{"product_id":"mean-girls-grown-up-isbn-9780470168752","title":"Mean Girls Grown Up","description":"Almost every woman has experienced bullying. Whether her role was that of victim, aggressor, or bystander, the pain of relational aggression (female bullying) lasts long after the incident has passed. \u003ci\u003eIn Mean Girls Grown Up\u003c\/i\u003e, Cheryl Dellasega explores why women are often their own worst enemies, offering practical advice for a variety of situations. Drawing upon extensive research and interviews, she shares real-life stories from women as well as the knowledge of experts who have helped women overcome the negative effects of aggression. Readers will hear how adult women can be just as vicious as their younger counterparts, learn strategies for dealing with adult bullies, how to avoid being involved in relational aggression, and more. Dellasega outlines how women can change their behavior successfully by shifting away from aggression and embracing a spirit of cooperation in interactions with others. \u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments ix\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eIntroduction 1\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART ONE Relational Aggression 201: The Who,What, and Why of RA 5\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 All Grown Up and Ready to Sting: Adult Female Aggression 7\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 Why Women Aren’t More Like Men 20\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Big Bullies and Other Aggressive Types: The Queen Bee 32\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 From Mild to Bad and In Between: The Middle Bee 42\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Blindsided, Backstabbed, and Bruised: The Afraid-to-Bee 54\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 Weapons of Choice 67\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART TWO Our Own Worst Enemies: Aggression at Work, at Home, and at Play 79\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e7 Women at Work 81\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e8 Sharing Space: Ages and Stages of Aggression 97\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e9 Forced to Be Family: The Good, the Bad, and the Very Ugly of Female In-Laws 108\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e10 Mrs. Popularity and the Mom Clique 119\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e11 Relational Aggression Where You Least Expect It 130\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePART THREE Recognize, Revise, and Internalize: Changing the RA Way of Life 145\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e12 Who Are You in the Bee Dynamic?: A Relational Aggression Assessment 147\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e13 Healing Residual Relation Aggression: Overcoming the Past 162\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e14 The Power of Forgiveness 172\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e15 The Won’t Bee 184\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e16 A New Relational You 197\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e17 Don’t Stop with Yourself 214\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAPPENDIX A\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eCommunication That Counts: Connecting through Words 227\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAPPENDIX B\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eTalking to Yourself in Ways That Help 231\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAPPENDIX C\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNetiquette Tips 233\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAPPENDIX D\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eMentoring Resources 235\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eReferences 237\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 240\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eCHERYL DELLASEGA, PH.D.,\u003c\/b\u003e is a professor in the College of Medicine and the Department of Humanities at Pennsylvania State University. She is the author of \u003ci\u003eForced to Be Family,\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eSurviving Ophelia, Girl Wars,\u003c\/i\u003e and\u003ci\u003e The Starving Family\u003c\/i\u003e.\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\"Dr. Dellasega enlightens us about the sources of women's aggression toward each other, and she provides us with extremely valuable tools for how to overcome our various roles in the hierarchy and learn more constructive and compassionate means to relate to other women.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—Debra Mandel,\u003c\/b\u003e Ph.D., psychologist and author of \u003ci\u003eHealing the Sensitive Heart\u003c\/i\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\"Dellasega offers strategies for us to protect ourselves from the sting of adult Queen Bees and their minions. . . . Practice the advice in this helpful book and all women win.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—Marla Paul,\u003c\/b\u003e author of \u003ci\u003eThe Friendship Crisis\u003c\/i\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\"There is no longer an excuse for tolerating the sting of Queen Bees and their enablers. . . . This is an insightful, practical guide to recognizing and responding to the Queen Bee syndrome.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e—Diana J. Mason,\u003c\/b\u003e R.N., Ph.D., Editor in Chief of the \u003ci\u003e American Journal of Nursing\u003c\/i\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAt one time or another, almost every woman has been involved in bullying. Whether her role was that of victim, aggressor, or bystander, the pain of relational aggression (female bullying) lasts long after the incident has passed. For those who get stuck in the mean girl role, the emotional warfare of high school can continue into adulthood. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eMean Girls Grown Up,\u003c\/i\u003e Cheryl Dellasega introduces you to the \"bees\" of grade school who, as adults, are still involved in the same hurtful dynamic: the Queen Bee, a bully who buzzes from place to place undermining and manipulating others; the Middle Bee, a go—between who spreads gossip or stands by as others do so; and the Afraid–to–Bee, who retreats into passivity and is a target for aggression. Drawing upon extensive research and interviews, Dellasega outlines how women can change their behavior successfully by shifting away from aggression and embracing a spirit of cooperation in interactions with others. Even if these behaviors have plagued you since adolescence, this book will help you let go of aggression or passivity, move on, and create relationships that are healthier and happier for you and the women around you.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Wiley","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47989592129765,"sku":"NP9780470168752","price":14.95,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780470168752.jpg?v=1761784728","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/mean-girls-grown-up-isbn-9780470168752","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}