{"product_id":"the-things-you-can-see-only-when-you-slow-down-isbn-9780143130772","title":"The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down","description":"\u003cb\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cb\u003eForbes' \"Greatest Self-Help Books of All Time\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe multimillion-copy bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about the importance of slowing down in our fast-paced world, by the Buddhist author of \u003ci\u003eLove for Imperfect Things\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Wise advice on how to reflect and slow down.” —\u003ci\u003eElle\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eIs it the world that’s busy, or is it my mind?\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe world moves fast, but that doesn’t mean we have to. This bestselling mindfulness guide by Haemin Sunim (which means “spontaneous wisdom”), a renowned Buddhist meditation teacher born in Korea and educated in the United States, illuminates a path to inner peace and balance amid the overwhelming demands of everyday life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBy offering guideposts to well-being and happiness in eight areas—including relationships, love, and spirituality—Haemin Sunim emphasizes the importance of forging a deeper connection with others and being compassionate and forgiving toward ourselves. The more than twenty full-color illustrations that accompany his teachings serve as calming visual interludes, encouraging us to notice that when you slow down, the world slows down with you.“Wonderful . . . They read almost like haikus.” —\u003cb\u003eLakshmi Singh, NPR’s \u003ci\u003eAll Things Considered\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Ancient Buddhist philosophy for the modern age . . . Profound but relatable wisdom on coping with the daily grind—and on keeping sight of what really matters. Leave this book on your nightstand to clear your head before bed.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eReal Simple\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Wise advice on how to reflect and slow down.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eElle, \u003c\/i\u003e“10 Books Kim Kardashian’s Book Club Should Read”\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Its short teachings are the perfect length for fitting into a fast-paced life. . . . It’s just the thing for a quick hit of dharma right after you wake up or before you go to sleep.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eTricycle, \u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003e“Top 9 Buddhist Books of the Year\u003c\/b\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e”\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“ ‘What I’m trying to do,’ says Sunim, ‘Marie [Kondo] is doing through a material and hands-on approach.’ When people ‘stop and pause,’ says Sunim, they ‘realize the state of their minds.’ . . . They can appreciate the joy that they are experiencing in the moment.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eKonMari Newsletter\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Ingeniously simple tips from a zen monk that’ll boost your mood, career—and relationships.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eDaily Mail\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “What could have simply been a collection of homilies instead read like haiku . . . sparingly but beautifully illustrated.”  —\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe Telegraph\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“[A] lovely, illustrated Buddhist guide to staying present. Reminiscent of \u003ci\u003eThe Prophet\u003c\/i\u003e and worthy of a place on my nightstand, this book offers a calm in life’s storm.” —\u003cb\u003eAllison K. Hill, \u003ci\u003eLos Angeles Daily News\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“I both cried and laughed while reading this bite-sized book of wisdom. . . . Sunim’s words are profound but familiar, simple but artful, and each chapter feels more like a conversation with a thoughtful, loving friend than reading another book on mindfulness.” —\u003cb\u003eEmma Koonse,\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e “Staff Pick”\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“His reminders to simply pause and breathe are welcome to anyone caught up in the hecticness of daily life.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eMetro\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Offers practical advice on everything from handling setbacks to relationships. Best for reclaiming your zen.” —\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eStylist\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Loving, practical, and kind, \u003ci\u003eThe Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down\u003c\/i\u003e is a beautiful reminder of the rewards of living wisely.” —\u003cb\u003eJack Kornfield, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eA Path with Heart \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eThe Wise Heart\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“This book is wonderful—straight from the heart of a wise, kind teacher. Written simply and with gentle humor, it will help you find lasting happiness in a changing world.” —\u003cb\u003eRick Hanson, Ph.D., \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eBuddha’s Brain\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eHardwiring Happiness\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Filled with gems of wisdom, this book will lift up your heart and enliven your spirit.” —\u003cb\u003eTara Brach, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eRadical Acceptance \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eTrue Refuge\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Not only a useful and practical book, it’s a beautiful one as well. Everyone who wants to thrive more in their life should have it on their nightstand.” —\u003cb\u003eArianna Huffington\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“I believe this elegant book will help heal a river of grief that runs through our entire nation, just below the surface, everywhere I go. People ache for time with those they love, with friends and family, with nature. My hope is that everyone who opens this book will immediately find some passage, some way into a secret garden of slow time, where things of great beauty and truth grow, and blossom, in effortless abundance. It is a glorious refuge—a timely, welcome escape from the pervasive trance of ordinary, relentlessly productive time.” —\u003cb\u003eWayne Muller, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eSabbath\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eA Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“\u003ci\u003eThe Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down\u003c\/i\u003e proves what the Wise have always taught: \u003ci\u003eAs goes our attention, so comes our experience.\u003c\/i\u003e The more we attend to living in the present moment, the richer becomes our experience of it . . . and of our own higher possibilities.” —\u003cb\u003eGuy Finley, bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThe Secret of Letting Go\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Full of insightful and practical advice—and wonderfully portable, like a daily guidebook. I read it with great interest.” —\u003cb\u003eBhante Gunaratana, author of \u003c\/b\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eMindfulness in Plain English\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“A book for our time—filled with universal truths, beautifully expressed and lovingly illustrated. Every short paragraph is self-contained—each its own seed sending roots into the deepest and most timeless wisdom. This is a book to keep close at hand.” —\u003cb\u003eMark Williams, co-author of \u003ci\u003eMindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Haemin Sunim has offered us a remarkable gift, a compendium of practical wisdom. It is accessible brilliance.” —\u003cb\u003eAllan Lokos, founder and guiding teacher, Community Meditation Center, NYC; author of \u003ci\u003eThrough the Flames, Patience, \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003ePocket Peace\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Haemin Sunim’s book has a place in my backpack now. When I read it at the coffee shop, my coffee break becomes a meditation break. At bedtime, it brings me peace. And in the morning it inspires me.” —\u003cb\u003eJoseph Emet, author of \u003ci\u003eFinding the Blue Sky\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eBuddha’s Book of Meditation\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“What a blessing this book is; I am so glad it’s in the world. Absolute wisdom.” —\u003cb\u003eNancy Colier, author of \u003ci\u003eThe Power of Off\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Full of wisdom and love, this is a book to keep as a dear companion. Hold it close. With its simple yet deeply profound messages, it will become a wise friend to turn to again and again. Haemin Sunim bridges East and West in his own life story and his writing. Truly this is a gem.” —\u003cb\u003eVidyamala Burch, founder and codirector of Breathworks and coauthor of \u003ci\u003eYou Are Not Your Pain\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“A remarkable guide to how to live a life of unpretentious authenticity and compassionate engagement. In Haemin Sunim’s brief essays and aphorisms, the insights of Buddhism have fully become the stuff of life itself.” —\u003cb\u003eRobert Buswell, Director of Buddhist Studies, UCLA\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Perfect for readers looking for a respite from busy lives and tumultuous times . . . Sunim evokes a calm assuredness in his philosophy, reminiscent of Lebanese-American poet Kahlil Gibran.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“An antidote to the polarization that has gripped our waking lives: It’s quiet, meditative, radical in its simplicity, and organized into relatable bite-size chapters that will have you breathing easier and appreciating the small things in life. Few books have the power to pull us out of our indignant turrets and cynical worldviews like this one.” —\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eSignature\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Visually and literarily breathtaking . . . Akin to Aesop’s fables, full of simple truths . . . The aphoristic rather than affirmative content sets this book apart from others in the self-help category. . . . The verses look to the eye as lovely as they ring to the ear. The white space surrounding these verses emphasizes their simultaneous simplicity and profundity. . . . Sometimes the images are Chagall-esque in their metaphysical approach. Sometimes they’re Impressionistic. Always, they gorgeously represent the content on the pages. . . . Whether you are a fan of self-help, into Zen practice, a Buddhist, or none of those things, this book shows it’s all there for the taking: mindfulness, self-awareness, and a little daily peace.” —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eKorean Literature Now\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eHaemin Sunim\u003c\/b\u003e is one of the most influential Zen Buddhist teachers and writers in the world. Born in South Korea, he came to the United States to study film, only to find himself pulled into the spiritual life. Educated at UC Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training in Korea and taught Buddhism at Hampshire College in Amherst, Massachusetts. He has more than a million followers on Twitter (@haeminsunim) and Facebook and is one of \u003ci\u003eSpirituality \u0026amp; Health\u003c\/i\u003e’s Top 10 Spiritual Leaders of the Next 20 Years and one of \u003ci\u003eGreatist\u003c\/i\u003e’s 100 Most Influential People in Health and Fitness. His books—\u003ci\u003eThe Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, \u003c\/i\u003ewhich has been published in more than thirty languages, and \u003ci\u003eLove for Imperfect Things\u003c\/i\u003e—have sold more than four million copies and are popular as guides not only to meditation but also to overcoming the challenges of everyday life. When not traveling to share his teachings, Haemin Sunim lives in Seoul, where he founded the School of Broken Hearts, a nonprofit that offers group counseling and meditation for people experiencing challenges in life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChi-Young Kim\u003c\/b\u003e (co-translator) is the translator of the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling Korean novel \u003ci\u003ePlease Look After Mom\u003c\/i\u003e by Kyung-sook Shin, for which she received the Man Asian Literary Prize, and the Korean contemporary classic \u003ci\u003eThe Hen Who Dreamed She Could Fly\u003c\/i\u003e by Sun-mi Hwang. She lives in Los Angeles, California.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e Youngcheol Lee\u003c\/b\u003e (illustrations) is a Korean artist. His paintings have been shown in more than 150 exhibitions and are admired for their idyllic quality. You can see more of his artwork at www.namusai33.com.Why Am I So Busy?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen everything around me is moving so fast, I stop and ask, \"Is it the world that's busy, or is it my mind?\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe usually think of \"mind\" and \"world\" existing independently of each other. If someone asks where our mind is, most of us would point to either our head or our heart, but not to a tree or the sky. We perceive a clear boundary between what goes on inside our minds and what happens in the outside world. Compared to the vast world outside, the mind nestled inside the body can feel small, vulnerable, and sometimes powerless. According to the Buddha's teaching, however, the boundary between the mind and the world is actually thin, porous, and ultimately illusory. It is not that the world is objectively joyful or sad and produces a corresponding feeling in us. Rather, feelings originate with the mind projecting its subjective experience onto the world. The world isn't inherently joyful or sad; it just is.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePerhaps we can better understand this through a conversation I had with a dear friend of mine, a responsible and meticulous Buddhist nun. She recently oversaw the construction of a meditation hall in her temple. After relating the ordeal of obtaining various permits and finding the right contractor, among other things, she described the construction process in the following way:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"When it came time to place tiles on the roof, I saw tiles everywhere I went. I noticed the material they were made of, their thickness, their design. And then, when it was time to install the floor, all I could see were floors. I naturally zeroed in on the color, origin, pattern, and durability of a hardwood floor. And then it suddenly dawned on me: When we look at the outside world, we are looking at only a small part that interests us. The world we see is not the entire universe but a limited one that the mind cares about. However, to our minds, that small world is the entire universe. Our reality is not the infinitely stretching cosmos but the small part we choose to focus on. Reality exists because our minds exist. Without the mind, there would be no universe.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe more I reflected on this, the more her insight made sense to me. The world comes to exist because we are aware of it. We cannot live in a reality of which we are unaware. The world depends on our minds in order to exist, just as our minds depend on the world as the subject of our awareness. Put differently, our mind's awareness can be said to bring the world into being. What our mind focuses on becomes our world. Seen this way, the mind does not seem so insignificant in relation to the world out there, does it?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe neither can nor want to know every single thing that happens in the world. If we did, we would go crazy from the overload of information. If we look at the world through the lens of our mind, the way my friend did, we will readily notice what we are looking for, because our mind will focus on it. Given that the world we see through our mind's eye is limited, if we can train our mind and choose wisely where to focus, then we will be able to experience the world corresponding to the state of our mind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs a monk and a college professor, I am pulled in many different directions. During the week I teach and conduct research, and on the weekend I drive a couple of hours to assume duties at my teacher's temple. During school breaks, my schedule becomes even busier. I need to visit senior monks, serve as an interpreter for monks who don't speak English, go to different temples to give Dharma talks, and carve out time for my own meditation practice. On top of that, I continue to research and write academic papers.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo be honest, I sometimes wonder whether a Zen monk should keep to such a full schedule. But then I realize it isn't the outside world that is a whirlwind; it is only my mind. The world has never complained about how busy it is. As I look deeper into myself to see why I am living such a busy life, I realize that, to a certain extent, I actually enjoy being busy. If I truly wanted to rest, I could decline invitations to teach. But I have welcomed such requests because I enjoy meeting people who want my advice and helping them with what little wisdom I have. Seeing other people happy is a deep source of joy in my life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThere is a famous Buddhist saying that everyone appears as buddhas in the eyes of the Buddha and everyone appears as pigs in the eyes of a pig. It suggests that the world is experienced according to the state of one's mind. When your mind is joyful and compassionate, the world is, too. When your mind is filled with negative thoughts, the world appears negative, too. When you feel overwhelmed and busy, remember that you are not powerless. When your mind rests, the world also rests.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe know the world only through the window of our mind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen our mind is noisy, the world is as well.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAnd when our mind is peaceful, the world is, too.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eKnowing our minds is\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ejust as important as trying to change the world.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI squeeze myself into the subway car.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePeople are crowded all around me.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI can either get annoyed\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eor think it's fun that I don't have to grab a handrail.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePeople react differently to the same situation.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf we look at it more closely,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe see it's not the situation that is troubling us,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut our perspective on it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTsunamis are frightening not just because of the water,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut also because of the objects hurled at us by the water.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTornadoes are terrifying not just because of the wind,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut also because of the objects uprooted and thrown by the wind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe feel unhappy not just because something bad has happened,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut also because of the swirling thoughts about what happened.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you have an unpleasant feeling,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003edon't grab hold of it and turn it over and over.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eInstead, leave it alone so it can flow.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe wave of emotion will naturally recede on its own\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eas long as you don't feed it by dwelling on it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo get food unstuck from a frying pan,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ejust pour water in the pan and wait.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAfter a while the food loosens on its own.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDon't struggle to heal your wounds.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eJust pour time into your heart and wait.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen your wounds are ready,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethey will heal on their own.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf we know how to be content,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe can relax our endless striving and welcome serenity.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf we know how to be content,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe can enjoy the time we have with the person next to us.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf we know how to be content,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe can make peace with our past and let go of our baggage.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you've been unable to change a bad situation, even after many attempts,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eyou should change how you look at the situation.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNothing is intrinsically good or bad.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGood or bad is always relative.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCompare your situation with someone's that is worse.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNow yours does not seem so bad after all.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you are stressed out, be aware of your stress.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you are irritated, be aware of your irritation.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you are angry, be aware of your anger.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs soon as you become aware of these feelings\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eyou are no longer lost in them.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYour awareness allows you to witness them from the outside.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAwareness is inherently pure, like the open sky.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eStress, irritation, and anger can temporarily cloud the sky,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut they can never pollute it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNegative emotions come and go like clouds,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut the wide-open sky remains.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLike toxins slowly filling our bodies,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eif anger, despair, or sorrow accumulate in our hearts,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe have to do something about it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eExercise, talk to your mentor, meditate on loving-kindness.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs we begin to make the effort, the toxins start to lose their grip.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDo memories cause you pain?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePractice being in the present moment.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTurn your attention to the here and now.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNotice that your thoughts subside when you focus on the present.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs your thoughts quiet, so, too, the memories.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBecause memories are, in essence, thoughts.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you leave work for the day,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eif you find yourself asking,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"Do I have to live my whole life like this?\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThen try the following:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWake up a little earlier the next morning,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eand sit in silence, as if in meditation.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBreathe in deeply and slowly,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eand ask yourself how your work is helping others,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eregardless of how insignificantly or indirectly.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs you focus more on others,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eyou can reconnect with the meaning and purpose of your work.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA very modern dilemma:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThere are countless television channels\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut nothing interesting to watch.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eToo many choices make people unhappy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAre you feeling confused or conflicted?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAllow yourself a good night's sleep.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you wake up the next day, the problem will seem lighter.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIt works, truly.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you would like to sleep more peacefully,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eas you lay your head on your pillow,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethink of the people whom you are grateful to,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eor the times you helped others and felt good about yourself.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIt will warm your heart, gifting you with more peaceful sleep.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWith love in our hearts,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe find even the most mundane things sacred and beautiful.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWith love in our hearts,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe become kinder and gentler, even to complete strangers.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWithout love in our hearts,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe find the world meaningless and random.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWithout love in our hearts,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe become strangers even to our family and friends.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we are open to others,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe dare to be vulnerable and honest.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we have goodwill toward others,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe intend to be happy and connected.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eClose your eyes, take a deep breath, and say,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"May my friends and acquaintances be loved and protected!\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWith those words, you, too, will feel loved and protected.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we are comfortable with ourselves\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eand have accepted ourselves wholly,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eothers will find us approachable\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eand will like us for who we are.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI wish you could see my true nature.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBeyond my body and labels,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethere is a river of tenderness and vulnerability.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBeyond stereotypes and assumptions,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethere is a valley of openness and authenticity.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBeyond memory and ego,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethere is an ocean of awareness and compassion.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe wise do not fight the world.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn the most relaxed and playful manner,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethey simply embody the truth that they are one with it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen Life Disappoints, Rest a Moment\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen trust is shattered, when hopes are dashed, when a loved one leaves you, before doing anything, just pause your life and rest a moment.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf you can, surround yourself with close friends and share food and drink while slowly letting out the bottled-up stories of betrayal, disappointment, and hurt.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHead to a movie theater, alone or with your best friend. Pick the silliest movie, even if you normally don't watch comedies, and laugh out loud until it hurts, and shed a few tears, as if nobody is looking, like a carefree teenager.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFind a song that speaks to your heart. Play it over and over, and sing along to it over and over, as though you are doing it for all the wounded souls.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf none of that helps, use your vacation days to take a trip. Go somewhere you've always said you wanted to go-the Grand Canyon, the Camino de Santiago, Machu Picchu.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAll by yourself. Just you and the road.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAfter spending time alone, go to your own sacred place. Close your eyes and clear your mind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEven if you are not that spiritual, invoke the heart of compassion and feel the embrace of acceptance.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDowncast and heartbroken, I know you were once me and I was once you.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSo today, I pray for you.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLove yourself despite your imperfections.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDo you not feel compassion for yourself as you struggle through life?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou are so eager to help your friends, but you treat yourself so poorly.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eStroke your heart once in a while and tell yourself, \"I love you.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOn a piece of paper, write down everything that stresses you out.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eList everything you ought to do, including minor things-\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewatering plants, replying to e-mails.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe stresses are now contained on a piece of paper, away from your mind.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSo, relax tonight.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTell yourself you will go through the list tomorrow,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eitem by item, starting with the easiest.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you open your eyes the next morning,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eyour mind and body will be ready.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eI can guarantee that.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDon't give up in the face of criticism.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLearn to brush aside what people who don't know you have to say.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHaving critics means what you're doing is getting people's attention.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHave courage, and continue down the path you're on.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLife teaches us through our mistakes.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen you make a mistake,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003esimply ask yourself what you were meant to learn from it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we accept such lessons with humility and gratitude,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ewe grow that much more.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo be happy, it's not necessary to expend great effort so we get somewhere else.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eInstead, relax into the present moment while finding humor in your life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWith humor, life becomes light and leisurely.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAnd laughter always brings people to experience openness and joy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHumor opens closed hearts.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHumor can free us from the grip of our thoughts.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we smile, we feel we can accept things we previously could not.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe feel we can forgive those who have wronged us.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHumor is an essential part of life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we are joyful, our heart opens up to new things.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we are in a bad mood, we can't be open to new things,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eno matter how wonderful they are.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWithout joy in our heart,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eour progress in life is slow and uninteresting.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e*\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThose who work in a playful, relaxed manner\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003etend to work efficiently and creatively.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThose who work nonstop, driven only by stress,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ework without joy.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo keep doing your work for a long time,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003edo not treat it as just work.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eView it as a source of enjoyment and growth.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe road to happiness lies not just in finding a good job,\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ebut also in learning to enjoy what you are asked to do.","brand":"Penguin Life","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46301246095589,"sku":"NP9780143130772","price":24.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780143130772.jpg?v=1767741831","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/the-things-you-can-see-only-when-you-slow-down-isbn-9780143130772","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}