{"product_id":"fighting-for-your-african-american-marriage-isbn-9780787955519","title":"Fighting for Your African American Marriage","description":"Fighting for Your African American Marriage gives you solid solutions to the challenges your marriage faces every day. The book contains a unique perspective and presents the powerful, proven strategies of the highly acclaimed PREP(Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach for helping black couples beat the odds and master the skills that can prevent marital distress and divorce. Acknowledgments xi \u003cp\u003eIntroduction xiii\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat Makes Our World Go 'Round 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFour Key Patterns That Destroy Oneness 27\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCommunicating Safely and Clearly: The Speaker-Listener Technique 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHandlin' Business: Problem Solving 73\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eGround Rules for Handling Conflict 99\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTiming Is Everything: Issues and Events 117\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eUnmet Expectations and What to Do About Them 137\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStickin' Together: Commitment 155\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCore Belief Systems: Religious, Spiritual, and Otherwise 175\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eForgiving, Forgetting, and Intimacy 199\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePreserving and Protecting Friendship 219\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMarriage and Fun: They Go Together! 231\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSexual Healing 243\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eKeeping It Together 255\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSelected Research and Resources 269\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMore Information on the PREP Approach 277\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFinding a Counselor When You Need One 279\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSome Thoughts on Domestic Violence 283\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the Authors 285\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 287\u003c\/p\u003e Adhering to the blueprint of their highly successful Fighting for Your Marriage: Positive Steps for Preventing Divorce and Preserving a Lasting Love (1994), the authors outline the \"Four Key Patterns That Destroy Oneness\" (escalation; invalidation, withdrawal and avoidance; negative interpretation), the \"Speaker\/Listener Technique\" for clarifying problems and methods of \"Problem Solving,\" with \"Ground Rules for Handling Conflict.\" Readers learn to distinguish between issues and events and to recognize the need for commitment, forgiveness, intimacy, friendship, sex and fun in a successful relationship. Brief anecdotes and conversations bring an immediacy and familiarity to the text, and exercises at the end of each chapter provide practice. With the inclusion of Whitfield, Pennsylvania State University professor of behavioral health and the only African-American among the authors, this work sensitively and forthrightly addresses the \"special issues\" and concerns of African-American couples, which include the \"the pressure of racism--stereotyped gender roles--the extended family of kin and non-blood relations--\"the special role of the church\" as well as economic issues and concerns \"regarding interracial intimacy.\" The breadth of class and occupation covered enriches the book, as does the recognition that marital problems in couples of any race or ethnicity may involve where to have dinner or what video to rent. An eminently readable and practical guide. (Publishers Weekly, September 10, 2001)  Keith E. Whitfield, Ph.D., is professor at Penn State University, and a researcher who has specialized in issues related to the black family. \u003cbr\u003e  Howard Markman, Ph.D., is internationally known for his work on divorce prevention. He is professor of psychology and codirector of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver. \u003cbr\u003e  Scott Stanley, Ph.D. is a noted expert on marriage and commitment, and is codirector of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver. He has coauthored A Lasting Promise, the Christian version of this book. \u003cbr\u003e  Susan L. Blumberg, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, director of Interpersonal Communication Options, and specializes in helping families and couples revitalize their relationships.  \u003ci\u003eFighting for Your African American Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e offers black couples a practical, down-to-earth guide-grounded in more than twenty years of research-that shows what you can do to enhance your marriage, prevent divorce, and put more joy into your life as a couple. The authors of \u003ci\u003eFighting for Your African American Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e understand  \u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eThe stress that the everyday pressures of racism-on the job, in school, and at the mall-put on how you get along as husband and wife\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eHow stereotyped gender roles can undermine and demoralize your marriage\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eThe difficulties of staying afloat economically in a society where higher unemployment, lower incomes, and below average educational opportunities for African Americans are the norm\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eThe special issues you face in raising, nurturing, and disciplining children in a society that discriminates against them\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e  \u003ci\u003eFighting for Your African American Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e gives you solid solutions to the challenges your marriage faces every day. The book contains a unique perspective and presents the powerful, proven strategies of the highly acclaimed PREPä (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach for helping black couples beat the odds and master the skills that can prevent marital distress and divorce.   A Selection of the \u003ci\u003eBlack Expressions Book Club\u003c\/i\u003e","brand":"Jossey-Bass","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47989207236837,"sku":"NP9780787955519","price":26.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780787955519.jpg?v=1761783209","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/fighting-for-your-african-american-marriage-isbn-9780787955519","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}