{"product_id":"the-girls-guide-to-being-a-boss-without-being-a-bitch-isbn-9780767922852","title":"The Girl's Guide to Being a Boss (Without Being a Bitch)","description":"\u003cb\u003eForget what you’ve heard. Nice girls can get the corner office.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs women, we haven’t always had the best role models at work.  We’ve either worked for men or we’ve had female bosses who are, well, big bitches. Woman still don’t have much of a road map right now when it comes to taking charge at the office, so the team who brought you the national bestseller \u003ci\u003eThe Girl’s Guide to Starting Your Own Business\u003c\/i\u003e is drawing one for us. Caitlin Friedman and Kimberly Yorio will teach you to be powerful without being possessive, to be opinionated without being brassy, and to have a strong voice without micromanaging. You’ll learn just how to own the role of queen bee in a positive way so that you can be more mentor than manager, one who leads, inspires, and motivates.\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSo, you finally got that promotion. You’re the boss now. The supervisor. The manager. The captain. The taskmaster. Those days of taking orders, running errands, and clock-watching are over. As exciting as all this might seem, once the rush of the promotion is over, you might be scratching your head wondering exactly what to do. Being the boss is never easy, but it's twice as hard for a woman. It seems like there's no middle ground. Either you're the dragon lady who rules with an iron fist or the mousey girl who gets drowned out at every meeting. When a woman wields authority and dares to make tough decisions, how often is the \"B-word\" bandied about by her employees? How can she strike that balance between pushover and dictator?  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFear not. You can do the job. All you need is a little helpful advice to send you on your way.  Whether you supervise two as a shift manager or lord over an entire corporate empire, Caitlin Friedman and Kim Yorio will show you how to step gracefully into your new position of power. They’ll teach you how to motivate your team without alienating them, how to delegate without feeling guilty, how to deal with office politics and how to handle evaluations, promotions, and even firings. And for those of you who are already running the show, they can help you become the mentor\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eyour employees deserve. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eInside, there are self-assessment questionnaires to help you find out where you land on the bitch or wimp scale; interviews with prominent female bosses, human-resources directors, and therapists; and advice from a whole host of experts. In addition, there are funny and informative checklists and tips to make sure you’re the \u003ci\u003eGood Witch\u003c\/i\u003e around the office and not the \u003ci\u003eBig Bitch.\u003c\/i\u003e And, most important, Caitlin and Kim will teach you the secrets to owning your role and loving it. You’ve earned your promotion, so enjoy it!\"These girls are the perfect people to write about management because as my U.S. public relations team, they have been bossing me around for years, and despite what you may have heard, they are rarely bitchy.\"\u003cbr\u003e-- Jamie Oliver, Celebrity Chef\u003cb\u003eCaitlin Friedman\u003c\/b\u003e is a public relations and marketing professional with more than twelve years of consumer, food and beverage, publishing, and television-production experience. In 2001, she partnered with Kimberly Yorio to form YC Media, a full-service public relations and marketing firm based in downtown Manhattan. \u003cb\u003eKimberly Yorio\u003c\/b\u003e has forged a reputation as a keen marketer specializing in the development of strategic publicity and promotions campaigns for cookbooks, restaurants, chefs, and other food-related personalities and products.\u003cb\u003e \u003c\/b\u003eTogether they wrote the national bestseller\u003ci\u003e The Girl's Guide to Starting Your Own Business.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cb\u003eone\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eyou're a big girl now\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFROM JUST ANOTHER EMPLOYEE TO CHICK-IN-CHARGE\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOkay. So you're the boss now. The supervisor. The manager. The captain. The  taskmaster. Those days of taking orders, running errands, and clock-watching are over forever. At last, you get to call the shots.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs exciting as all this might seem, once the rush of the promotion is over,  you might be scratching your head wondering exactly what your new  responsibilities entail. Many feel a little lost once we arrive at the  grown-up table, not having had many positive managerial role models. Fear  not. You know you can do the job; all you need is a little helpful advice to  send you on your way.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhether you supervise two as a shift manager or lord over an entire corporate empire, we will help you take the leap from mediocre to marvelous.  And for those of you who are already running the show, we can help you lose  that nickname \"Bitch on Wheels\" and become the leader your employees  deserve.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe'll show you what it means to be queen: how to wield your ever-evolving  bag of management tricks; discover what is expected of you; decide what you  can reasonably expect of your team; and how to jump in and love every minute  of your Head Honchoness. \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003egood days and bad days: the good, bad, and ugly  aspects of being a manager\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLeading can be a daunting task. In some ways it can be positively thrilling.  In others, it can be a big old pain in the ass. Just as the freedom,  responsibility, and respect start to lift you to cloud nine, the paranoia,  fear, and anxiety can bring you crashing back down to earth. Like all  things, being the recognized leader can have its highs and lows. Here's a  look at the lawns on both sides of the fence.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethe good\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMONEY, MONEY, MONEY, MONEY, \u003cb\u003eMONEY\u003c\/b\u003e!\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWe might be dreaming, but if you've gotten a promotion, we'd like to assume  a nice, whopping raise came along with it. Hopefully you will never again  have to struggle to make ends meet and face your credit card bills at the  end of the month in tears. Even if the new job doesn't mean a giant  windfall, being the boss should put you in a better financial position than  you were in before. And if you're not, make sure you check out the sections  in chapter 5 on fair pay and lobby for what you deserve.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePRINCESS OF POWER\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePower is good. Making decisions that lead to positive outcomes is good.  Making the calls, changing the rules, and forging decisions that may alter  the course of the entire company can be great. Having the ultimate  responsibility is positively thrilling. The bitch boss who throws her weight  around, barks orders, and is generally focused on herself while making her  employees miserable doesn't have to be you. Once you settle into your new  role, you'll find that being the leader means you can be the manager who  uplifts employees and gets real enjoyment from watching your colleagues grow  and prosper. Building a team, working together, and teaching others will be hugely gratifying. At the end of the day, it can make you feel like a million bucks.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTHE MORE YOU KNOW\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhile mentoring your dewy protégées, you yourself will be acquiring new  information and facing fresh and exciting challenges every day. Learned  knowledge changes us and makes us better mothers, friends, and  businesswomen. Growing professionally can be empowering and give you a  broader perspective on both the world and your place within it. The more you  know the better off you are, both intellectually and resume wise. Don't  forget the journey to becoming a great leader is a lifelong one.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYOUR MOM WILL BE PROUD\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eUltimately, if you succeed, the prestige and glow of success will make all  the mistakes and missteps worthwhile. There is no greater feeling in the  world than a job well done.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethe bad\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTRAINING ANYONE?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe sad reality is there's never enough training offered to employees. Even  among the companies that have well-established training programs, there will  be plenty of times when you just don't know what to do. You would think that  when a new person is hired they would be handed all the necessary tools to do a job effectively. Maybe the person before you fled the job or was fired,  and the people who remain don't really know what she did. Perhaps everyone  is too busy to sit down and go through your job in detail. Whatever the  reason, your training will probably consist of \"Here's your office. Good  luck.\" It's up to you to figure out how to achieve your goals using the best  resource you have--your staff.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIT'S LONELY AT THE TOP\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor all of the positive things your new role as a manager can bring, the  scariest one is the isolation you will feel as the woman at the top of the  corporate ladder. You have the responsibility to make your team a success,  and if it fails, you take the blame. Gone are the days when you can be  everyone's gal pal. No more shuffling off to the lunchroom to spend an hour  shooting the breeze about the latest episode of \u003ci\u003eDesperate Housewives\u003c\/i\u003e. When  asked the biggest mistake that new managers make, 90 percent of the women  whom we interviewed replied that they tried to be liked. You are not there  to be anyone's friend. You are in the leadership role to provide the tools  and environment that your team needs to accomplish their goals. If the team  is not accomplishing the goals, with all the appropriate support, then you,  new manager, will have to reprimand and maybe terminate team members who  aren't measuring up. This power that you gain when promoted will separate  you from your team.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eKEEP THE PERSONAL, PERSONAL AND NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis is a tough one. No matter how bad it gets, no matter what kind of a day  you're having, you absolutely, positively cannot freak out. It doesn't  matter if your car died in the middle of the interstate on the way to work,  or that you just found out your husband has been having an affair. Your  personal problems should not come into the workplace. At Ann's first job as  an assistant, her boss was trying to adopt a baby. She had a special cell  phone just for potential birth mothers to call. When her boss was in a  meeting, Ann was required to man the baby phone. If a potential birth mother  called, Ann would have to chase down her boss. If her boss couldn't be  disturbed, she would have to interview the potential birth mother and try to  schedule a time for a callback. Ann was honored at the amount of trust put  in her by her boss, but scared to death that if she messed up the baby  phone, not only was she jeopardizing her job, she could potentially cause  her boss to lose the baby she was so desperately trying to get. While  adopting a baby was obviously the priority for her boss, it was unfair to  make it Ann's responsibility.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTHE BUCK STOPS WITH YOU\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe team's problems are now your problems--individually and collectively. As  a matter of fact, everyone's problems become your problems. If a member of your group has a sick child and can't be there for the ten o'clock meeting with the biggest client, then you have to figure out a way to cover for her without the client ever knowing. If your top account executive loses the  biggest account, and your department won't make its numbers, then you will  have to find a replacement account or shrink the team to cover the  shortfall. And at the very least, you will have to take the heat from your  management. If someone on your team opens an e-mail from her boyfriend that  infects your entire office with a virus, erasing all your records from the  last five years, then you and the IT department have a very big problem. No  more hiding until the storm blows over. It will be your responsibility to  mobilize the team, board up the windows, and evacuate.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDISCIPLINE, WRITE-UPS, AND THE PINK SLIP\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDelivering bad news is never easy; deciding to severely impact someone's  livelihood by terminating them because they can't cut the mustard, just plain sucks. We've devoted almost an entire upcoming chapter to the f-word, firing.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethe ugly\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNOWHERE TO GO BUT DOWN\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWith each step you climb up the corporate ladder, the farther down you will go if you fall off. You will exist in constant fear of living up to expectations (although the rest of the group shouldn't know it), getting the job done effectively, and accomplishing the team's goals. The higher you go, the more you're under scrutiny from the ones beneath you who think they can do your job better and the ones above you who think they are paying you too much. If you don't create positive relationships from the get-go, those  go-getters will take every opportunity to prove that they are more suited to your job. We're not suggesting you become paranoid, but suggest that you remain aware of the changing dynamics of your senior position. In an upcoming chapter, we will explore why management experts recommend forging relationships with those above, below and equal to you in the organization.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTHE RAP SHEET: CELLULOID BITCH BOSSES\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eKILL BILL (2003)--\u003c\/b\u003eLucy Liu as O-Ren Ishii, the Evil Crime Boss of Tokyo's  Underworld. When one of her peers questions her leadership, she cuts his  head off without missing a beat.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: You need to have an open door policy for all your employees so they  can speak their minds. Firing or reprimanding someone just for disagreeing  with you is unacceptable.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eDISCLOSURE (1994)--\u003c\/b\u003eDemi Moore as Meredith Johnson. She comes on to her  employee, then acts like he sexually harassed her. Evil ensues through lies  and cover-ups.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: Never, ever, ever, ever hit on or flirt with an employee, and never  use sex to leverage your power. Granted, Demi's problems in this movie go  deeper than that, but your own sexuality should never come into play in the  workplace.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWORKING GIRL (1988)\u003c\/b\u003e--Sigourney Weaver as Katharine Parker. Steals her employee's idea, then gets it in the end when her employee steals her life.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: Never take credit for a coworker's or subordinate's hard work. You'll look like a bitch and lose the trust of your employees. Not to  mention you might find yourself as the target of a good case of revenge.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTRUTH OR DARE (1991)\u003c\/b\u003e--Madonna as herself. In this documentary of the  material girl, she is revealed as the worst kind of boss. She exerts a sort  of maternal control over her dancers, going from being their best friend to  being a total bitch.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: Bipolar Betty has no place in the office. You have to remain  consistent, loyal, and unbiased with all your employees no matter how badly  they screw up.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eRAISING HELEN (2004)\u003c\/b\u003e--Helen Mirren as Dominique. As the boss of a modeling  agency, when her employee inherits her sister's kids, she proves the workplace is less than family-friendly by stealing her clients and  belittling her in front of the staff for being late to a meeting.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: Yes, you have to think of the company's well-being first, but in the end it is the staff that is the company. As long as the work is getting  done, you can create a positive and flexible work environment for your team.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e101 DALMATIANS (1996)\u003c\/b\u003e--Glenn Close as Disney uber-villainess Cruella De Vil.  Not only is she a puppy killer, in this live-action version of the classic  cartoon she terrorizes her employees at her fashion design firm by  screaming, throwing things, and generally humiliating all of those who work  for her.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: Never lead with fear. It is possible to have a firm hand and still  enjoy the respect of your colleagues. Using terror tactics is never the way  to make your office function efficiently. Firm but fair is the way to go.\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eCATWOMAN (2004)\u003c\/b\u003e--Sharon Stone as Laurel Hedare. When her employee figures  out that the \"miracle\" anti-aging face cream her cosmetics company makes has  terrible side effects, Laurel actually resorts to murder to prevent her from  revealing the truth.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eLesson: A. Never lie to your employees. B. If you do, be ready to face the  repercussions when the truth is revealed.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethe job: key functions and roles\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThough the responsibilities of any management job can vary wildly depending  on what business you're in, there are a few elemental duties you'll be asked  to perform that translate across the board. We'll touch on these here first,  but go into each in greater detail in the upcoming chapters.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYOU WILL HIRE, FIRE, EVALUATE, AND PROMOTE\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePutting together your team and keeping it in line will be your most  important role as a manager. You will need to decide if additional employees  are needed and can be afforded. You must provide constant access to and  evaluate the ones you have. If the creative department is swamped, staying  late every night, and bickering because they are burned out, it is up to you  to decide how to help ease the workload.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn our research, the single biggest criticism we heard about women managers  is that they are too emotional. They should just be more professional. After  all, business is just business. But is it? Business is actually done through the coming together of a number of individuals with very different styles  and personalities. And as a manager, you will have to find a way to make  them the most productive they can be.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHiring, firing, evaluating, and promoting are the most emotional decisions you can make. Take hiring, for example. A responsible hiring manager will  solicit a number of résumés, weed them down to the top candidates, interview  the candidates a few times, check references, and then make a decision. When faced with a few candidates with similar strengths, how do you choose? You try and figure out who will be the best personality fit for the group and hope for the best.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen it doesn't work out, then you have to fire. And don't tell us that firing employees isn't an emotional exercise. You are taking away a person's  livelihood and perhaps that of their family too. Emotions come into play. The trick for women is to be able to manage their emotions as well as they  manage staff. Consistency is the best you can hope for and is probably good  enough to keep the emotional criticism out of the office.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYOU WILL HAVE A PLAN AND DELEGATE WORK TO YOUR EMPLOYEES\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor those times your staff isn't in flux, creating a business plan and delegating its various aspects will be your main managerial task. This  includes earmarking what needs to be accomplished on a daily, weekly,  monthly, yearly, and long-term basis, making a schedule and determining who  on your team is best to handle each assignment. You will be asking questions such as: Is this a one-woman job? Would putting your workers into teams be more productive?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDelegating doesn't just mean telling your team what to do. You have to make  sure they understand the project and how best to achieve its goal.  Communication is the only way to make sure everyone stays on schedule.  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