{"product_id":"breaking-through-gridlock-isbn-9781626568952","title":"Breaking Through Gridlock","description":"\u003cb\u003e“A field manual for change agents on how to build bridges across differences and move from talk to action.” —Adam Grant, #1 \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e-bestselling author\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThink about the last time you tried to talk with someone who didn’t already agree with you about issues that matter most. How well did it go?\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eThese conversations are vital, but too often get stuck. They become contentious or we avoid them because we fear they might. What if, in these difficult conversations, we could stay true to ourselves while enriching relationships and creating powerful pathways forward? What if our divergent values provided healthy fuel for dialogue and innovation instead of gridlock and polarization? \u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003eJason Jay and Gabriel Grant invite us into a spirit of serious play, laughing at ourselves while moving from self-reflection to action. Using enlightening exercises and rich examples, \u003ci\u003eBreaking Through Gridlock\u003c\/i\u003e helps us become aware of the role we unwittingly play in getting conversations stuck. It empowers us to share what really matters—with anyone, anywhere—so that together we can create positive change in our families, organizations, communities, and society.\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e“Our country’s future depends on our ability to reach beyond our echo chambers. Jay and Grant guide us through starting the conversations so crucial to our democracy.” —Van Jones, \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e-bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eThe Green Collar Economy\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e“We need the creativity that can be harnessed from competing perspectives to craft a thriving organization and a thriving society. This book gives people the tools to take that on.” —John Mackey, CEO, Whole Foods Market\u003c\/b\u003eContents \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Exercises  \u003cb\u003ex \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Figures  \u003cb\u003exi \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Tables  \u003cb\u003exii \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Foreword  \u003cb\u003exiii \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Preface: How this book came to be \u003cb\u003exvii \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Our journey xix\u2028\u003cbr\u003e A note on our language xxii \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Introduction: How to use this book \u003cb\u003e1 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Serious play 2\u2028\u003cbr\u003e A note on the exercises 4\u003cbr\u003e \u2028Introduction summary 7 \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 1 How We Get Stuck: Breakdowns in conversation 9 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The power of conversation 10 \u003cbr\u003e \u2028Start where you are 15\u003cbr\u003e \u2028Focus on real, live conversations 17 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Power plays can’t help you strengthen relationships 21 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Framing breaks down in unfamiliar and polarized situations 22\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Start with authenticity 26 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e What’s possible 27 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 1 summary 28 \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 2 (In)Authenticity: The key to getting unstuck 29 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Consistency with the past can lead to getting stuck 30 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Dynamic authenticity is aligned with the future 31 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Dynamic authenticity is a team sport 36 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 2 summary 39 \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 3 Know What You Bring: The hidden baggage of conversations 41 \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Our way of being is tied with our background conversation 43\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Our ways of being are shared 46\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Uncover your background conversations 51 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Ways of being can be tricky to see 55\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Is being in the eye of the beholder? 58 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Being and inauthenticity 59\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 3 summary 60 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e4 Locate the Bait: What we gain when conversations lose 61 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e You got yourself stuck 65\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Pitfalls: Background conversations that get us stuck 67\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Identifying the bait helps you get unstuck 74\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Bait usually involves right, righteous, certain, and safe 76 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Map out your pitfall 78\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 4 summary 81 \u2028\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e5 Dare to Share: Moving past the talking points\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e83 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Connect with internal motivations 86\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Express what you really want 96\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Embody your new way of being 104 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 5 summary 108 \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 6 Start Talking: Bringing conversations back to life \u003c\/b\u003e \u003cb\u003e109 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e The power of apology 113\u003cbr\u003e \u2028You will encounter a variety of responses 122\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Results require action, and action requires commitment 123 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 6 summary 127 \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 7 Embrace the Tension: How our differences can make a difference 129 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Clarify values 131\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Own the polarization 135\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Expand the landscape 142\u003cbr\u003e \u2028Dance in the new terrain 149\u003cbr\u003e \u2028Chapter 7 summary 151 \u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 8 Widen the Circle: Building inclusive movements 153 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Shared inquiry is required to change the collective conversation 156\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Each social movement has core tensions and pitfalls 157\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Realist-visionary tensions are present in all social movements 160\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Movements can have collective bait and pitfalls 164\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Find the possibility at the heart of our movements 170 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e We have only just begun to discover the pathways forward 178\u2028\u003cbr\u003e Chapter 8 summary 184 \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Notes \u003cb\u003e187 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Bibliography \u003cb\u003e195 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Acknowledgments \u003cb\u003e201 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Index \u003cb\u003e205 \u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e About the Authors \u003cb\u003e215 \u003cbr\u003e Exercises \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 1 Where do you want to break through gridlock 3\u003cbr\u003e 2 Identify stuck conversations 18\u003cbr\u003e 3 What does authenticity mean to you? 29\u003cbr\u003e 4 What does authenticity mean to you? (ont) 34\u003cbr\u003e 5 Choose a buddy 37\u003cbr\u003e 6 Our unspoken background conversation 52\u003cbr\u003e 7 identify your ways of being 54\u003cbr\u003e 8 The Spoken conversation 52\u003cbr\u003e 9 The cost of being stuck 67\u003cbr\u003e 10 Recognize pitfall 73\u003cbr\u003e 11 Identify the bait in the trap 78\u003cbr\u003e 12 Map the pitfall 79\u003cbr\u003e 13 why is your endeavor important to you? 87\u003cbr\u003e 14 Notice what motivations you're sharing or not sharing 93\u003cbr\u003e 15 envision what you really want 97\u003cbr\u003e 16 create a new way of being 99\u003cbr\u003e 17 guided meditation 100\u003cbr\u003e 18 reframe the problem 106\u003cbr\u003e 19 build a new conversation 112\u003cbr\u003e 20 write a letter 121\u003cbr\u003e 21 conversation commitment 124\u003cbr\u003e 22 your values, their values 134\u003cbr\u003e 23 your values, their values 142\u003cbr\u003e 24 go beyond a one-dimensional conversation 147\u003cbr\u003e 25 brainstorm ideas that break trade-offs between values and objectives 149\u003cbr\u003e 26 Core tensions in your movement  163\u003cbr\u003e 27 locate the collective bait 169\u003cbr\u003e 28 envision the future together 172\u003cbr\u003e 29 transform the central conversation of your movement 175\u003cbr\u003e 30 create pathways for yourself and your movement 180\u003cbr\u003e 31 commit to action 182\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Figures \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 1 our way of being gives rise to what we do and the results we have 44\u003cbr\u003e 2 ways of being when people are stuck 48\u003cbr\u003e 3 new ways of being created by our workshops participants 102\u003cbr\u003e 4 spheres of care 133\u003cbr\u003e 5 trade-offs between parts and wholes 136\u003cbr\u003e 6 when we perceive a fundamental trade-off between values, the best we can imagine is compromising one for the other 137\u003cbr\u003e 7 a on-dimensional conversation in the corporate and investing world 143\u003cbr\u003e 8 a common mental model of the trade-offs between performance and impact 145\u003cbr\u003e 9 breaking trade-offs through innovation 146\u003cbr\u003e 10 competing objectives 147\u003cbr\u003e 11 compromise or innovation? 148\u003cbr\u003e 12 ways of being expressed inside a positive future 173\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Tables \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e 1 statistic authenticity versus dynamic authenticity 33\u003cbr\u003e 2 thirty most frequently mentioned traits of a \"typical\" environmentalist 50\u003cbr\u003e 3 a few common pitfalls 68\u003cbr\u003e 4 elements of wholehearted and effective apologias 114\u003cbr\u003e 5 examples of people's acknowledgments of the pitfalls they have created 117\u003cbr\u003e 6 pathways forward 179\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/b\u003e“A field manual for change agents on how to build bridges across differences and move from talk to action.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Adam Grant, Professor of Management, The Wharton School, and New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “This book is not for the fainthearted, but if you truly want to change the world, it gives us the tools and the inspiration to do so.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Gwen Ruta, Senior Vice President, Climate and Energy, Environmental Defense Fund\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Our country’s future depends on our ability to reach beyond our echo chambers. Jay and Grant guide us through starting the conversations so crucial to our democracy.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Van Jones, cofounder and President, The Dream Corps; CNN contributor; and author\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “We need the creativity that can be harnessed from competing perspectives to craft a thriving organization and a thriving society. This book gives people the tools to take that on.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—John Mackey, CEO, Whole Foods Market\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Jason Jay and Gabriel Grant single out authenticity as the key to breaking through the conversational gridlock that afflicts so many of our public and private interactions. They highlight the traps we fall into, as well as promising pathways for working our way out of them. It won’t be easy, but you can use the exercises they offer to practice sidestepping the polarizing moves we make without even being aware of what we are doing.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Lawrence Susskind, founder of the Consensus Building Institute; Ford Professor of Urban and Environmental Planning, MIT; and Vice Chair, Program on Negotiation, Harvard Law School\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e “Whether you're hoping to shift your company, your community, or even yourself, Jay and Grant have produced an accessible and practical guide that will make you chuckle with recognition—then motivate you to get to work.”\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Christine Bader, author of The Evolution of a Corporate Idealist\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"In this savvy and highly practical book, Gabriel Grant and Jason Jay offer a way forward for groups that get stuck in seemingly hopeless, zero-sum conflicts. It should be required reading not only for corporate offices but also for congregations who preach unity and peace, but don’t always know how best to achieve them. And in a period of real polarization and deep division in our national culture, this is a book for our time.\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e The Most Rev. Michael B. Curry, XXVII Presiding Bishop of The Episcopal Church\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Conversations are the most important leverage point for leaders and change makers. Jason Jay and Gabriel Grant offer critical insights and tools that will help you craft better conversations and thus a better world.\"\u003cbr\u003e —\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e Otto Scharmer, Founder, Presencing Institute, and author of Theory U and Leading from The Emerging Future\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003eJason J. 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