{"product_id":"the-gifted-adult-isbn-9780345434920","title":"The Gifted Adult","description":"Are you relentlessly curious and creative, always willing to rock the boat in order to get things done . . . extremely energetic and focused, yet constantly switching gears . . . intensely sensitive, able to intuit subtly charged situations and decipher others' feeling? If these traits sound familiar, then you may be an Everyday Genius--an ordinary person of unusual vision who breaks the mold and isn't afraid to push progress forward. . . .\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAs thought-provoking as Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence, psychologist Mary-Elaine Jacobsen's Gifted Adults draws on a wide range of groundbreaking research and her own clinical experience to show America's twenty million gifted adults how to identify and free their extraordinary potential. Gifted Adults presents the first practical tool for rating your Evolutionary Intelligence Quotient through an in-depth personality-type profile. Demystifying what it means to be a gifted adult, this book offers practical guidance for eliminating self-sabotage and underachievement, helping Everyday Geniuses and those who know, love, and work with them to understand and support the exceptional gifts inherent in these unique personality traits.Table of Contents\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART I. IDENTIFYING EVERYDAY GENIUS\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e1. Beyond Giftedness: Everyday Genius Defined\u003c\/b\u003e        \u003cbr\u003e   Giftedness Denied                         \u003cbr\u003e   The Gifted Adult                                \u003cbr\u003e   The Source of Giftedness                        \u003cbr\u003e   The Concept of Giftedness Expanded        \u003cbr\u003e   The Five Facets of Freedom                \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e2. Gifted? Not Me\u003c\/b\u003e                        \u003cbr\u003e   We Love Your Unique Products. Just Stop Being So Different!                \u003cbr\u003eGifted? Not Me: Unidentified Everyday Genius \u003cbr\u003eTelltale Signs of Everyday Genius \u003cbr\u003eFacing the Truth about Ourselves\u003cbr\u003eWhy Must I Know This about Myself?\u003cbr\u003eHow Can I Know This about Myself\u003cbr\u003eMisconceptions about Giftedness\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e3. The Everyday Genius: Lost and Found\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Ugly Duckling\u003cbr\u003eWhen a Duck is Not a Duck\u003cbr\u003eSeeing the Swan of Everyday Genius\u003cbr\u003eThe Everyday Genius Brought to Light\u003cbr\u003eThe Ugly Duckling Syndrome\u003cbr\u003eKnow Thyself or Lose Thyself\u003cbr\u003eHow Did the Swan Get Lost?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e4. Lost In The IQ Game\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat's Smart and What Is Not?\u003cbr\u003eWhat is IQ, Really?\u003cbr\u003eBeyond Outdated IQ\u003cbr\u003eThe Unexpected Gifted Adult\u003cbr\u003eMistaken Identities by the Millions\u003cbr\u003eThe Everyday Genius Next Door\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e5. Standing What You \"Know\" on Its Head\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Everyday Genius Mind: The Same and Different\u003cbr\u003eHow \"Different\" Becomes \"Wrong\"\u003cbr\u003eGifted Needs\u003cbr\u003eThe Destiny Question: Disown or Deliver?\u003cbr\u003eAre There Others Like Me? And Are They Normal?\u003cbr\u003eRebel, Nerd, or Marvel?\u003cbr\u003eReframing Genius\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART II. EVOLUTIONARY INTELLIGENCE\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e6. Evolutionary Intelligence: The Next Step\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRetesting the Waters of Intelligence\u003cbr\u003eWhat's Evolution Got to Do with It?\u003cbr\u003eThe EvI Formula\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e7. The Evolutionary Intelligence Profile\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAbout the EvI Profile\u003cbr\u003eWhat the EvI Score Tells You\u003cbr\u003eExploring Your EvIQ Score\u003cbr\u003eEvolutionary Intelligence in Real Life\u003cbr\u003eIt Only Looks Revolutionary After the Fact\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART III. WHAT'S \"WRONG\" WITH YOU IS WHAT'S RIGHT WITH YOU: REVEALING AND HEALING EVERYDAY GENIUS\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e8. Gifted or Cursed?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCorrecting the \"Too-Too\" Misdiagnosis\u003cbr\u003eDéjà vu\u003cbr\u003eGifted or Cursed? My Own Beginnings\u003cbr\u003eFive Basic Truths About Giftedness\u003cbr\u003eA Bittersweet Experience\u003cbr\u003eThe Essentials of Self-Discovery\u003cbr\u003eThe Real Enemy—Fitting In\u003cbr\u003eThe Ten Criticisms\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e9. Confronting the First Five Criticisms\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRewriting Personal History\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #10: \"Why Don't You Slow Down?\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #9: \"You Worry About Everything!\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #8: \"Can't You Just Stick with One Thing?\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #7: \"You're So Sensitive and Dramatic!\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #6: \"You Have to Do Everything the Hard Way!\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e10. Getting Free from the Top Five Criticisms\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #5: \"You're So Demanding!\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #4: \"Can't You Ever be Satisfied?\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #3: \"You're So Driven!\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #2: \"Where Do You Get Those Wild Ideas?\"\u003cbr\u003eCriticism #1: \"Who Do You Think You Are?\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e11. Meeting the False Self\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMeeting the False Self\u003cbr\u003eFive Blocks That Enslave the Self and Eclipse the Soul\u003cbr\u003eIndulging the False Self\u003cbr\u003eDenying Gifts and Talents\u003cbr\u003eGetting Over Giftedness Guilt\u003cbr\u003eThe \"Safe Life\"\u003cbr\u003eMaking Friends with Risk\u003cbr\u003eSeeking Approval\u003cbr\u003eBreaking the Approval-Seeking Habit\u003cbr\u003eImpostorism\u003cbr\u003eUnlearning Impostorism\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e12. How Assets Can Become Liabilities\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Shadow Side of Everyday Genius: Disorderly Conduct\u003cbr\u003eWounds and Reactions\u003cbr\u003eLooking Back to Move Forward\u003cbr\u003eEveryday Genius—The Second Time Around\u003cbr\u003eThe \"Teachable Moment\"\u003cbr\u003eThe Reactivity Pendulum\u003cbr\u003eThe Unbecoming Extremes\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART IV. MANAGING THYSELF: SELF-MASTERY AND INTEGRATION\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e13. The Big Three Differences: Intensity, Complexity, and Drive\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eManaging the Flow: No Trickles, No Torrents\u003cbr\u003eCharting an Evolutionary Course\u003cbr\u003eIntensity: Quantitatively Different\u003cbr\u003eComplexity: Qualitatively Different\u003cbr\u003eDrive: Motivationally Different\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e14. Self-Mastery: Managing Intensity, Complexity, and Drive\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Drive to Perfect Versus Perfectionism\u003cbr\u003eEnding the PerfectionismProcrastination Seesaw: Ready, Set, Go!\u003cbr\u003eManaging Feeling\u003cbr\u003eImpulse Management\u003cbr\u003eReviving Your Natural Optimism\u003cbr\u003eSmarter than Ever: Becoming Superconscious\u003cbr\u003eFrom Stress Tolerance to Stress Management\u003cbr\u003eThe Life Balance Plan\u003cbr\u003eFive Strokes of Genius for Being Successfully Different\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e15. The Everyday Genius in Relationships\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNot Phony and Not Lonely\u003cbr\u003eThe Everyday Genius in Love\u003cbr\u003ePartner with the Person, Not the Potential\u003cbr\u003eThe AcquiesceAccuse Pendulum\u003cbr\u003eListening for Love\u003cbr\u003eReflective Listening\u003cbr\u003eAssertive Instead of Demanding\u003cbr\u003eThe Selfishness That Enhances Intimacy\u003cbr\u003eReal Relating\u003cbr\u003eRelationships in the Workplace: Working Together, Preserving Individuality\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e16. Self-Liberation\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSelf-Liberation\u003cbr\u003eEvolutionary Moments: A Preview of Life's Coming Attractions\u003cbr\u003eThe Catalyzing Evolutionary Moment\u003cbr\u003eTrue-Life Evolutionary Moments\u003cbr\u003eThe Rewards of Genius\u003cbr\u003eDeclaring a Personal Mission\u003cbr\u003eBeyond I-ness\u003cbr\u003eTen Signs of Advanced Development\u003cbr\u003eReconciling the Nine Dilemmas\u003cbr\u003eTrue Genius\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAcknowledgments\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eNotes\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eRecommended Reading\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eResources\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eIndex\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e        \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Provocative . . . unlocks the kind of passion that great inventions are made of.”\u003cb\u003e—\u003ci\u003eNew York Daily News\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“\u003ci\u003eThe Gifted Adult \u003c\/i\u003etakes readers beyond the myths and stereotypes about talent and genius. . . . Everyone interested in maximizing intelligence, creativity, or productivity will want to read this book.”\u003cb\u003e—Maureen Neihard, Psy.D., contributing editor, \u003ci\u003eGifted Child Quarterly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Using scientific research, together with case studies as examples, Jacobsen creates a mental geography for Everyday Genius that is accessible to millions of adults for personal validation.”\u003cb\u003e—Ruthan Brodsky, editor of the \u003ci\u003eRoeper Review, A Journal on Gifted Education\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Sure to attract attention . . . Statistically, many gifted adults are baby boomers. . . . Jacobsen’s goal is to help the gifted hone their abilities and cope with the ‘truths’ of being gifted. . . . She provides useful advice about framing responses to common criticism . . . overcoming blocks to development . . . and achieving balance.”—\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“\u003ci\u003eThe Gifted Adult\u003c\/i\u003e offers new insight about the psychological makeup and development of gifted individuals. Jacobsen challenges current definitions of giftedness and offers one that places psychological rather than cognitive characteristics at the very core, providing more detailed explanations of achievement and underachievement among gifted adults than ever before.”\u003cb\u003e—Paula Oszewski-Kubilius, Ph.D., director of the Center for Talent Development, Northwestern University\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003eMary-Elaine Jacobsen, PsyD,\u003c\/b\u003e is a practicing psychologist and the director of Omega Point Resources for Talent Psychology and Gifted Development. She lives in St. Paul, Minnesota.1\u003cbr\u003e BEYOND GIFTEDNESS: EVERYDAY GENIUS DEFINED\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e No bird soars too high, if he soars with his own wings.\u003cbr\u003e —Friedrich Nietzsche\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e To look at her, you would never suspect that Ann was in the midst of a crisis. She sat in my office, composed and resplendent in a black Tahari suit. The only sign of any agitation was her habit of coiling and uncoiling her index finger around her strand of pearls. She looked much younger than forty-three. As my client now for nearly four months, she, at first, had been at a loss to explain rationally what brought her to me.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “No one ever expects a midlife crisis, Dr. Jacobsen. I certainly didn’t,” were the first words that Ann spoke to me.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e At one point in her legal career, Ann had been a dynamo, working on a team that won a major case involving suspected violations of interstate commerce laws in the dairy industry. The lead attorney acknowledged that it was her dogged efforts that helped dismantle the government’s case. Ann seemed destined to make partner before she was thirty-five and was guaranteed the pick of the firm’s highest-profile and potentially most lucrative cases.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Success hadn’t come without a price. Those who were passed over for promotion in favor of Ann attributed her meteoric rise to favoritism and not her razor-sharp analytical skills, her amazing intuition, and her twenty-six-hour workdays. Once lauded as the consummate most valuable player, Ann was eventually plagued by not-so-quiet whispers about her chameleonlike ability to transform herself into whomever each partner wanted her to be. Suddenly the qualities that had once been her most valuable assets felt like her greatest liabilities.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Always someone who took every criticism to heart, Ann stopped trusting her intuition and her allies. Rather than ranging far and wide to offer colleagues help, anticipating their problems before they even identified them, she kept to a carefully circumscribed territory in order to restore her coworkers’ regard for her. Her boundless interest and enthusiasm, previously characterized by being the first to volunteer to tackle the thorniest problem, now slid precipitously. She became aloof and distant.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “After all the problems I created by being a standout, I decided that the best way to get along was to go along and just joylessly grind my way through the day like everyone else. It seemed to be the only way that I could make working there bearable. Everyone else seemed pleased about my so-called change, but I was miserable.”\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e A few months before Ann first came to see me, I’d walked into my office one afternoon and was startled to find a man standing at the window tugging at one of the slats in the miniblinds and peering out at the street. He turned around and saw me. Then he took a couple of steps toward me, muttered, “How ya doing, Doc?” and stalked to the bookcase lining one wall. He pulled a book off the shelf and started leafing through it.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “You must be John,” I said as evenly as I could. “My clients usually wait in the reception area.”\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “Well, I saw that other woman come out, so I came on in. You don’t mind, do you.” There was little to suggest that John was asking a question.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e John soon put back the book and took down a few others, smiling ruefully and shaking his head after examining a couple of their titles. Eventually I came to understand that John was very nearly incapable of keeping still for longer than a few minutes at a time. In this instance, the classic stereotype of the patient lying on the couch was laughable. John was the epitome of the restless peripatetic at home and at the office.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Early on, John described how he perceived others. “It’s like the rest of the world is moving along at twenty-four frames per second, normal film speed, but to me that’s slow motion. Even when somebody’s talking during a meeting, I swear I look at their mouths and it’s like I’m advancing the tape frame by frame on my VCR. So, okay, film and videotape are two very different things, so maybe that’s not the best example, but maybe it’s more like the world’s a blender on stir and I’m on liquefy.”\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e John’s self-editing and criticism aside, his description is apt. To someone like John, the rest of the world does seem as if it’s lagging behind. From people walking too slowly on sidewalks and those counting out exact change in a supermarket checkout line to others arriving at a solution that seemed obvious to John minutes, days, or sometimes weeks before, everyone else always seemed to be moving at a glacial pace. A true multitasker, John used to upset everyone at meetings because he could monitor the flow of the conversation, read a report, scan the agenda for the next item of discussion, then jump ahead or interject at seemingly inappropriate moments.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “I’m sick of being told to slow down. If I’m on an express train and they’re on a local, why don’t they switch trains and get onto mine? It’s time for them to be responsible for catching up to me.”\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Unfortunately for John, what others perceived as his uncooperative attitude eventually caught up with him. While he hadn’t been fired from his job as a creative director at an advertising agency, he’d been essentially stripped of all authority. He’d been asked to stay on in a consulting capacity but was given little real work to do. John clearly sensed what was about to happen to him, but that only made him dig in his heels more deeply on some issues and veer recklessly from one more outlandish idea to the next, wielding his considerable wit like a saber. He’d gone from being a visionary Renaissance man of the company to persona non grata in a matter of months.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e “It wouldn’t bother me so much, but before I came along most of them thought that HTML was what you saw when some of the letters burned out in a neon hotel or motel sign. I got us a jump start into Web advertising, and now everyone is reaping the benefits and claiming they were the masterminds behind the whole thing. It’s like working with a bunch of Al Gores claiming they were the ones who helped develop the World Wide Web. Of course, everybody knows that Dan Quayle was the one who invented the spell checker.”\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e GIFTEDNESS DENIED\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e While John and Ann couldn’t have been more different in certain respects, they do have much in common. They are both gifted adults standing poised at a crossroads. And they both initially recoiled at my suggestion that they were gifted.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Like John and Ann, when many of us hear the word gifted we almost always think two things: (1) “Only schoolchildren are gifted” and (2) “Since I’m not a child, I can’t be gifted.” These automatic responses are understandable given what most of us have been told about bright people. But most of what we have been told is radically incorrect and enormously incomplete.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Most of us think we know what giftedness is, but we’re unable to describe it or define it accurately. Part of the reason for that is that we live in a culture that emphasizes products over process. We can see what gifted people produce, but we can’t see the internal systems and operations that produced those products. In the previous sentence, even I had to resort to using words more suited to something manufactured mechanically than to how the brain really functions. While most people in society would accept the definition that giftedness is as giftedness does, it is not adequate for the purposes of this book.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Most definitions of giftedness include these components:\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e • Initially having and using natural abilities without benefit of formal training\u003cbr\u003e • Rapid learning\u003cbr\u003e • Creative and productive thinking\u003cbr\u003e • High academic achievement\u003cbr\u003e • Superior proficiency in one or more domains (e.g., mathematics, performing arts, leadership)\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e As you can see, the emphasis is on the cognitive components of giftedness. While the cognitive components are certainly important to consider in discussing giftedness, too often there is a piece missing. Giftedness is not merely as giftedness does or as giftedness thinks. Instead, giftedness is as it thinks as well as feels, senses, perceives, and does.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e The Gifted Adult explores the psychology and personality of gifted adults—the most underidentified group of potential achievers in our society. Regrettably, too often in our society those who would most readily be identified as “smart” are most at odds with making their intelligence work for them. Quite often it works against gifted adults, preventing them from producing the kind of products that traditionally are the markers of giftedness. One possible explanation for this discrepancy is that we place a great deal of emphasis on educating gifted children. We understand that gifted children operate differently from those in the mainstream. As a result, we try to accommodate these differences among children by providing them with special programs and enrichment activities. However, even in the best school districts these programs are often inadequate and make the fundamental mistake of using only standard measures such as IQ as a basis for admission.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e Programs for the talented and gifted are a relatively recent phenomenon. As a mother of three very different gifted children, as a former educator and advocate for gifted education, I can attest to the benefits and deficits of these programs. However, despite the varying quality of such programs and their methods of identifying students, they stand head and shoulders above earlier efforts to educate gifted children, since specialized programs simply did not exist. From firsthand experience, I know that many gifted “programs” consisted primarily of removing the “smart” kids from the classroom and giving them busywork or enlisting their aid as tutors for the “slow” kids.\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e If we accept the notion that some children are gifted, then we have to account for what happens to these children when they grow up. After all, it’s not as though these former children slough off their giftedness like discarded skin at the age of sixteen or eighteen or twenty-one. Gifted children do grow up, and they become gifted adults. It seems like an obvious comment to make, yet little is written about giftedness and how it applies to adults. So instead of asking if gifted adults exist, we might be better served by asking questions like the following: How many gifted adults are there? What are they doing with their lives? What do we know about how they function in society? What do they have to do to be successful and fully use their abilities? These are all important questions, and it is this initial line of inquiry that led me to more fully investigate the concept of giftedness as it applies to adults.\u003cbr\u003e  ","brand":"Ballantine Books","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":46303670698213,"sku":"NP9780345434920","price":20.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780345434920.jpg?v=1767739513","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/the-gifted-adult-isbn-9780345434920","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}