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Loftus, Head of Procter \u0026amp; Gamble Far East\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “For women, empowering and enabling.”  \u003cb\u003eUmber Ahmad, Exec Director, Platinum Gate Capital Management; former vice president, Goldman Sachs\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Invaluable in helping me achieve my goals, whether on the field, in the office, or at home with my five children.” \u003cb\u003eAnthony Noto, CFO, National Football League\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “There isn’t an hour that goes by in my personal and professional lives when I \u003ci\u003edon’t \u003c\/i\u003euse what I learned from you…”  \u003cb\u003eBill Ruhl, Director, National Customer Service Operations, Verizon\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Wonderful!” \u003cb\u003eLaura Chavez, Host, ABC’s “Let’s Talk Live.”\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eSTUART DIAMOND \u003c\/b\u003eis one of the world’s leading experts on negotiation. He has advised executives and managers from more than 200 of the Fortune 500 companies, and taught 30,000 people in 45 countries, from country leaders and professionals to homemakers and school children. A professor from practice at The Wharton School of business, where his course has been the most popular over 13 years, he has also taught at Harvard, Columbia, NYU, USC, Oxford and Berkeley, and advised the U.N. and the World Bank.  A former associate director of the Harvard Negotiation Project at Harvard Law School, he has managed a variety of business ventures, including technology, medical services, energy, agriculture, finance and aviation. \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e He holds a J.D. from Harvard Law School and an MBA from Wharton. Previously, Diamond was a Pulitzer Prize–winning reporter for the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e. His negotiation process solved the 2008 Hollywood Writers Strike, and has been selected by Google to train its 30,000 employees worldwide. Other clients include JP Morgan, Morgan Stanley, Microsoft and multiple companies in the healthcare field. He advised the top government leaders in Latvia in organizing their government after the fall of the Soviet Union, assisted Kuwait in rebuilding its government after the first Gulf War and advised the President and Foreign Minister of Nicaragua on more effective media and political strategies.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e He also helps parents to get their young children to willingly brush their teeth and go to bed and shows employees and executives how to get better jobs and raises.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e For more information, visit www.gettingmore.com1\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThinking Differently\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy run slowed to a jog as we approached the gate for our ﬂight to Paris. The plane was still there, but the door to the Jetway was shut. The gate agents were quietly sorting tickets. They had already retracted the hood connecting the Jetway to the airplane door.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Hi, we’re on this ﬂight!” I panted.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Sorry,” said the agent. “We’re done boarding.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“But our connecting ﬂight landed just ten minutes ago. They promised us they would call ahead to the gate.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Sorry, we can’t board anyone after they’ve closed the door.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy boyfriend and I walked to the window in disbelief. Our long weekend was about to fall to pieces. The plane waited right before our eyes. The sun had set, and the pilots’ downturned faces were bathed in the glow of their instrument panel. The whine of the engines intensiﬁed and a guy with lighted batons sauntered onto the tarmac.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI thought for a few seconds. Then I led my boyfriend to the center of the window right in front of the cockpit. We stood there, in plain sight, my entire being focused on the pilot, hoping to catch his eye.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOne of the pilots looked up. He saw us standing forlornly in the window. I looked him in the eye, plaintively, pleadingly. I let my bags slump by my feet. We stood there for what seemed an eternity. Finally, the pilot’s lips moved and the other pilot looked up. I caught his eye, as well, and he nodded.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe engine whine softened and we heard the gate agent’s phone ring. She turned to us, wide-eyed. “Grab your stuff!” she said. “The pilot said to let you on!” Our vacation restored, we clutched each other joyously, snatched our bags, waved to the pilots, and tumbled down the Jetway to our plane.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e—rayenne chen, Wharton Business School, Class of 2001\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe story above, told to me by a student in my negotiation course, was clearly an account of a negotiation. Completely nonverbal, to be sure. But it was done in a conscious, structured, and highly effective way. And it used six separate negotiation tools that I teach that are, in practice, invisible to almost everyone.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat are they? First, be dispassionate; emotion destroys negotiations. You must force yourself to be calm.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSecond, prepare, even for ﬁve seconds. Collect your thoughts.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThird, ﬁnd the decision-maker. Here, it was the pilot. There was not a second to waste on the gate agent, who was not about to change company policy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFourth, focus on your goals, not on who is right. It didn’t matter if the connecting airline was late, or wrong in not calling ahead to the gate. The goal was to get on the plane to Paris.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFifth, make human contact. People are almost everything in a negotiation.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAnd ﬁnally, acknowledge the other party’s position and power, valuing them. If you do, they will often use their authority to help you achieve your goals.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThese tools are often very subtle. But they are not magic. They helped this young couple in a way they will remember for a lifetime. And they help to bring about successful negotiations, day in and day out, for those who have learned these tools from my courses. From getting a job to getting a raise, from dealing with kids to dealing with colleagues, the kind of negotiation practiced here has given upwards of thirty thousand people more power and control over their lives.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy goal with this book is to re-create my course on the page, making it available to readers everywhere. It offers a set of strategies, models, and tools that together will change the way you view and conduct virtually every human interaction. These teachings are very different from what you have read or studied about negotiation. Based on psychology, they don’t depend on “win-win” or “win-lose.” They don’t depend on being a “hard” or “soft” bargainer. They don’t depend on a rational world, on who has the most power, or on phrases that make much of negotiation seem inaccessible and impractical. Instead, they are based on how people perceive, think, feel, and live in the real world. And they will help anyone do what this book suggests: get more.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAnd that’s one of those instinctive human desires, isn’t it? More. Whenever you do almost anything, don’t you wonder if there’s more? It doesn’t have to mean more for me and less for you. It just has to be, well, more. And it doesn’t necessarily mean more money. It means more of whatever you value: more money, more time, more food, more love, more travel, more responsibility, more basketball, more TV, more music.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis book is about more: how you deﬁne it, how you get it, how you keep it. Whoever you are, wherever you are, the ideas and tools in this book were meant for you.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe world is full of negotiation books telling you how to get to yes, get past no, win, gain an advantage, close the deal, get leverage, inﬂuence or persuade others, be nice, be tough, and so forth.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBut of those who ﬁnish reading them, few can go out and do it. Besides, sometimes you may want to get to no. Or you want to get to maybe. Or you just want to delay things. But, instinctively, you always want to get more of what you want.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn Getting More, I present this information in such a way that you will actually be able to use it—immediately—whether ordering a pizza or negotiating a billion-dollar deal or asking for a discount on a blouse or a pair of pants. This is what people who take my course are required to do. I tell them to use the strategies the same day, write them down in their journals, practice them, and use them again.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWHY IS THIS SO IMPORTANT?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNegotiation is at the heart of human interaction. Every time people interact, there is negotiation going on: verbally or nonverbally, consciously or unconsciously. Driving, talking to your kids, doing errands. You can’t get away from it. You can only do it well or badly.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThat doesn’t mean you have to actively negotiate everything in your life all the time. But it does mean that those who are more conscious of the interactions around them get more of what they want in life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThere is an old maxim about the difference between expert and nonexpert knowledge. A nonexpert looks at a ﬁeld and sees ﬂat land. An expert looks at the same ﬁeld and sees small peaks and valleys. It takes no more time and energy for the expert to collect the greater amount of information from that landscape. But the expert can make much better use of that information to pursue opportunities or minimize risks.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat we are talking about in Getting More is learning better negotiation tools so that you become exquisitely more conscious of the topography of your dealings with others. The result will be a better life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLike Rayenne Chen at the opening of the book, most of those who have taken my course are ordinary people. But they have learned to achieve extraordinary results by negotiating with greater conﬁdence and skill. More than one woman from India in my class, using tools from the course, persuaded her parents to let her out of her own arranged marriage. My advice on the negotiation process helped to end the 2008 Writers Guild strike. It is the same kind of advice taught in my classes and outlined in Chapter 2. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA business student who hadn’t made it past the ﬁrst-round interview with eighteen ﬁrms took the course, applied my negotiation tools, and got twelve consecutive ﬁnal-round interviews and the job of his choice. Parents get their young children to brush their teeth without complaint.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe added up the money made and saved by students using these tools: $7 here, $132 there, $1 million or more in some cases. The total exceeded $3 billion for about a third of the stories we have collected. And that doesn’t count the marriages saved, the jobs obtained, the deals concluded, the parents who were persuaded to go to the doctor, the kids who did just what they were asked.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMost of the more than 400 anecdotes in this book use the actual names of the people involved. They will tell you how they got a raise, achieved satisfaction after buying defective merchandise, got out of a speeding ticket, got their kids to do their homework, closed a deal—how, in a million ways, their lives became better. How they got more.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor me and the tens of thousands of people I’ve taught, unless these tools work in real life, we’re not interested.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWho are these people? They come from all walks of life, and myriad cultures. Senior executives of billion-dollar companies, housewives, students in school, salespeople, administrative assistants, executives, managers, lawyers, engineers, stockbrokers, truckers, union workers, artists—you name it. And they come from around the world: the United States, Japan, China, Russia, Colombia, Bolivia, South Africa, Kuwait, Jordan, Israel, Germany, France, England, Brazil, India, Vietnam, and so forth.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThese tools work for all of them. And they will work for you, too.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLike Ben Friedman, who almost always asks the companies whose services he uses if new customers are treated better than existing, loyal customers like himself—for example, with discounts or other promotions. By asking that question one day, Ben got 33 percent off his existing New York Times subscription.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOr Soo Jin Kim, who looks for connections everywhere. One day she saved $200 a year for her daughter’s after-school French program. How? Before asking for a discount, she made a human connection with the school’s manager, talking about her trips to France. These strategies will save you a little here, a little there. But it can add up to many thousands of dollars a year.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSome make millions at the start. Paul Thurman, a management consultant in New York, reduced a large client’s expenses by 35 percent, an “incredible” twenty points more than he had been able to do before the course. He used standards, persistence, better questions, relationships, and being incremental, as learned in the course. The ﬁrst-year savings was $34 million; by now it’s over $300 million, he said. “I have a major advantage in the marketplace,” he said.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRichard Morena, then the chief ﬁnancial ofﬁcer of the Asbury Park Press, got $245 million more for the company in its sale, and $1 million more for himself, by using standards, framing, and other course tools. “I’ll keep practicing,” he said. To beneﬁt from the strategies in the book, as Richard did, you have to think differently about how you deal with others. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHOW THIS BOOK IS DIFFERENT\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat follow are the twelve major strategies that together make Getting More very different from what most people think negotiation is all about. These strategies will be expanded throughout the book, including the tools that support them and the perspectives that go with them. The strategies will be followed by chapters on how they are used in speciﬁc familiar applications, such as parenting, travel, and jobs.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo sum up, emotions and perceptions are far more important than power and logic in dealing with others. Finding, valuing, and understanding the picture in their heads produce four times as much value as conventional tools like leverage and “win-win” because (a) you have a better starting point for persuasion, (b) people are more willing to do things for you when you value them, no matter who they are, and (c) the world is mostly about emotions, not the logic of “win-win.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe strategies together amount to a different way of thinking about negotiation. It’s the difference between saying “I play football” and “I play professional football.” The two are barely even the same game.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e1. Goals Are Paramount.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGoals are what you want at the end of the negotiation that you don’t have at the beginning. Clearly, you should negotiate to meet your goals. Many, if not most, people take actions contrary to their goals because they are focused on something else. They get mad in a store or relationship. They attack the wrong people. In a negotiation, you should not pursue relationships, interests, win-win, or anything else just because you think it’s an effective tool. Anything you do in a negotiation should explicitly bring you closer to your goals for that particular negotiation. Otherwise, it is irrelevant or damaging to you. You need to ask, “Are my actions meeting my goals?”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e2. It’s About Them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou can’t persuade people of anything unless you know the pictures in their heads: their perceptions, sensibilities, needs, how they make commitments, whether they are trustworthy. Find out what third parties they respect and who can help you. How do they form relationships? Without this information, you won’t even know where to start. Think of yourself as the least important person in the negotiation. You must do role reversal, putting yourself in their shoes and trying to put them in yours. Using power or leverage can ultimately destroy relationships and cause retaliation. To be ultimately more effective (and persuasive), you have to get people to want to do things.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e3. Make Emotional Payments.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe world is irrational. And the more important a negotiation is to an individual, the more irrational he or she often becomes: whether with world peace or a billion-dollar deal, or when your child wants an ice-cream cone. When people are irrational, they are emotional. When they are emotional, they can’t listen. When they can’t listen, they can’t be persuaded. So your words are useless, especially those arguments intended for rational or reasonable people, like “win-win.” You need to tap into the other person’s emotional psyche with empathy, apologies if necessary, by valuing them or offering them other things that get them to think more clearly.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e4. Every Situation Is Different.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn a negotiation, there is no one-size-ﬁts-all. Even having the same people on different days in the same negotiation can be a different situation. You must analyze every situation on its own. Averages, trends, statistics, or past problems don’t matter much if you want to get more today and tomorrow with the people in front of you. Blanket rules on how to negotiate with the Japanese or Muslims, or that state you should never make the ﬁrst offer, are simply wrong. There are too many differences among people and situations to be so rigid in your thinking. The right answer to the statement “I hate you” is “Tell me more.” You learn what they are thinking or feeling, so that you can better persuade them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e5. Incremental Is Best.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePeople often fail because they ask for too much all at once. They take steps that are too big. This scares people, makes the negotiation seem riskier, and magniﬁes differences. Take small steps, whether you are trying for raises or treaties. Lead people from the pictures in their heads to your goals, from the familiar to the unfamiliar, a step at a time. If there is little trust, it’s even more important to be incremental. Test each step. If there are big differences between parties, move slowly toward each other, narrowing the gap incrementally.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e6. Trade Things You Value Unequally.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAll people value things unequally. First ﬁnd out what each party cares and doesn’t care about, big and small, tangible and intangible, in the deal or outside the deal, rational and emotional. Then trade off items that one party values but the other party doesn’t. Trade holiday work for more vacation, TV time for more homework, a lower price for more referrals. 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