{"product_id":"friend-foe-isbn-9780307720214","title":"Friend \u0026 Foe","description":"What does it take to succeed? This question has fueled a long-running debate. Some have argued that humans are fundamentally competitive, and that pursuing self-interest is the best way to get ahead. Others claim that humans are born to cooperate and that we are most successful when we collaborate with others.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In FRIEND \u003ci\u003eAND\u003c\/i\u003e FOE, researchers Galinsky and Schweitzer explain why this debate misses the mark. Rather than being hardwired to compete or cooperate, we have evolved to do both. In every relationship, from co-workers to friends to spouses to siblings we are both friends \u003ci\u003eand\u003c\/i\u003e foes. It is only by learning how to strike the right balance between these two forces that we can improve our long-term relationships \u003ci\u003eand\u003c\/i\u003e get more of what we want.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHere, Galinsky and Schweitzer draw on original, cutting edge research from their own labs and from across the social sciences as well as vivid real-world examples to show how to maximize success in work and in life by deftly navigating the tension between cooperation and competition. They offer insights and advice ranging from: how to gain power and keep it, how to build trust and repair trust once it’s broken, how to diffuse workplace conflict and bias, how to find the right comparisons to motivate us and make us happier, and how to succeed in negotiations – ensuring that we achieve our own goals and satisfy those of our counterparts.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAlong the way, they pose and offer surprising answers to a number of perplexing puzzles: when does \u003ci\u003etoo much\u003c\/i\u003e talent undermine success; why can acting \u003ci\u003eless\u003c\/i\u003e competently gain you status and authority, where do many gender differences in the workplace \u003ci\u003ereally \u003c\/i\u003ecome from, how can you use deception to \u003ci\u003ebuild\u003c\/i\u003e trust, and why do you want to go last on \u003ci\u003eAmerican Idol\u003c\/i\u003e and in many interview situations, but make the first offer when negotiating the sale of a new car.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe perform at our very best when we hold cooperation and competition in the right balance. This book is a guide for navigating our social and professional worlds by learning when to cooperate as a friend and when to compete as a foe—and how to be better at both.“The fresh practical insights of ‘Friend \u0026amp; Foe’ underscore the potential benefits of disseminating research results beyond the ivory tower… the authors perform a significant public service by pulling back the self-imposed veil that academics drape over their most socially relevant research.” \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Their approach yields fascinating and often counter-intuitive examples…The book aims high and largely fulfils its promise of handing the reader tools to be a better friend and a more formidable foe.…if you cannot shift between competition and co-operation according to the situation, you are doomed to lose out\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e.” Financial Times\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “But is there a little bit of Mr Trump in all powerful people? This question kept occurring to your columnist while reading a new book, ‘Friend and Foe’, by Adam Galinsky and Maurice Schweitzer. The two academics are among the pioneers of a technique called ‘power priming’, that helps people feel more masterful. They find that, once primed for power, even the most reticent people experience significant changes in their behaviour.” \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe Economist\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “[One of the new] Books That—Really!—Help”- \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eOprah.Com\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “\u003ci\u003eFriend \u0026amp; Foe \u003c\/i\u003eshows how leaders can build high-trust environments without relinquishing the power vested in them…Galinsky and Schweitzer share several applicable examples of how leaders can do this in small, useful ways.” \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eINC\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Combining their original research with existing social and psychological studies, the authors cover a broad spectrum of situations, including how to earn trust, how to recognize deception (and why cuckoo birds are masters of the art), how to get your way by seeing it “their” way, and more. By incorporating colorful anecdotes to illustrate their points, the authors of Friend and Foe make the science easier to follow. And the occasional bullet points and short chapter summaries help clarify the advice”. \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eSuccess Magazine\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Full of tips and useful advice, this title will appeal to a broad audience as well as to avid readers of business how-to.” \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eLibrary Journal Review\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “The book will make all CEOs and employees rethink their relationships.” \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eBiz Ed Magazine\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “\u003ci\u003eFriend and Foe\u003c\/i\u003e is one of the best works of popular social science I’ve read in a long time. This book is packed with so many deep insights and shrewd takeaways, I grew exhausted from taking notes!\" -\u003cb\u003e Daniel Pink, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eDrive\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eTo Sell Is Human\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “If I weren't already a social scientist, reading this book would make me want to become one. \u003ci\u003eFriend \u0026amp; Foe\u003c\/i\u003e is an engrossing page-turner on how our thoughts and behaviors are driven by the tension between cooperation and competition.” - \u003cb\u003eAmy Cuddy, author of \u003ci\u003ePresence\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “\u003ci\u003eFriend and Foe\u003c\/i\u003e is a fascinating voyage through the science of cooperation and competition. Discover why we compare ourselves to our Facebook friends, many gender differences are really due to power differences, and it’s usually best to make the first offer in a negotiation.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e- Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eGive and Take\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “A treasure trove of golden nuggets of information and gem-like insights into the processes that govern social exchange.  We all have to cooperate and compete to succeed.  \u003ci\u003eFriend and Foe \u003c\/i\u003eprovides the best roadmap I’ve ever seen for doing so—by a mile.” - \u003cb\u003eRobert B. Cialdini, bestselling Author of\u003ci\u003e INFLUENCE\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Galinsky and Schweitzer are star researchers and teachers.  Here they use their talents to bring order to the often contradictory research on when to cooperate and compete, and they distill their insights into practical tips that anybody can use.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e-Chip Heath, co-author of \u003ci\u003eMade to Stick\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eSwitch.  \u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Two of the most respected scholars on success explain how you can get along and get ahead. Their guided tour of how to cooperate and how to compete is authoritative, entertaining, and eminently practical!” -\u003cb\u003eAngela Duckworth, University of Pennsylvania \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"A fascinating read, and an eye-opening look at how we navigate an increasingly complex social world. Meticulously researched, filled with compelling real world anecdotes, Friend And Foe is a unique and vastly entertaining roadmap to improving relationships and resolving conflicts- at work, at home, and in life.\" -\u003cb\u003e  Ben Mezrich, NY times bestselling author of The Accidental Billionaires and Once Upon A Time in Russia\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \"A terrific book—full of fascinating and gee-whizzy studies and insights, with genuinely useful lessons for readers. It combines the best elements of a Malcolm Gladwell or Freakonomics book with the usefulness of smarter\/better business books.\" - \u003cb\u003eScott Stossel, Editor of the Atlantic Magazine and author of \u003ci\u003eMy\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eAge of Anxiety\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e“Whether it’s a boardroom negotiation or a breakfast table squabble, should we fight fiercely to get our way or compromise to keep the peace? Filled with captivating stories and cutting-edge science, Friend \u0026amp; Foe delivers an entertaining and practical guide that details why this is a false dichotomy. Galinsky and Schweitzer offer innovative solutions for managing the myriad conflicts that populate our daily lives.” - \u003cb\u003eLinda Babcock, Author of Women Don’t Ask\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\"Should you be cooperative or competitive?  Powerful or submissive? Hierarchical or flat? Honest or dishonest?  As Galinsky and Schweitzer show in this impressive book, the answer to each of these questions is yes!  They use a wide range of research studies coupled with dozens and dozens of colorful real-life examples to show us that simple answers to complicated questions are not to be trusted and that the secret to success is balance. This book will make you a better colleague, a better negotiator and a better person.” -\u003cb\u003e Barry Schwartz, author of The Paradox of Choice and Practical Wisdom\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eAdam Galinsky\u003c\/b\u003e is the Vikram S. Pandit Professor of Business and Chair of the Management Division at the Columbia Business School at Columbia University. He received his Ph.D. from Princeton University. \u003cb\u003eMaurice Schweitzer\u003c\/b\u003e is the Cecilia Yen Koo Professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania. He received his Ph.D. from the Wharton School. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCombined, Galinsky and Schweitzer have published over 250 scientific articles and chapters in the fields of management, psychology, and economics. Their work has been cited in The Economist, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Financial Times, The New Yorker, National Public Radio, and more.\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTABLE OF CONTENTS\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e1.       It’s All Relative \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why Expecting Fathers Gain Weight\u003cbr\u003e ·         Monkeys and the Slings and Arrows of Outrageous Social Comparisons\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why Twins Reared Apart Can Be More Similar than Twins Reared Together\u003cbr\u003e ·         Doing Better and Feeling Worse: The Benefits of Graduating in a Recession\u003cbr\u003e ·         Sputnik Moments and Halftime Scores: Behind By a Little, But Not for Long\u003cbr\u003e ·         When Comparisons Go Wild\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: How to Make Comparisons Work for Us\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e2.       It’s Good to Be the King . . . Until it Isn’t \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         It’s All in Your Head\u003cbr\u003e ·         Speeding Down the Highway with Samson’s Hair Blowing in the Wind\u003cbr\u003e ·         How to Nail a Job Interview and Become the Boss\u003cbr\u003e ·         Powerholics: Invincibility and Invisibility\u003cbr\u003e ·         The Powerful Think They Are the Only Ones on the Highway\u003cbr\u003e ·         The King’s Downfall\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: How to Speed Without Crashing\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e3.       When Hierarchy Wins . . . And When it Loses \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         The Rise of Hierarchy\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why You Want to Play a Game with Your Boss Rather Than Your Best Friend\u003cbr\u003e ·         When There Is Too Much Talent: Pecking Chickens and Squabbling Basketball Players\u003cbr\u003e ·         When Hierarchy Hurts\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: How Psychological Safety Helps Hierarchies Win Without Killing\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e4.       It’s Good to be the Queen . . . But It’s Easier Being the King \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Men Aren’t from Mars and Women Aren’t from Venus\u003cbr\u003e ·         Salaries and Sex\u003cbr\u003e ·         The Double Bind\u003cbr\u003e ·         Queen Bees: When Women Exclude Women\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: It Takes a Village to Lean in Without Getting Pushed Back\u003cbr\u003e o   The Organization\u003cbr\u003e o   Making Ourselves Blind to Undo the Double Bind\u003cbr\u003e o   Lawyers, Mama Bears, and the Power of Advocating for “Us”\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e5.       How Names Can Bond \u003ci\u003eand\u003c\/i\u003e Bully \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Names as Cooperative Glue\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why PhDs Want to Be Called Doctors\u003cbr\u003e ·         Banning the Word Bossy and Why Phillip Morris Became Altria\u003cbr\u003e ·         Reappropriation: Turning Your Weakness into Your Strength\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: Start Making Sense\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e6.       How to Get Others to Put Their Trust in You \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Smile and Get a Dog\u003cbr\u003e ·         I’m Sorry for the Rain\u003cbr\u003e ·         When It Pays to Drive Rather Than Fly\u003cbr\u003e ·         “They Did What They Had to Do”\u003cbr\u003e ·         When to Spill Your Coffee: The Hidden Strength in Vulnerability\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why Happy Families Produce Terrorists\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: Reputations and Relationships\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e7.       When and How to Raise Your Guard \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Deceptive Cuckoo Birds and Misleading Dating Profiles\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why Cheating is Like Chocolate Cake\u003cbr\u003e ·         When Deception Builds Cooperation\u003cbr\u003e ·         Going up 96 Percent of the Time, Captain Mbote, and $57 Million in Cash\u003cbr\u003e ·         Putting it All Together: Spotting Red Flags\u003cbr\u003e o   Red Flag #1: Inappropriate Behavior\u003cbr\u003e o   Red Flag #2: Running for the Exit\u003cbr\u003e o   Red Flag #3: Overcompensating\u003cbr\u003e o   Red Flag #4: Mismatch Between Words and Body Language\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: Trust but Verify\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e8.       Putting the Pieces Back Together \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why Arthur Andersen and Eliot Spitzer Never Recovered but Martha Stewart Came Back\u003cbr\u003e ·         It’s the Apology, Stupid\u003cbr\u003e ·         Why a Faulty Phone Antenna Elicited More Outrage than a Plane Crash\u003cbr\u003e ·         The Apology Formula: The Key Ingredients of Successful Apologies\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: Be Prepared to Say You’re Sorry\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e9.       Seeing it Their Way to Get Your Way \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         Getting Inside Their Head to Get a Better Deal\u003cbr\u003e ·         The Art of the Mimic\u003cbr\u003e ·         Leaping Without Looking\u003cbr\u003e ·         How Asking for Advice Can Free You from Debt\u003cbr\u003e ·         Amplified Sounds and Soothing Jangled Nerves\u003cbr\u003e ·         How to Avoid Being a Racist\u003cbr\u003e ·         \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: How to Make Sure Glue Doesn’t Become Gasoline\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e10.   When to Start Your Engines \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ·         From Political Ballots to Parole Hearings: When It’s Good to Be First\u003cbr\u003e ·         From Professors to \u003ci\u003eAmerican Idol\u003c\/i\u003e Contestants: When It’s Better to Be Last\u003cbr\u003e o   \u003cb\u003eFinding the Right Balance\u003c\/b\u003e: When to Go 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