{"product_id":"but-what-will-people-say-isbn-9780593491195","title":"But What Will People Say?","description":"\u003cb\u003eA \u003ci\u003eHarvard Public Health\u003c\/i\u003e Best Public Health Book of 2024\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“This wonderful book is a compass, a blueprint, a mirror, and a friend. Kohli gives language to what many of us feel but can’t yet articulate.”—Erika L. Sánchez, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eI am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Loving, culturally informed, and holistic... [Kohli] compassionately shares her own story, and guides readers through the nuances and pain of assimilation, individuation, and mental health. How I wish I had this book back when I was trying to figure it all out for myself!” —Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of \u003ci\u003eIt’s Not You\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA deeply personal, paradigm-shifting book rethinking traditional therapy and self-care, creating much-needed space for those left out of the narrative\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWriter and therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli grew up knowing exactly what it means to straddle multiple cultures at once. Like many children of immigrants, she has often found herself plagued by questions: Can I establish my own values \u003ci\u003eand \u003c\/i\u003eembrace where I come from? Is prioritizing my mental health really rejecting my culture? How do I set boundaries and care for myself when family and community mean everything? Even after becoming a therapist herself, she saw those same gaps in the mental health world, leading her to wonder, like so many children of immigrants: what about us?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhile conversations around mental health are becoming increasingly open, our models remain largely Eurocentric and focused on individuality. Sahaj has sought to challenge these long-held models, using deep personal reflection, therapy, community building, and a whole lot of trial and error, eventually navigating her own way to understanding and acceptance. Here, she shows us how to get there, all the while reminding us that personal healing is inextricably connected to collective healing.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eBut What Will People Say?\u003c\/i\u003e elegantly weaves together personal narrative, anecdotal analysis, and comprehensive research. Sahaj offers advice and tools for everything from navigating generational trauma, guilt, and boundaries, to breaking down stigmas around therapy and celebrating cultural duality. Democratizing and decolonizing the way we think about mental health and self-help, Sahaj’s incredible work is nothing short of a revolution.“Venturing beyond traditional Western therapeutic approaches, psychotherapist Kohli serves up an innovative guide to mental health…providing a foundation for thoughtful reflection questions, exercises, and tips on such topics as ‘cultural imposter syndrome,’ for those seeking self-help beyond “eurocentric and colonial” models of care.” \u003cb\u003e—Publisher's Weekly Gift Guide\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“As a therapist and journalist, [Kohli] has explored the struggles of children of immigrants searching for what’s normal and where they can fit in...It’s the book she longed for in her youth; hopefully, it will be a guide for others facing similar challenges.” \u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eBooklist\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“This wonderful book is a compass, a blueprint, a mirror, and a friend. Kohli gives language to what many of us feel but can’t yet articulate. At times it was as if I were reading my own story, now equipped with the tools to understand and thrive in this confusing world.” \u003cb\u003e—Erika L. Sánchez, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eI am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“For those of us who straddle cultures and countries, it can often feel like we don’t really know who we are, where we belong, and what feels truly authentic to us. Sahaj Kaur Kohli understands this intimately and gives us language to understand our experiences, and tools to help us bridge our personal need for individuation with our cultural needs for community. For children of immigrants looking to do the intergenerational work of healing, decolonization, and collective liberation, this book is a must read.” \u003cb\u003e—Layla F. Saad, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eMe and White Supremacy\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“For anyone who has had to straddle the gap created by immigration, and the complex intersection between duty, obligation, loyalty, independence, anxiety, and the drive to make our parents’ sacrifices ‘worth it all,’ Sahaj Kaur Kohli’s beautiful book takes a loving, culturally informed, and holistic view. She compassionately shares her own story, and guides readers through the nuances and pain of assimilation, individuation, and mental health. How I wish I had this book back when I was trying to figure it all out for myself!” \u003cb\u003e—Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of \u003ci\u003eIt’s Not You\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“In her beautiful debut, Sahaj Kaur Kohli draws on her life-giving work as a therapist to challenge the stories we’ve been told to believe to win acceptance. With radical honesty and empathy, Sahaj breaks the traditional self-care model for community care, returning us to true belonging rooted in love.” \u003cb\u003e—Valarie Kaur, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eSee No Stranger\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“\u003ci\u003eBut What Will People Say?\u003c\/i\u003e is like a strong root finding sunshine, weaving with other roots, pushing out and up. . . . That is what Brown Girl Therapy and this book do: weave stories and therapy into a beautiful, colorful garden of community. It bridges gaps where Western mental health drops the ball. It is accessible, truthful, and healing—what we need to decolonize our therapies and address our people’s historical trauma.”\u003cb\u003e —Dr. Jennifer Mullan, author of \u003ci\u003eDecolonizing Therapy\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Sahaj writes with great insight, clarity, and an uncommon grace and warmth. There is a reason her work has struck a nerve, and this book approaches with nuance (and love) the complex and multidimensional challenges and blessings, heartaches and joys that we go through as we grow into ourselves. I wish I’d had it sooner, and you will too.” \u003cb\u003e—Farnoosh Torabi,  author of \u003ci\u003eA Healthy State of Panic\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Universal yet wholly specific to each person’s individual struggles, Sahaj writes with compassion and expert authority, guiding us along a path to honor where we come from, our communities, and ourselves. A heartfelt, thought-provoking, and deeply tender book that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. A must read.” \u003cb\u003e—Sarafina Nance, author of\u003ci\u003e Starstruck\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eSahaj Kaur Kohli, MaEd, LGPC,\u003c\/b\u003e is the founder of Brown Girl Therapy (@BrownGirlTherapy), the first and largest mental health and wellness community organization for adult children of immigrants; a licensed therapist; and a columnist for the \u003ci\u003eWashington Post\u003c\/i\u003e’s advice column “Ask Sahaj.” Sahaj’s words and work have been featured in \u003ci\u003eToday\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eGood Morning America\u003c\/i\u003e, CNN, TED, \u003ci\u003eThe New York Times\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eHuffPost\u003c\/i\u003e, and more. Sahaj also serves as a consultant, educator, and international speaker. She has sat on panels and delivered workshops and keynotes for nonprofits, higher education institutions, and the White House, Amazon, Google, athenahealth, Merck, JPMorgan Chase, LinkedIn, and UNICEF, among others. 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