support our learning, growth, and development. In \u003ci\u003eGetting Over Ourselves\u003c\/i\u003e, Christina Congleton provides one such text. As a result of her vision for and commitment to a better world, we now have a brilliant book that illuminates why change is necessary and how we each might strategically transform ourselves to be more meaningfully connected inward—and outward.\"\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eJONATHAN KROLL,\u003c\/b\u003e founder and executive director, Leadership Trainer; author of \u003ci\u003ePreparing Leadership Educators: A Comprehensive Guide to Theories, Practices, and Facilitation Skills\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Wiley","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47989288108261,"sku":"NP9781394169856","price":28.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781394169856.jpg?v=1761783529","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/getting-over-ourselves-isbn-9781394169856","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}