{"product_id":"to-have-and-to-hold-motherhood-marriage-and-the-modern-dilemma-isbn-9780062838650","title":"To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eA clinical psychologist’s exploration of the modern dilemmas women face in the wake of new motherhood\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen Molly Millwood became a mother, she was fully prepared for what she would gain: an adorable baby boy; hard-won mothering skills; and a messy, chaotic, beautiful life. But what she did not expect was what she would lose in the challenging transition to parenthood: aspects of her identity, a baseline level of happiness, a general sense of wellbeing. And though she had the benefit of a supportive husband during this transition, she also at times resented the fact that the disruption to his life seemed to pale in comparison to hers.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs a clinical psychologist, Molly knew her experience was a normal response to a life-changing event. But without the advantage of such a perspective, many of the patients she treated in her private practice grappled with maternal ambivalence, self-doubt, guilt, and fear, and suffered the dual pain of not only the struggle to adjust but also the overwhelming shame for struggling at all.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eTo Have and to Hold\u003c\/i\u003e, Molly explores the complex terrain of new motherhood, illuminating the psychology of motherhood and the ways it affects women psychologically, emotionally, physically, and professionally—as well as how it impacts their partnership. Along with the arrival of a bundle of joy come thorny issues such as self-worth, control, autonomy, and dependency. And for most new mothers, these issues are experienced within the context of an intimate relationship, creating unique relationship challenges after baby and adding another layer of tension, conflict, and confusion to an already challenging time.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs Molly examines the inextricable link between women’s well-being as new mothers and the well-being of their relationships, she offers guidance to help readers reclaim their identities, overcome their postpartum grief and shame, and repair their relationships. A blend of personal narrative, scientific research, and stories from Molly’s clinical practice, \u003ci\u003eTo Have and to Hold\u003c\/i\u003e provides a much-needed lifeline to new mothers everywhere.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis compassionate and validating guide explores the unspoken truths of new motherhood and asks the crucial question: How do you find yourself again when becoming a mother changes everything?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eIdentity After Motherhood:\u003c\/b\u003e Navigate the profound sense of loss that can accompany this transition—from your personal freedom and professional ambitions to your very sense of self—and learn how to rebuild.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eMarriage After Baby:\u003c\/b\u003e Understand why so many couples struggle after having a child. This book offers practical guidance for repairing your relationship and overcoming the conflict and confusion that can pull you apart.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003ePostpartum Mental Health:\u003c\/b\u003e Move beyond the overwhelming shame and guilt that so many new mothers face. This is a much-needed lifeline that validates the complex emotional terrain that isn’t just postpartum depression.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eA Psychologist’s Perspective:\u003c\/b\u003e Benefit from a unique blend of a mother’s honest personal narrative, fascinating scientific research, and relatable stories from a clinical psychology practice.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e | \u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eA clinical psychologist’s exploration of the modern dilemmas women face in the wake of new motherhood\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhen Molly Millwood became a mother, she was fully prepared for what she would gain: an adorable baby boy; hard-won mothering skills; and a messy, chaotic, beautiful life. But what she was not prepared for—and what she did not expect—was what she would lose: aspects of her identity, a baseline level of happiness, a general sense of well-being. And though she had the benefit of a supportive husband during this transition, she also envied and at times resented the fact that the disruption to his life seemed to pale in comparison.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs a clinical psychologist, Molly knew her experience was a normal response to a life-changing event. But without the benefit of such a perspective, many of the patients she treated in her private practice grappled with guilt, self-doubt, and fear, and suffered the dual pain of not only the struggle to adjust but also the overwhelming shame for struggling at all.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003cem\u003eTo Have and to Hold\u003c\/em\u003e, Molly surveys the complex terrain of new motherhood, exploring the ways it affects women psychologically, emotionally, physically, and professionally—as well as how it impacts their partnerships. Along with the arrival of a bundle of joy comes thorny issues such as self-worth, control, autonomy, and dependency. And these issues are most often experienced within the context of an intimate relationship, adding another layer of complication, conflict, and confusion to an already challenging time.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs Molly examines the inextricable link between women’s well-being as new mothers and the well-being of their relationships, she offers guidance to help readers reclaim their identities, release their guilt and shame, and repair their relationships. A blend of personal narrative, scientific research, and stories from Molly’s clinical practice, \u003cem\u003eTo Have and to Hold\u003c\/em\u003e provides a much-needed lifeline to new mothers everywhere.\u003c\/p\u003e | \u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e“To Have and to Hold\u003c\/em\u003e speaks to so many women’s experiences of motherhood and marriage. Molly’\u003cstrong\u003es\u003c\/strong\u003e expertise shines on every page, and she writes beautifully.  This book is exactly what I would be looking for if I were a new mother.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eDr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“As a culture, we largely ignore the emotional health and wellbeing of new mothers. \u003cem\u003eTo Have and to Hold\u003c\/em\u003e provides an insightful and nuanced perspective from which to view the challenges facing so many women. Dr. Millwood’s writing is highly readable and her tone deeply kind. Thank you for pulling us out of the shame cave and into the light.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eAmy Mandeville O’Meara, WHNP, DrNP, AGNP, author of Maternity, Newborn, and Women’s Health Nursing\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A compassionate book that affirms that emotional difficulties for new mothers are not anomalous but universal and can extend well past the immediate postpartum period, with profound effects on their relationships with their spouses.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Although there are books on what to expect during pregnancy, there are few resources that address the major shifts that happen once a family welcomes a new baby. Drawing from research, her clinical practice, and her own life, [psychologist] Millwood explores attachment, marital strife, gender roles, and other essential topics.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eBooklist (starred review)\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Informative, entertaining, and enlightening research and personal reflections on the multifaceted ways children change a person forever.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eKirkus Reviews\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A love note to mothers everywhere, movingly written, \u003cem\u003eTo Have and to Hold \u003c\/em\u003eshines a powerful light on aspects of motherhood too long shrouded in shame. Millwood’s refrain— \u003cem\u003eyou are not alone, and what you’re feeling is\u003c\/em\u003e \u003cem\u003enormal\u003c\/em\u003e—is as empowering as it is healing.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eDr. Craig Malkin, lecturer, Harvard Medical School, author of Rethinking Narcissism\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“In \u003cem\u003eTo Have and to Hold\u003c\/em\u003e, Molly Millwood has rendered an affecting portrait of the complexities of modern motherhood with compassion and empathy. While the mundanities of caring for young children can obscure the beauty of the act—as well as disorient us from ourselves—her gentle guidance will help readers find meaning, connection, and joy amid the chaos.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eLeah Weiss, PhD, author of How We Work, Lecturer at Stanford Business School, and founding faculty member of Stanford’s Compassion Cultivation Program\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Harper Wave","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44888947032293,"sku":"NP9780062838650","price":28.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780062838650.jpg?v=1730230161","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/to-have-and-to-hold-motherhood-marriage-and-the-modern-dilemma-isbn-9780062838650","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}