Beyond Emotional Intelligence

Discover the hidden inner workings of your mind so you can break unhelpful habits and set yourself on the path to achieving your full potential.

Beyond Emotional Intelligence reveals how our ingrained mental tendencies can either help or hinder us, depending on how conscious we are of their influence over our lives. Whether we seek to set and achieve our desired outcomes, improve our relationships, or live in alignment with what we value most, we need emotional intelligence (EI) to identify and overcome the mental patterns that may be keeping us stuck. In this book, you’ll embark on 12 Self-Discoveries that will help you get to know yourself, so you can stop getting in your own way. You’ll learn how, with practice, you can retrain your mind to develop new thought patterns that will serve you better as you work toward your life’s aspirations.

Each of the 12 Self-Discoveries offers unique clues and insights into who we are and why we do what we do. They function as an internal barometer for our triggers, emotional patterns, and mental habits. Ultimately, they provide a clear path to uncover and work with our habits of mind and patterns of action and reaction, giving us the possibility to exercise our own agency at key moments in our lives. Beyond Emotional Intelligence presents the 12 Self-Discoveries framework which provides you with a solid foundation from which you can begin to grow.

• Discover how your hidden thought patterns are influencing your life and your relationships with others
• Build Emotional Intelligence as you learn to recognize your reactions, perceptions, and value systems
• Use the highly regarded 12 Self-Discoveries model to identify your mental roadblocks and remove them with new habits of mind
• Learn proven methods for influencing your outcomes, de-cluttering your mind, and shift your own awareness

This book will be your guide as you embark on a rigorous process of self-discovery as you learn to embrace your inner wisdom and take control of your results.

Preface

Introduction: Out of Sight, Out of Mind

Chapter 1: The Evolution of Emotional Intelligence

Chapter 2: An Introduction to the 12 Self-Discoveries

Chapter 3: What We Have Influence Over

Chapter 4: You Are the Common Denominator

Chapter 5: You Don’t Have to Believe Everything You Think

Chapter 6: Your Focus Becomes Your Reality

Chapter 7: What Are You Building Evidence For?

Chapter 8: Happiness is a State of Mind

Chapter 9: Mantras, Metaphors, and Maps

Chapter 10: Cultivating Emotionally Intelligent Habits of Mind

Chapter 11: Reimagining Emotional Intelligence

Notes

Acknowledgments

About the Author

Index

Passionate about helping businesses become agents of world benefit and the leaders who lead them more emotionally intelligent, S. MICHELE NEVAREZ helps people connect with what they intrinsically have influence over within themselves; namely, their own awareness and capacity for conscious sense-making as a means of bringing about positive change in themselves and the world we live in.
As CEO of Beyond EI, helping companies and people embody their inner wisdom, Michele brings a 25-year-long career working in business as an executive and leadership coach to bear on her work with clients.
A founding member of Rangjung Yeshe Institute in Kathmandu, Nepal, Michele has practiced Tibetan Buddhism for the past 29 years. She presently serves on the boards of two dharma retreat centers, Gomde UK and Tara Mandala, and two non-profit organizations, Shedrub Development Fund and Dharma House International.

In Beyond Emotional Intelligence, renowned educator and leadership expert S. Michele Nevarez delivers a powerful guide to building ingrained mental habits to help us achieve desired outcomes, improve our relationships, and live in alignment with our values. You’ll discover how to use the author’s 12 Self-Discoveries to get to know yourself and stop getting in your own way. You’ll retrain your mind to develop new patterns of thought and behavior that will serve you better as you achieve your life goals.

The 12 Self-Discoveries discussed in the book provide clues and insights into who we are and what motivates our decisions and behaviors. Functioning as an internal barometer for our emotional and mental habits, they provide a clear path to uncover and work with our cognitive patterns and tendencies of action and reaction. They also unlock the possibility of exercising our own agency at key moments in our lives.

Beyond Emotional Intelligence will help you discover how concealed thought patterns are influencing your life, relationships, and goals, and how you can build emotional intelligence by recognizing your reactions and perceptions for what they are: changeable. You’ll find proven methods for influencing your outcomes, decluttering your mind, and shifting your own awareness to a more positive, productive place.

The author offers a solid foundation from which you can begin to build mental habits that will serve you, your family, your colleagues, and your friends as you work together to achieve your goals. Beyond Emotional Intelligence is the perfect guide for anyone interested in self-discovery and growth.

Uncover hidden mental patterns that are holding you back and create new habits to help you achieve your goals

Beyond Emotional Intelligence shows you how to discard the concealed patterns and behaviors that keep you from achieving your life’s most important goals and replace them with new habits that will empower and enrich your life.

"Michele Nevarez has done it! Her years of study and personal experience have come together in a beautiful way to deliver Beyond Emotional Intelligence. This is a book that melds intellect with humanity and provides a framework for truly understanding mind-based habits facilitating an existence with lifees most valuable riches."
—Kim Ades, President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching and The Journal That Talks Back

"Finally, a book that focuses on developing the inner landscape and habits that have profound impact on the quality of our life experience. Brilliant, insightful and actionable practices to take living to the next level through leveraging the power of your mind and the abilities you hold within to shape your everyday experience."
—Carla Reeves,Mindset Coach and Host of the podcast, Differently

"Beyond Emotional Intelligence takes the imperative yet intellectual subject of emotional intelligence and makes it as accessible as having a conversation about your most favorite ideas. This book creates a pathway for a generation of thinkers, doers and dreamers from all walks of life to understand themselves and those around them better. To me, it is a must-read."
—Deepak Ramola, Founder and Artistic Director of Project FUEL

“Know thyself was thought to be one of the three aphorisms written on the forecourt of the temple of Apollo at Delphi in Ancient Greece. In her book Beyond Emotional Intelligence: A Guide to Accessing Your Full Potential, Michele Nevarez shares life changing maxims which have the power to increase our self-awareness and our ability to grow as human beings. As physician and teacher, I had the privilege to benefit from the mentoring and coaching expertise of Michele Nevarez. Her generosity and wisdom are infinite. The 12-self-discoveries presented in the book greatly enhance our capacity to enjoy the present moment and will benefit the relationship we develop with others. By positively influencing our emotional state, this groundbreaking book may deepen our ability to make choices in our lives that carry meaning and bring values to us and to others.”
—Carle Paul, MD, PhD, Professor of Dermatology and Venereology, Toulouse University, France

“Michele’s insightful book provides us with the spark “La Chispa” to go beyond what is currently known as Emotional Intelligence. The 12 discoveries are inspiring, informative, based on sound science and above all practical. This is the book we have been waiting for, not only to further our understanding, but to change our habits of mind and improve ourselves to the core.”
—Tony Saccardi, Emotional Intelligence Coach

“If one is struggling with making sense of what is true or what is his perception and own sabotage, if one wants to ignite his self-agency and empower himself by creating new habits, and finally, if one likes literary philosophical texts that have a direct and distinct personal voice as if a friend is sharing his knowledge and expertise then I invite you to read Beyond Emotional Intelligence: A Guide to Accessing Your Full Potential.
Michele Nevarez has created a guide to achieving self-knowledge and if I might say mastering your mind and emotions: I felt I had a personal coach helping me face my short-sightedness in my interpretation of things and showing me the way to my hidden abilities. One thing is sure: I will be re-reading this book and consulting it nonstop as it is full of tons of helpful tips and insights applicable in all areas of my life!”
—Dr. Trakatelli Myrto Georgia, Associate Professor of Dermatology and Venerology, Aristotle University of Thessaloniki, Greece, and mom of a teenage daughter