{"product_id":"thriving-through-uncertainty-isbn-9780143109532","title":"Thriving Through Uncertainty","description":"\u003cb\u003eTama Kieves--inspirational coach, career transition expert and author of \u003ci\u003eInspired \u0026amp; Unstoppable\u003c\/i\u003e--guides you through life's uncertain times, helping you discover the blessings within difficulties\u003c\/b\u003e. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTama Kieves knows a thing or two about dramatic changes. After graduating from Harvard Law School with honors, Tama left an unfulfilling life at a prestigious corporate law firm to pursue her passion and make a name for herself as a writer and inspirational speaker. Now, she dedicates her time to helping people face their fears, tackle uncertainty, and shift their mindset to achieve the extraordinary in their own lives. This book isn't just about getting through life changes, it'll teach you to use that change and uncertainty as a launching pad for joy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eThriving Through Uncertainty\u003c\/i\u003e proves that the moment your plans fall apart is precisely when your true destiny begins. With Tama's guidance, you can take hold of the blessings and opportunities hidden within uncertain transitional periods and begin to move forward. Weaving together practical exercises and techniques along with anecdotes from Tama's own experiences, you'll master key lessons like:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e-How to control your mindset and mood to stay focused and happy\u003cbr\u003e-Having faith in yourself and your journey\u003cbr\u003e-Allowing yourself to feel pain and discomfort\u003cbr\u003e-Continuing to thrive through future obstacles, and much more.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePacked with heartfelt and dynamic guidance, this supportive, inspiring book will make you feel as if you've attended several sessions with Tama herself.“This brilliant book is your ‘Get out of Fear Now’ pass! You have dreams to create and a marvelous life that awaits you. Tama Kieves shares how to be in the middle of all sorts of things and find your way to everything you deserve. She’s funny, real, smart and \u003ci\u003eThriving through Uncertainty \u003c\/i\u003eis essential reading for those who want to live a ‘great-full,’ authentic, FULLY EXPRESSED life.”—\u003cb\u003eSARK, bestselling creativity author and co-author \u0026amp; artist, \u003ci\u003eSucculent Wild Love \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Anyone pursuing their heroic dreams, faces uncertainty every single day. How you deal with your uncertainty makes all the difference to your bottom line, and to your peace of mind. Tama Kieves has written the guidebook for those in the trenches. \u003ci\u003eThriving through Uncertainty\u003c\/i\u003e will help you shift your mindset from anxiety to powerhouse focus.”--\u003cb\u003eMichael Port, sales guru and \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author of \u003ci\u003eBook Yourself Solid\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Tama writes like someone who has been there before you because she has. She is a qualified and experienced guide. Her words and images land on you like a novel; descriptions that stir the soul as she guides you through a gentle and important transformation.  Let this book usher you to new place where your every wish can get a chance at becoming real.”\u003cb\u003e--Laura Berman Fortgang, author of \u003ci\u003eNow What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eThe Little Book On Meaning\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “We’re living in a crazy time where many of us are stuck and afraid to make the wrong move, so we don’t actually move at all. With moxie and wisdom, Tama Kieves has written this timely guidebook to help answer some of those daunting questions that continue to keep us running in circles. If you want to unlock your power and laugh your way back to happy, \u003ci\u003eThriving Through Uncertainty\u003c\/i\u003e is the book you should be reading right now.\"--\u003cb\u003eTammi Leader-Fuller, former TODAY Show producer and CEO of Campowerment\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Tama Kieves is the perfect tour guide through challenging times. \u003ci\u003eThriving Through Uncertainty\u003c\/i\u003e is brilliant, funny, practical, motivating, and most of all inspiring (like Tama herself). If you are experiencing uncertainty in any area of your life, this book is a must!”\u003cb\u003e--Joel Fotinos, author of \u003ci\u003eThe Think and Grow Rich Workbook\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eTAMA KIEVES\u003c\/b\u003e is an honors graduate of Harvard Law School who left her law practice to write and help others discover and express the life they were born to live. She is the bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThis Time I Dance! Creating the Work You Love\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eInspired \u0026amp; Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life's Work! \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eA Year without Fear: 365 Days of Magnificence\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFeatured in \u003ci\u003eUSA TODAY\u003c\/i\u003e, as well as on ABC News, Oprah Radio, and other national media, she is a sought-after speaker and visionary career\/success and inspired life coach, who has helped thousands world-wide to create extraordinary lives based in freedom instead of fear.  She is known for her edgy humor, \"real world\" spirituality, warm compassion and the big possibilities she brings out in others. Tama is on the faculty of premier holistic learning institutes such as Omega and Esalen, and has presented at TEDx . Tama has also taught \u003ci\u003eA Course in Miracles\u003c\/i\u003e for over 28 years.Chapter One\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The Super-       Power       OF Uncertainty\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e How to Move        Forward in an Uncertain Life\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I hate transition. But I'm black coal and this compression is      turning me into a diamond. And as much as I want to conform and      just be like every other chunk of coal, I am cursed by my need for      a life of meaning. I will walk or crawl through transformation.      Because I want a life of diamonds.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Tama Kieves (journal entry)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Real change isn't about knowing the right actions to take.      Because, really, we all know you should probably eat kale instead      of a pail of Ben \u0026amp; Jerry's Rocky Road. Real change comes from      an emotional and spiritual readiness. It's about changing from the      inside, becoming ready to take the steps that arise from our      essence. It's only readiness that makes an action right.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Tama Kieves (journal entry)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Where do you crave certainty right now? This, my friend, is where      you're growing wings. You are in transition, about to crack open      into the next dimension of wonder in your life. I know because      you're alive-and that is how life works.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e As a life and career\/success coach and workshop leader, I've      worked intimately with thousands in transition. I've seen every      kind of crossroads. And I've often seen this pattern. It's the      insistence on how things are supposed to be that causes pain. You      do not lack the right life right now. You do not lack your path or      the absolute best circumstances. You lack awareness.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You are thriving just by being in the fray. Uncertainty is your      superpower. It's oxygen. It's necessary. It shakes you awake. It      breaks through the shield of habit and exposes you to new options,      redemption, and growth. Change is how you discover that you are      more than who you thought you were, as you move from one identity      to the next. So, yes, awesome one, change, helplessness,      frustration-all of it is how we bake this cake. And this is how      every extraordinary life is supposed to go.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e On a clear, bright, high-def day in July, my friend Grace and I      walked across the Hudson River walkway in Poughkeepsie, New York.      Grace had come with the idea to do a healing ritual. She is my      energy-sensitive shaman friend, walking with white owls in one      realm and copywriting for marketing executives in another. I love      people who walk in multiple realms-and I suspect that you are one      of those people. I believe we are the ones who will shift the      world.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Grace was going through a divorce. This change was slicing her to      the bone, forcing her to let go of a dream and an identity. She      was dismantling shared finances, responsibilities, and real      estate. And each time her husband, her once-gentle friend,      screamed accusations or punched a wall, she felt her heart break      again. Yet Grace was determined to thrive, no matter the      circumstances.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e At the time, I was feeling out of control with my business. I'd      wake up in the middle of the night in a panic, worrying that I      couldn't get everything done or that I wouldn't ever find the      right people to help me, especially since I was now nuts and could      offer them something like bubkes as a base salary.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Really, I just wanted to hand someone all of my problems like a      bunch of grenades and run. Interviewing prospective hires was like      dating, only worse because I might have to pay them, too. I was so      overwhelmed that even taking steps to get out of the overwhelm      produced more overwhelm. And underneath it all, I was grieving a      loved one's health challenge.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e In moments of stress that seemed unbearable, I found myself in a      haggling mode with God or the Universe or any power on call that      day: Take it all away. Take away the uncertainty, the pressure,      make it all go away. Give me an answer. Just take care of it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It was the prayer of the tired.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It was the prayer of someone who had forgotten that real peace of      mind isn't something you can just pick up at ShopRite like toilet      paper. It was the prayer of someone who just wanted this done      already. I was frantic to be out of pain and I hadn't yet realized      that pushing myself to be out of pain was causing even more pain.      This is one of those mysterious ironies in life that involve      something like acceptance, and I really hate that.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I wanted to be \"there\" already-somewhere it was all resolved and I      was maybe just a tiny bit wealthy, famous, skinny, and adored and      all of it was permanent and guaranteed, and no one I loved was      ever going to die, and if possible there wasn't going to be      climate change either, because I despise heat.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e But, of course, life was asking me to be here. Be here in the      middle. Because here is where the Milky Way is. Here is where the      journey is. Here is where the answers are, and the big payoffs,      every single one of them. Here. Not there. The Universe was      answering my prayer. It was answering it with the circumstances      that would catapult me into change.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Grace had brought with her a woven blue pouch. Within the pouch,      there were a small smooth black stone and a small smooth white      one. She had gotten this \"kit\" as a sort of fun personal      divination tool long ago. You ask your question about the future,      then pick a stone: White is yes; black is no.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e She was going to toss the stones into the great beaming Hudson      River from high on the bridge. \"Good-bye black-and-white      thinking,\" she said, referring to expectations, answers, the mad      desire for control. She'd had enough of trying to make her      situation just go away or tie it up in a bow. \"I'm not looking for      definitive answers now,\" she said. I felt this big space come over      us. The truth always has this signature. \"I'm done with trying to      force solutions or breakthroughs as though I can,\" laughed my wise      friend.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We're not looking for answers. We're looking for next steps.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"So, what are we looking for if not immediate resolution?\" I asked      her as the tiny pouch with the simple promises twirled its way off      the bridge, getting smaller and smaller, finally splashing into      the great river below.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The moment I asked the question, I knew the answer. \"Next steps,\"      I said. \"We're not looking for answers. We're looking for next      steps.\" As if on cue, a breeze rippled the river below. I felt as      though a Silent Love nodded with approval.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When I coach clients professionally, I guide these brilliant      souls, who are no longer looking to create a conventional life, to      follow the bread crumbs along the trail. It's the only path I know      to the beckoning \"gingerbread house\" of the new life, which may      not even have a name or definition yet.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e There are always bread crumbs. This change in our lives isn't just      happening to us. It's happening for us. That is the bedrock      premise of thriving. The caterpillar \"dies\" so that the butterfly      can emerge. And just as in metamorphosis, there is instinctive      intelligence that drives the change. Our new life is always      conspiring with us, sending us signals and cues.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Sometimes the next step is not an action like going public with      your company. Sometimes, it's letting go of an old, limiting      belief. Or dying honorably to a time in your life that is passing.      Or having that conversation you need to have or picking up that      book you heard about. Sometimes it's the decision to frankly      accept where you are, even though a part of you wants to win a      Nobel Peace Prize already because, well, it would be nice to have      something to tell your mother.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e There is always a next step or focus.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This is how a time of transformation takes place. You are led. You      do not lead. This is the free fall and the windfall of      uncertainty. You can't plan an inspired life. You can't force      genius. It doesn't play by your rules. You may feel anxious, even      while you are safer than you've ever been. Yet radical creativity,      burning love, alchemy, invention, and the blaze of the wild divine      do not fit into ordinary methodology. An extraordinary life is, by      definition, not ordinary.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You are walking into the grand unknown. It's scary because      anything can happen. It's wonderful because, finally, anything can      happen.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e A life of intrepid original expression requires the willingness to      be birthed from within. Buy a paint-by-number set and you are      guaranteed to paint a simplistic replica, but never a work of art.      True change does not happen through rote execution but through an      awakening, a rearrangement of your understanding and abilities.      Trust me, when it comes to your real life, your time on earth, you      want the work of art. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The writer Ana•s Nin put it this way: \"There are few human beings      who receive the truth complete and staggering, by instant      illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a      small scale, by successive developments, like a mosaic.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You might feel like you want to move faster than one fragment at a      time. Good luck with that. Because groundbreaking, foundational      changes do not happen in a rush. The 12 steps of Alcoholics      Anonymous, the healing program that has enabled millions to do      \"what they could not do,\" is based on this simple maxim: \"One day      at a time.\" There's reason for that. It works. A spiritual life is      not one that is answered in the future. It's the life that takes      place in the present, one day, one heartbeat, one filament or      breakthrough at a time.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You don't need to figure out your whole life at once. You don't      have to know what you're doing. You don't have to know how this      will all unfold. You won't know, even if you think you do. But you      can do what is yours to do in the moment.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Grace looked down at the river that had absorbed her symbolic      offering. She said, \"I am saying good-bye to the need for      certainty instead of authenticity. I am letting go of the need to      rush or know what I can't yet know.\" It was a lovely way to      acknowledge that her life was a mess, that all our lives are a      mess, a continuous lopsided tango with uncertainty dressed in      tight pants and sparkles, impishly encouraging our hearts to beat      faster. And that, at times, no matter how much you wish to be      standing on solid ground, you are standing in the marshlands      between the worlds, hoping like hell you find a clue.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I looked around us on this spectacular day, because somehow all of      humanity seemed to be out on that bridge. A big man with a      thousand tattoos loped along, listening to a motivational podcast,      maybe on how to fix your Harley, or how to love your inner child.      Thin, fit women ran by, controlling the calories they burned,      controlling something in their lives. A shiny dark-skinned woman      who looked older than the river itself smiled among wrinkles as      she leaned on a cane.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e How many of those who passed by secretly worried about a lump      they'd discovered? How many knew their lover was drinking again?      How many needed to get more clients? How many even feared the      promotion or dream project they'd just gotten, wondering if they      could pull it off? How many felt lost, as though they didn't even      know what they were here for anymore or how to get through the      hours?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I smiled inside and thought of the prayer said in yoga classes,      \"Namaste,\" the light in me salutes the light in you. I knew we      were all made of infinite strength and possibility, even while we      felt like we were being jostled in the ocean like seaweed. Our      uncertainty made us feel alone. But, actually, it's the one thing      we all have in common. Everyone everywhere is dealing with a      change in their lives.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Grace and I walked off that bridge feeling brighter. We'd eased      some of our pain just by making the decision to stop trying to      force the path to freedom to fit into something it would never be.      It was okay to feel uncertain and still move forward. \"I guess I'm      just running a marathon,\" said Grace. \"All I know is that I need      to breathe deeply and keep hydrated.\" It seemed so simple. One      damn step at a time.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e I felt safer again, too, ironically, the more I committed to      journeying into the unknown. It felt good to work with truth on      truth's wide-open terms. \"We just did something really big,\" said      Grace. \"Yes, we did,\" I said, already feeling myself settle down.      I felt a connection to Grace, to myself, to life, to everyone on      that bridge, and to everyone who would yet be on the bridge of      life-and to you-crossing from one solid place to another.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Turning Points:       How to Move Forward in an Uncertain Life\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It's the insistence on how things are supposed to be        that causes pain.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You do not lack the right life right now. You do not lack your      path or the absolute best circumstances. You lack awareness.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Change is how you discover that you are more than who you thought      you were, as you move from one identity to the next.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e This change in our lives isn't just happening to us. It's      happening for us.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We're not looking for answers.        We're looking for next steps.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You are led. You do not lead. This is the free fall and the      windfall of uncertainty.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You can't plan an inspired life. You can't force genius. It      doesn't play by your rules.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You are walking into the grand unknown. It's scary because      anything can happen. It's wonderful because, finally, anything can      happen.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Any Choice Is a Risk, Except the Right One\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Be brave enough to live life creatively. The creative is the place      where no one else has ever been.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Alan Alda\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e When you're scared, it's natural to want to get to safety. But      keep in mind there is a kind of \"safety\" that is not safe. There      is no safety in denying who you are.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Tama Kieves (journal entry)\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e It's human nature to want to experience the security of having      everything under control. It may also be human nature to want to      eat a feedbox of chocolate Easter bunnies, so there you have it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Psychological studies show that we as human beings thrive on      \"positive stress.\" You think you want ironclad safety. But you      deserve so much more in life than this-because the need for      constant control can cause boredom, exhaustion, and hollowness.      Like you didn't already know that.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Your spirit craves growth, and growth comes from taking risks. The      right risk will offer you more security than holding on to \"the      devil you know.\" Because if that devil you know is draining the      love out of you, you will meet a devil you don't want to know.","brand":"Tarcher","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46305303396581,"sku":"NP9780143109532","price":24.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780143109532.jpg?v=1767742592","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/thriving-through-uncertainty-isbn-9780143109532","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}