She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

"She Comes First is quite simply the best guide to oral sex out there." —AskMen.com

The essential guidebook to oral sex, She Comes First offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women

As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." But in the pages of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved, and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner—sex therapist and evangelist of the female orgasm—oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay, and is simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again.

Fun and informative, She Comes First is an encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and ensuring mutual sexual fulfillment.

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay -- simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and illustrated step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how." |

“Men, while still lame, can no longer hide behind the old excuse of ignorance when it comes to pleasuring a woman—the facts are all here in this complete guide.” - Dr. Drew Pinsky, co-host of Loveline

“An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!” - Playgirl

“Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they’re not satisfied.” - Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City

“Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon.” - Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine

“Here comes a book that puts men in their places - smack dab in between women’s legs!” - Cake

“In a town where everyone wants go down in history remembered for something, Ian Kerner wants to go down as the champion of going down.” - New York magazine

“Is it too late to nominate Kerner for some sort of Nobel prize?” - Blogcritics.com

“The title says it all. This is always my first recommendation for any guy who has found female sexuality a mystery, because it gives very specific, useful tips for the female anatomy. Trust me, reading this book will definitely change how you view sex and brush you up on your cliteracy.” - Emily Morse, Sex with Emily podcast

“Perhaps it’s time we paid more than lip service to the idea of true sexual liberation, and perhaps She Comes First is just the sort of talking point we need to get us started. ” - The Guardian

“This book has an incredible amount of detailed, useful information about pleasuring women. I kind of knew I was doing everything wrong, but now I know why. Thanks Ian!” - Time magazine

“She Comes First is quite simply the best guide to oral sex out there." - AskMen.com

“This book has an incredible amount of detailed, useful information about pleasuring women. I kind of knew I was doing everything wrong, but now I know why. Thanks Ian!” - Joel Stein

“The sex manual getting the most attention these days is SHE COMES FIRST: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner... With a cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform, he encourages men through an act that many find mystifying.” - New York Times Sunday Book Review

"The man who made oral sex into an art form." - Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and author of Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love and the Sensual Years

“If you’re at all confused about how to use your tongue or fingers to make a woman come, consider reading the unparalleled work of genius She Comes First by Ian Kerner. The advice is extremely practical and hands on—he will literally walk you through every step of the way, with things like the Jackson Pollock lick and the Elvis Presley snarl.” - GQ

“Move over, Casanova. Step aside, Don Juan. Out of the way Mr. Big. Meet Ian Kerner, the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.” - New York Post

“With a cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform, [Ian Kerner] encourages men through an act that many find mystifying.” - New York Times