{"product_id":"how-can-i-forgive-you-the-courage-to-forgive-the-freedom-not-to-isbn-9780063219069","title":"How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e“If you are struggling with issues of betrayal—or the challenge of whether and how to forgive—here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.”—Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of \u003ci\u003eThe Dance of Anger\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eEveryone is struggling with how to forgive someone: an unfaithful partner, an alcoholic parent, an ungrateful child, a terrorist. This award-winning book, recently updated with a new afterword by the author, provides a radical guide to healing from betrayal for hurt parties—without forgiving, as well as a way for offenders to earn genuine forgiveness.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn the complex psychology of forgiveness, we’ve been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring, a gifted clinical psychologist and award-winning author of \u003ci\u003eAfter the Affair,\u003c\/i\u003e proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for earning genuine forgiveness and rebuilding trust—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBeautifully written and filled with insight, practical advice, and poignant case studies, this bold and healing book is essential self-help for relationships, offering step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhen is forgiveness cheap?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eCan I heal myself – without forgiving?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow can the offender earn forgiveness?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWhat makes for a good apology?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e | \u003cp\u003e“This book is a treasure—practical, authentic, illuminating, and wise. It’s like a breath of fresh air that puts forgiveness in a new and revealing light and provides clear steps to turn wounds into wisdom.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eJoan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind and Inner Peace for Busy People\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Clear, insightful . . . a thoughtful exposition on the nuanced role of forgiveness in relationships that goes beyond the average self-help book.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Spring really shines. . . . Armed with her insights, offenders and those they’ve offended have hope of recovery.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eBellingham Herald\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A fresh and original approach to an ancient challenge. A clinically informed personal guide for the offender and the offended. \u003cem\u003eHow Can I Forgive You?\u003c\/em\u003e should be read by us all.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eHarville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“If you are struggling with issues of betrayal—or the challenge of whether and how to forgive—here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eHarriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Finally a book has been written that teaches couples how to make genuine forgiveness a reality without rushing toward a superficial peace. This book can help couples construct a marriage that never existed before, one based on deep understanding and trust.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eJohn Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Relationship Cure\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“This book is a treasure trove for anyone who has ever felt betrayed or hurt in a personal relationship. Dr. Spring cuts through all the clichés surrounding forgiveness and views it within a broad spectrum of common relationships—mother-daughter, father-son, student-teacher, husband-wife. We owe her a debt of gratitude for this enlightened and penetrating view of a universal human dilemma.” - \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003ePeggy Papp, author of Couples on the Fault Line: New Directions for Therapists\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Harper Paperbacks","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":44889679757541,"sku":"NP9780063219069","price":17.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9780063219069.jpg?v=1730231735","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/how-can-i-forgive-you-the-courage-to-forgive-the-freedom-not-to-isbn-9780063219069","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}