{"product_id":"finding-the-words-isbn-9781394187140","title":"Finding the Words","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eBoost your confidence in supporting the mental health of all students\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEducators can’t always fix or change students’ challenging situations, but with Dr. Hayley Watson's \u003ci\u003eFinding the Words\u003c\/i\u003e, they can create compassionate, safe spaces to truly make a difference to student wellbeing. As educators, we are in a position where we can help students break out of cycles of anxiety, low mood, and peer struggles, without needing to be a mental health expert. This book shows you how to support students with issues like parental loss, low body image, bullying, addiction, and more—with practical language that you can use anytime you are on-the-spot with a struggling student. This language helps you set boundaries to protect your own wellbeing, by guiding your students towards self-reliance and resilience. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eFinding the Words\u003c\/i\u003e, author and clinical psychologist Hayley Watson offers practical advice with a personal, self-reflective, and relatable tone. In each chapter, you’ll explore the topics students struggle with most, including hot-button issues like consent and prejudice. You’ll learn how to talk to kids about these issues in a way that helps them make positive changes in their lives. With this book, you will feel like you have a psychologist on hand to support you in those moments when you know your response could mean the world to a struggling student. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e \u003cli\u003eUnderstand the common issues your students face—anxiety, low body image, acting out, and beyond\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eRead first-person accounts from youth ages 5-19, showing how appropriate responses can nurture and support students through any challenge they face \u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eGain specific, practical techniques and takeaways to use right away in your interactions with students\u003c\/li\u003e \u003cli\u003eLearn the most effective language to use when you are on-the-spot with a struggling student\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis is a critical resource for school leaders, teacher leaders, classroom teachers and school staff. Any adults who work with youth can benefit from this insightful, expert advice on how to help in the moments when your students need you most. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments xv\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIntroduction xvii\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 1 understanding student mental health 1\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eShadow qualities and the true self 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSection 1 rejecting\/acceptance (remembering love) 11\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 2 finding the words with students who are in rejecting behavior patterns 13\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help students who are rejecting? 15\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 3 encouraging students who are disengaged from school 17\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students disengage from school? 17\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is disengaged from school? 18\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is disengaged from school? 18\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 4 supporting students who face abuse and domestic violence 25\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy does abuse and domestic violence impact students? 25\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has faced abuse or domestic violence? 26\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003echapter 5 coaching students who bully or are aggressive\/violent 33\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students act with aggression or bully others? 33\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is being aggressive or bullying others? 34\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been aggressive or bullied others? 34\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 6 helping gender diverse students feel included 41\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do many students with gender diversity struggle so much? 41\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is gender diverse and struggling to feel accepted? 42\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will i have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with their experience of gender? 42\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSection 2 controlling\/spontaneity (remembering safety) 49\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 7 finding the words with students who are in controlling behavior patterns 51\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help students who are controlling? 52\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 8 supporting students who are worried, anxious, or stressed 55\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students experience worries, anxiety, and stress? 55\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is experiencing worries, anxiety, or stress? 56\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 9 guiding students away from peer rivalry 61\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students get into rivalries with peers and siblings? 61\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in a rivalry with a peer or sibling? 62\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 10 talking to students about unhealthy eating habits 69\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students have disordered eating? 69\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who has disordered eating? 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have constructive conversation with a student who has disordered eating? 70\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSection 3 avoiding\/openness (remembering courage) 79\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 11 finding the words with students who are in avoiding behavior patterns 81\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help students who are avoiding? 82\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 12 supporting students who self-harm 85\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students self-harm? 85\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is self-harming? 86\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is self-harming? 86\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 13 helping students who people-please 95\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students develop people-pleasing behaviors? 95\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is people-pleasing? 96\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is people-pleasing? 96\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 14 encouraging students who are depressed or apathetic 103\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students get depressed and become apathetic? 103\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is depressed or apathetic? 104\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 15 guiding students who are caught in addictive patterns 119\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students become addicted? 119\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is in an addictive pattern? 120\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 16 communicating with students who have faced loss 129\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students struggle to cope with loss\/grief? 129\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is struggling with grief? 130\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is grieving? 130\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSection 4 following\/leadership (remembering identity) 141\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 17 finding the words with students who are in following behavior patterns 143\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help students who are following? 144\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 18 supporting students who are negatively impacted by gender norms 147\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy are gender norms impacting students? 147\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is impacted by gender norms? 148\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student about gender norms? 148\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 19 guiding students to make healthy choices on social media 155\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy is social media impacting students? 155\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is impacted by social media? 156\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student about social media? 156\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 20 supporting students with low body image 163\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy does body image impact students? 163\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student with low body image? 164\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student about body image? 164\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 21 helping students stand up to peer pressure 171\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy does peer pressure impact students? 171\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is impacted by peer pressure? 172\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student about peer pressure? 172\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 22 supporting students who are bullied 179\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy does being bullied impact students? 179\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is being bullied? 180\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student about being bullied? 180\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 23 guiding students who violate consent 185\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy do students violate consent? 185\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who has violated consent? 186\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student about consent violations? 186\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 24 helping students who face prejudice 193\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy are students impacted by prejudice? 193\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by prejudice? 194\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eSection 5 repeating\/freedom (remembering clarity) 201\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 25 finding the words with students who are in repeating behavior patterns 203\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help students who are repeating? 204\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 26 minimizing the influence of pornography and “rape culture” 207\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy are students impacted by pornography and why does “rape culture” exist? 207\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is impacted by pornography and involved in “rape culture”? 208\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is impacted by pornography and participating in “rape culture”? 208\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 27 supporting students who experience intergenerational trauma 215\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy are students impacted by intergenerational trauma? 215\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has experienced intergenerational trauma? 216\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 28 helping students cope with being objectified 223\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy are students impacted by objectification? 223\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who has experienced objectification? 224\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who has been objectified? 224\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 29 responding to students who share stories of parental conflict and separation 229\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhy are students impacted by parental conflict and separation? 229\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eWhat can I do to help a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eHow will I have a constructive conversation with a student who is struggling with parental conflict or separation? 230\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 30 what’s next? 237\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eAbout the author 239\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 241\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eDr. Hayley Watson\u003c\/b\u003e is a clinical psychologist specializing in children and adolescents and the founder of Open Parachute, a video-based school mental health program using documentary stories of real students sharing their experiences of overcoming struggle. The platform reaches more than half a million students and educators worldwide.   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Always leading with the heart, Dr. Watson makes us stronger and wiser through this practical and accessible guidance. In this guide, educators can find comfort in knowing that there are answers to hard questions as they navigate challenges with students as we learn and grow together.” \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003ci\u003e— Maura Papile, L.I.C.S.W., Senior Director of Student Support Services, Quincy Public Schools\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWe can’t take away kids’ struggles, but we can help them rise above\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs educators, we know that many of our students are struggling, but we often don’t know what we can do to help. \u003ci\u003eFinding the Words\u003c\/i\u003e by Dr. Hayley Watson, a leading expert in youth mental health, offers a way forward with practical advice and techniques for talking to students about issues like consent, bullying, parental separation, gender norms, and anxiety. Most of us entered teaching out of a genuine desire to help children flourish. When we gain the skills to empower them and support their mental health, we can help them discover their own internal resources for thriving — even when they face many issues we never had to face ourselves. In to-the-point, conversational style, you’ll learn why and how each issue impacts youth, what you can do to help, and an example conversation to show you exactly how to implement these techniques. With \u003ci\u003eFinding the Words\u003c\/i\u003e, educators will feel like they have a psychologist on hand to help students navigate common issues and help students access their power.   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\"Avoiding theory and jargon, Dr. Hayley Watson's \u003ci\u003eFinding the Words \u003c\/i\u003eis a hands-on resource for teachers and other caring adults who hope to address young people's mental health issues proactively, responsively, and responsibly. From her deep experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Watson presents a practical framework for understanding common problems young people are facing—and then illustrates it with sample conversations that offer constructive strategies to support young people in overcoming these obstacles. Using highly accessible language, she encourages us to act on everyday opportunities to have a positive impact on young people who are experiencing mental health challenges.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Sheldon Berman, Ed.D., \u003c\/b\u003eLead Superintendent for Social-Emotional Learning, AASA, The School Superintendents Association\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"\u003ci\u003eFinding the Words \u003c\/i\u003eserves as a trusted colleague for educators, offering guidance and examples crucial for supporting students in their moments of struggle. This reliable companion empowers educators to authentically connect with students, equipping them with the words needed to navigate challenging situations and foster meaningful understanding.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Liz Hill,\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003eM.Ed.,\u003c\/b\u003e Assistant Superintendent, West Vancouver Schools, Canada\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Dr. Watson's kind and open heart in the pages of this educator's guide make it possible to reach and connect with students and heal ourselves. Having strength, courage, and knowledge in all our approaches even when challenged by a student's behavior is our own healing. Always leading with the heart, Dr. Watson makes us stronger and wiser through practical and accessible guidance. In this guide, educators can find comfort in knowing that there are answers to hard questions as they navigate challenges with students as we learn and grow together.\"”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Maura Papile, L.I.C.S.W.,\u003c\/b\u003e Senior Director of Student Support Services, Quincy Public Schools\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"The book beautifully encapsulates the idea that as educators, our role goes far beyond imparting knowledge; we are also responsible for nurturing the emotional well-being of our students. Dr. Watson highlights the crucial steps in self-reflection that can help students confront their inner needs and find their true selves. By making space for this self-discovery, educators can profoundly impact a student's personal growth. Every educator or supporter of education can benefit from this book.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Scott Frauenheim, \u003c\/b\u003ePresident and Chief Executive Officer, Distinctive Schools\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"\u003ci\u003eFinding the Words\u003c\/i\u003e is more than just a book – it's a call to action, empowering educators to engage in transformative conversations with young people facing significant challenges in their lives. Dr. Watson skillfully uses real life scenarios to demonstrate the application of a six-part process designed to boost mental health resilience among youth. At the heart of this approach is the value placed on deep, meaningful conversations between young people and supportive adults, providing the context for nurturing the insights and skills youths need to help them navigate adversity.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Jenny Williams,\u003c\/b\u003e Educational Consultant and Developer of http:\/\/wellbeingbc.ca\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Dr. Hayley has a deep, authentic passion to help students’ mental health journey and for educators to be equipped with the tools to help do and say the right thing in the moment. I believe this book will be the toolkit educators need to help students navigate some of their hardest years of mental health. Dr Hayley’s wisdom, intellect and genuine care for humans comes through in the words of this book. She breaks down the seemly overwhelming subject of mental health and gives educators the confidence and the language to meet students where they are at. It gives constructive and practical examples of real-life interviews with students for teachers to draw on to prepare for the tough conversations.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Jules Sebastian,\u003c\/b\u003e Founder of The Sebastian Foundation\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Jossey-Bass","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47989213823205,"sku":"NP9781394187140","price":30.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1842\/7735\/files\/9781394187140.jpg?v=1761783233","url":"https:\/\/k12savings.com\/es\/products\/finding-the-words-isbn-9781394187140","provider":"K12savings","version":"1.0","type":"link"}