Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear

The mother of a bullied first grader, popular blogger Carrie Goldman’s inspiring true story triggered an outpouring of support from online communities around the world. In Bullied, she gives us a guide to the crucial lessons and actionable guidance she’s learned about how to stop bullying before it starts. It is a book born from Goldman’s post about the ridicule her daughter suffered for bringing a Star Wars thermos to school—a story that went viral on Facebook and Twitter before exploding everywhere, from CNN.com and Yahoo.com to sites all around the world. Written in Goldman’s warm, engaging style, Bullied is an important and very necessary read for parents, educators, self-professed “Girl Geeks,” or anyone who has ever felt victimized by a bully, online or in person.

Bullied has been recognized with Gold Awards at the 2013 National Parenting Publications Awards and the 2013 Mom's Choice Awards.

Combining a mother's heartfelt journey with extensive research, this vital guide provides actionable strategies to:

• Ending the Cycle of Fear: Delve into the psychology behind bullying, from the gender stereotypes that label Star Wars as "for boys" to the dynamics that turn playgrounds into battlegrounds.
• Social and Emotional Learning: Discover practical, evidence-based tools to foster empathy, resilience, and respect in children from preschool through high school.
• From Cyberbullying to Cybersupporting: Learn how to address online harassment and transform digital communities into sources of positive support, turning the tide on cruelty.
• A Parent & Teacher Toolkit: Move beyond theory with scripts, conversation starters, and clear steps to take when you suspect a child is being bullied—or is the one doing the bullying.
• Restorative Justice: Explore powerful methods for healing and reconciliation that focus on repairing harm and rebuilding relationships, rather than on punishment alone.

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Winner of National Parenting Publications Award and Mom's Choice Award!

Everybody knows how it feels to be ostracized, isolated or taunted, but most of us are at a loss when it comes to knowing how to make it better. In Carrie Goldman's groundbreaking book, Bullied, she offers concrete solutions for parents, teachers, and kids on how to effectively respond to painful situations—whether it is normal social conflict or more serious bullying.

Goldman's warm, engaging style combines the real-life stories of bullies, victims, bystanders, and their parents with the most cutting edge scientific research to provide a thorough analysis of cruelty in our culture. She explores how the pop culture permeates homes and schools, often impacting the way kids view those who are different from the accepted norm.

Bullied comprehensively addresses issues such as:

• The media's influence on aggression and bullying
• How to prevent cyberbullying, or how to manage cyberbullying once it has begun
• How to safely shift from being a bystander into a witness or an ally
• Effects of bullying on the brain, both for bullies and for victims
• Steps to take with the school if you are being bullied or sexually harassed
• A comprehensive look at restorative justice as a non-punitive response to bullying
• Techniques to help you deal with verbal taunting in the moment it is happening
• Identifying the difference between normal social drama and bullying
• Knowing when to ask for help and how to access effective help

The mother of a bullied first grader, Goldman's inspiring true story triggered an outpouring of support from online communities around the world. Bullied is a research-based book born from Goldman's blog post about the ridicule her daughter suffered for bringing a Star Wars thermos to school—a story that went viral on Facebook and Twitter before exploding everywhere, from CNN.com and Yahoo.com to sites all around the world. More than 200 people were interviewed for the book, including parents, teachers, kids, social workers, authors, celebrities, researchers, psychologists, actors, actresses, and school administrators. It is a wealth of knowledge packaged in a fascinating read.

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“Bullied is an excellent how-to guide for addressing bullying and creating a culture of acceptance and respect. I can’t recommend this book enough to parents and educators.”

- Michele Borba, Ed.D. Educational psychologist, and author of Building Moral Intelligence: The Seven Essential Virtues that teach Kids to do the Right Thing

“Bullied is an excellent how-to guide for addressing bullying and creating a culture of acceptance and respect. I can’t recommend this book enough to parents and educators.”

- Trudy Ludwig, Children's Advocate & Best-selling Author of Confessions of a Former Bully

“With children returning to school, Goldman’s book lands at a time when bullying is front and center in parents’ minds. It also comes in an era when the connection between gender norms and bullying is getting increased scrutiny from parents, educators and activists, prompting more direct action instead of just talk.” - CNN

“This incredible book could substitute as a tutorial for both parents and children on how to view themselves, the world, and the way we interact with each other. A truly eye opening read that I guarantee will change your whole outlook and perspective on everything you thought you knew about bullying!”

- Max Adler, who plays the bully character, Dave Karofsky, on Glee

“Through a woven tapestry of expert interviews, true stories and reflections on her own family’s experience, Carrie Goldman shows us what each of us must do, when faced with bullying in our own back yard. We - parents, teachers, students, and more - must find the courage to stand up and ask deep and probing questions that: engage us in a new dialogue, enable acts of compassion, and empower us to be active citizens.”

- Brenda Morrison, Restorative Justice expert

“Carrie Goldman has written a compelling, well-organized book providing a depth of knowledge about a national crisis and deftly showing how people working together in schools and communities can eradicate bullying.” - New York Journal of Books

“Bullying is a complex problem and to truly understand it you need comprehensive information and concrete solutions. Goldman’s Bullied does just that. This book will be an invaluable resource to help you make sense of how bullying happens and what to do about it.”

- Rosalind Wiseman, bestselling author of Queen Bees and Wannabes

“A well-researched guide to combating bullying…This book is a must-read for parents with children of any gender. Valuable support, resources and concrete actions for safely navigating the social wilderness of adolescence.”

- Kirkus

“This is an important book on an important subject. We are glad to see such a broad and considered approach taken on the complex subject of bullying.”

- Ben Cohen, MBE, Chairman, Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation

“Bullied is a captivating blend of stories, research and guidance. Goldman’s odyssey as a blogger mom at the epicenter makes her a powerful voice for positive change. Her insights make this a comprehensive and indispensable bullying prevention resource.”

- Judy S. Freedman, M.S.W., L.C.S.W., author of Easing the Teasing-Helping Your Child Cope with Name-Calling, Ridicule, and Verbal Bullying