{"product_id":"destructive-myths-in-family-therapy-isbn-9780470667002","title":"Destructive Myths in Family Therapy","description":"Exposes destructive patterns of communication within family cultures and provides strategies for promoting more open dialogue among family members. \u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e   \u003cul type=\"disc\"\u003e \u003cli\u003eEquips family therapists to help clients see the barriers they place in the way of healthy communication, and adopt more constructive alternatives\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eProvides activities designed to spark open dialogue between therapist and clients, strengthening the therapeutic relationship and facilitating family interaction\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eIncludes communication strategies for reversing disengagement, defusing power struggles, overcoming sibling rivalry, disentangling marital problems and more\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eOffers a new understanding of family dynamics, an area in which many family therapists want to improve their skills but have struggled to find a text to guide them in doing so\u003c\/li\u003e \u003c\/ul\u003e  Preface xiii  \u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments xvii\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart I Seeing – The Choices weMake\u003c\/b\u003e 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e1. Blindness, orWith EyesWide Shut\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e5\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eDangers, Taboos, and Punishments 8\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIdentified Patients 9\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA Continuum of Blindness 10\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTotal blindness 11\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTunnel vision 11\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePartial vision 12\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBroad vistas 12\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eClear vision 12\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSurprise, Surprise! 13\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Irreversibility of Seeing 14\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 15\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 Pin the tail 15\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Blind walk 15\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Blind spots 16\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Train ride 16\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Picture gallery 17\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 To see ourselves as others see us 17\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e2. Distortions, or It’s All for the Best!\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e18\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA Few Ego Defense Mechanisms 20\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFamily Defense Mechanisms 21\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 30\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 Family map 1 30\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Family map 2 31\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Family gossip 31\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4What do the neighbors think about us? 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Masquerade 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e3. Insight through Therapy, or To See or Not To See\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e33\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Goals of Therapy 35\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStages of Therapy 37\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStage 1: Insightful recognition of PFPs 37\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStage 2: The implementation of change 40\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStage 3: Evaluation and conclusion 47\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 Family pain mapping 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Genogram 49\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Roles 50\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 A sack of stones 50\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Conflict orWhat is this quarrel about? 51\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6Windows 51\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e4. Making TherapyWork, or PracticeWhat You Preach\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e52\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Therapist as Client 53\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNeutrality, Empathy, Authenticity, and Creativity 54\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Therapeutic Agreement 58\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTypes of Clients 61\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eStopping and Reflecting 62\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eImplementing Change 63\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndividual vs. Family Therapy 64\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eA FewWords on Group Psychotherapy 65\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the Activities 66\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMulticultural Perspective 67\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 Agreement 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Listen! 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Good cop, bad cop 71\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 The four Fs 71\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Empathy training 71\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePart II Saying – The Power ofWords\u003c\/b\u003e 73\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e5. Homeostatic Messages, or Don’t Rock the Boat!\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e77\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLet’s not talk about it 82\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eEveryone has problems! 85\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCount your blessings 86\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBetter the devil you know 88\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 90\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A word to the wise 90\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Action blockers 91\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Time travel 91\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 A note to myself 92\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Script writing 92\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e6. Lack of Authenticity, or Keep a Stiff Upper Lip\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e94\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eFour Conceptions of Authenticity 95\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAuthenticity as a Trait 100\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePseudo Living 101\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAnd They LivedHappily Ever After 102\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eC’mon, Give Daddy a Smile! 103\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003ePlay Hard to Get 105\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat Will the Neighbors Say? 106\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eForgive and Forget! 107\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 108\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A word to the wise 108\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Hidden Agenda 1 108\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Hidden Agenda 2 109\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Objects 109\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Dinner time 110\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 Packages 110\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e7. Inequality, orWhat Can You Expect From a Man?\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e111\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThe Status of Children 113\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSpousal Equality 115\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIt’s for your own good! 116\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHonor your father 119\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eI’m glad we had this little talk 120\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIt’s not the same thing 121\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eI told you so 122\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 123\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A word to the wise 123\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Line up 123\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 A piece of cake 123\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Favoritism 124\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Respect me! 124\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 Same or different? 125\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e8. Belittling, orWho Do You Think You Are?\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e126\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTypes of Belittling 128\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTargets and Consequences 129\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eYou are too young to understand 135\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eYou’re just like your father\/mother! 136\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBut at least you’ve got nice eyes 137\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIt’s all your fault 138\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eYou’re oversensitive 138\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A word to the wise 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Little people 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Pick a card 140\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Family sculpture 141\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Ruler 141\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e9. Bookkeeping, or Just YouWait\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e142\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndividualism vs. Collectivism 144\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBookkeeping in the Family 145\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eYou owe me! 146\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eI’ll never forgive you 147\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eBut you yourself have said so! 149\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIt serves you right! 150\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eThis is the last time I’m taking you on an outing! 151\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 153\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A word to the wise 153\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 The black book 153\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Rooms 153\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Family secrets 154\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Shopping list 154\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e10. Family Rivalry, or Divide and Conquer 155\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eSibling Rivalry 159\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eParental Rivalry 159\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eLet him have it! 160\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eOK –Who started it? 161\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy can’t you be more like your sister? 162\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWho loves Mommy best? 164\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 166\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A word to the wise 166\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Once upon a time 166\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Family scripts 166\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 It figures 167\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Family garden 167\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e11. In Lieu of Conclusion: Myths in the Service of Psychopathology\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e169\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eActivities 173\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 A letter to myself 173\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Family sculpture 173\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 I andWe 173\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 Temperature taking 174\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 The road taken 174\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 Closure 175\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eReferences 177\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 191\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\"Although the title might suggest a relatively narrow target audience of family therapists, I feel certain that the fascinating ideas addressed here, coupled with the accessible style, would also speak to the experienced therapist, the trainee and the lay reader alike. By focusing on what is actually said in spousal, sibling and parental relationships, the authors invite the reader to reflect on the powerful and often destructive myths, narratives, schemas – call them what you will – that underpin family systems.\" (Therapy Today, 1 September 2012)\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cb\u003eDaniela Kramer-Moore\u003c\/b\u003e is currently a Visiting Lecturer in the Department of Psychology, University of Warwick. A family therapist with many years' experience of working with high risk adolescents and their families, she now heads the post-graduate Psychotherapy Centre at Oranim Academic College, Kiryat Tiv'on, Israel, where she previously led the Masters program in Educational Counselling.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e   \u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eMichael Moore\u003c\/b\u003e is currently a Visiting Lecturer in the Department of Psychology, University of Warwick. He is a social psychologist with many scholarly publications in the field, and was until recently Head of the Department of Education in Technology and Science at Technion - Israel Institute of Technology, Haifa, Israel.\u003c\/p\u003e  Each family has unique communication habits, yet beneath surface differences common communication patterns arise. Many patterns are healthy, promoting communication that is honest, authentic and tactful. Sometimes, however, habitual responses can develop: ‘myths' that become entrenched in the language of an individual family. These Family Defence Mechanisms (FDMs) block healthy communication, instead raising barriers and creating distance. With time pressures at an all-time high and family members spending less time interacting with each other than ever, snippets of homespun wisdom--\"it's better not to talk about it;\" \"better the devil you know\"-- become dangerously easy to present as fact.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e   \u003cp\u003eCombining humanist and existentialist perspectives in a new understanding of family dynamics, \u003ci\u003eDestructive Myths in Family Therapy\u003c\/i\u003e exposes a range of common FDMs, exploring how they can become ingrained negative part of family culture and suggesting strategies for overcoming them. The healthy strategies and group activities in \u003ci\u003eDestructive Myths in Family Therapy\u003c\/i\u003e engage families in better interaction, helping therapists be better equipped to help clients ‘see' the barriers they unconsciously place in the way of change, ‘say' things that facilitate resolution rather than resistance, and establish authentic, direct communication within their family unit.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Wiley-Blackwell","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47989050769637,"sku":"NP9780470667002","price":51.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780470667002.jpg?v=1761782590","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/products\/destructive-myths-in-family-therapy-isbn-9780470667002","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}